Posted on 08/08/2011 9:53:38 AM PDT by Irishguy
Hi Freepers,
i need you to help with 2 things. my mum was hit by a car this morning and suffered severe head injuries, she is on life support and they will not operate due to the extent of her injuries. if you could include her in your prayers i would really appreciate it..
my second request for help. Our 6 year old son was very attached to his granny. he looks to visit her twice a week and was there yesterday with her. Does anyone know how i can let him know and when? also as she is still in the hospital should i let him see her to help him understand (keep in hind she has a ton of equipment with her keeping her alive)? any help greatfully received
FReeper PRayer BUmp!
All our prayers and hope for your Mother and family.
I think you will find a way to tell your son.
Your explantion in here is a start. simple is best 6 y o’s are very perceptive so don’t wait too long
Don't let him have that memory. Let him keep that last good memory of "a kiss and a hug" from Grandma.
Signed, A Grandma
Prayers for your mom..
Prayers for God’s blessings on all.
Was you Mum a pedestrian or in another car?
Has your son ever lost a pet or something else very close to him? This is a tough, tough situation and it is hard to know what to do given the individual differences in kids and situations. Some kids, especially that young, can get very upset by the site of a loved one attached to all that medical equipment. Others handle it just fine. The clues which you give off, both verbal and non-verbal, can make a big difference in which way he goes.
Do you have a mutually trusted friend or clergyman who might be able to explain things better than you can? Maybe your Dad, if he's up to it? These are all things which you need to take into consideration. Good luck and prayers up!
will start praying now.
Oh too bad. We’ll pray. Can you take your son to see her and you could pray there together? It might be really healing for him to be able to do something.
pedestrian on her way to church this morning....
really appreciate the prayers and i am sure it will help
and thanks to all who have responded...it helps more then you know...apologies for the rush, but if he was to see her, it has to be in the next hour or so....
Go immediately to the hospital social worker. Ask them your questions, and ask them to be there with you when you tell your son. They will advise whether to take him to the hospital, or at home. Maybe they will refer you to Hospice and those people are very informed about helping loved ones deal with a dying relative. Don’t wait.
I’m so sorry. Prayers for your mom, you and all your family.
Prayers of comfort, guidance and strength going up.
I'm sorry this happened, Irishguy.
Not sure I’d take him to the hospital room. She wouldn’t want him to see her like that, probably. Maybe you could take a picture of the room, or you holding her hand in yours, but omitting anything too gruesome.
Also, you can pray with your child that she will either get better, or that God will gently call her home. Our family also prays for the medical professionals and caregivers, that God will help them do their best work.
My brother died when my children were little. They were much more at ease with the thought of him being in Heaven and continuing to be their friend than adults were.
Praying God’s love and peace made real for all of you and His highest will be done. Praying for wisdom in all matters for all concerned, including the doctors. Special hugs for your little boy. Our Lord will take care of him in this hard time.
I couldn’t agree more. However things work out, it would be much better to let his memories be happy and loving. Prayers to you and your family.
...I watched my wife die. Will never fully recover. Tell your grandson. Try to keep the faith, FRiend...
i really want to say thanks for the help so far...i really appreciate it and its why ye are the best people in the world....thanks for all your answers
Think very carefully before taking him to the room...what will his last memory of her be ?
I hope this is not the outcome and I wish your family the very best results.
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