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1 posted on 08/08/2011 9:53:39 AM PDT by Irishguy
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FReeper PRayer BUmp!


2 posted on 08/08/2011 9:55:23 AM PDT by IllumiNaughtyByNature ($1.84 - The price of a gallon of gas on Jan. 20th, 2009.)
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All our prayers and hope for your Mother and family.
I think you will find a way to tell your son.
Your explantion in here is a start. simple is best 6 y o’s are very perceptive so don’t wait too long


3 posted on 08/08/2011 9:59:46 AM PDT by RWGinger
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I saw my mom dying. It was awful.

Don't let him have that memory. Let him keep that last good memory of "a kiss and a hug" from Grandma.

Signed, A Grandma

4 posted on 08/08/2011 10:00:15 AM PDT by Sacajaweau
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Prayers for your mom..


5 posted on 08/08/2011 10:00:28 AM PDT by Tamatoa (Fight for our America, Fight for our Country I fought to defend!!!)
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Prayers for God’s blessings on all.


6 posted on 08/08/2011 10:03:29 AM PDT by ex-snook ("Above all things, truth beareth away the victory")
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Very sorry for your most unfortunate situation. God can pull off miracles and we can pray that He does. He can also limit suffering when a miracle is not possible or appropriate.

Was you Mum a pedestrian or in another car?

Has your son ever lost a pet or something else very close to him? This is a tough, tough situation and it is hard to know what to do given the individual differences in kids and situations. Some kids, especially that young, can get very upset by the site of a loved one attached to all that medical equipment. Others handle it just fine. The clues which you give off, both verbal and non-verbal, can make a big difference in which way he goes.

Do you have a mutually trusted friend or clergyman who might be able to explain things better than you can? Maybe your Dad, if he's up to it? These are all things which you need to take into consideration. Good luck and prayers up!

7 posted on 08/08/2011 10:04:14 AM PDT by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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will start praying now.


8 posted on 08/08/2011 10:04:33 AM PDT by MNDude (so that's what they meant by Carter's second term)
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Oh too bad. We’ll pray. Can you take your son to see her and you could pray there together? It might be really healing for him to be able to do something.


9 posted on 08/08/2011 10:08:14 AM PDT by bboop (Stealth Tutor)
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Go immediately to the hospital social worker. Ask them your questions, and ask them to be there with you when you tell your son. They will advise whether to take him to the hospital, or at home. Maybe they will refer you to Hospice and those people are very informed about helping loved ones deal with a dying relative. Don’t wait.


11 posted on 08/08/2011 10:10:51 AM PDT by CitizenM (He who is silent is understood to consent)
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I’m so sorry. Prayers for your mom, you and all your family.


12 posted on 08/08/2011 10:11:40 AM PDT by lysie
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Hospitals don't usually allow children in to see patients, so there is your excuse to not allow him to see her. Otherwise, be truthful but not graphic. Have your son hand draw a get well card that you can deliver. At least he will know that he did something. If your mom doesn't make it, assemble for your son as many photos and memories as possible in a "memory book."

I'm sorry this happened, Irishguy.

14 posted on 08/08/2011 10:14:07 AM PDT by Excellence ( CTRL-GALT-DELETE)
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Not sure I’d take him to the hospital room. She wouldn’t want him to see her like that, probably. Maybe you could take a picture of the room, or you holding her hand in yours, but omitting anything too gruesome.

Also, you can pray with your child that she will either get better, or that God will gently call her home. Our family also prays for the medical professionals and caregivers, that God will help them do their best work.

My brother died when my children were little. They were much more at ease with the thought of him being in Heaven and continuing to be their friend than adults were.


15 posted on 08/08/2011 10:14:29 AM PDT by married21 (As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.)
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...I watched my wife die. Will never fully recover. Tell your grandson. Try to keep the faith, FRiend...


18 posted on 08/08/2011 10:17:12 AM PDT by gargoyle (...This looks like a good fight, deal me in...)
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i really want to say thanks for the help so far...i really appreciate it and its why ye are the best people in the world....thanks for all your answers


19 posted on 08/08/2011 10:17:37 AM PDT by Irishguy
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Think very carefully before taking him to the room...what will his last memory of her be ?

I hope this is not the outcome and I wish your family the very best results.


20 posted on 08/08/2011 10:20:00 AM PDT by 3D-JOY
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Prayers for you and your family.

Went through something similar. My son, 4 at the time, had never seen his grandmother. Just a week before our visit she became seriously ill and was in the hospital. On our last day there I let him in to see her. It was the best thing I had ever done. I am glad that she got the chance to see him because she passed away a month later.

A six year old probably doesn’t understand all the stuff that will be going on around her. In my mind it would be better to tell him what happened and let him remember her for what she was. I don’t think I would want my son to remember her in the hospital - just focus on the life they had together.

As for the wake, if she passes, we didn’t let our sons go to the wake of my father-in-law. Just didn’t think it would be a positive for them.


21 posted on 08/08/2011 10:20:56 AM PDT by raybbr (People who still support Obama are either a Marxist or a moron.)
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Praying for a miracle.


22 posted on 08/08/2011 10:25:00 AM PDT by kitkat ( Obama: Rope and Chains)
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Prayers for your whole family, Irishguy.

As for your son, I’d tell him straight out what happened and then take him to see her.


23 posted on 08/08/2011 10:25:51 AM PDT by upsdriver (to undo the damage the "intellectual elites" have done. . . . . Sarah Palin for President!)
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Prayers for you and your family. My brother died when my daughter was that age. You know your child, but they know something is wrong as soon as it happens. Blessings


24 posted on 08/08/2011 10:26:05 AM PDT by call meVeronica
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Prayers for a full, complete recovery of your Mom.


25 posted on 08/08/2011 10:27:26 AM PDT by LdSentinal
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