Sorry my wife didn't have a "spontaneous abortion". She had a miscarriage.
Yes I know I can't do anything about it, and doesn't really matter what the paperwork says. I just wanted to vent.
Maybe it's just me.
Been through that myself many times, you have my condolences.
I’m so sorry about your loss.
I’m very sorry about your loss, and it’s definitely an unpleasant term to see.
so sorry :(
Been through it twice. Hate the term. I am so sorry for your loss.
Medicine tends to conflate abortion with miscarriage, when they have a differrent predictive effect on pregnancy outcome and psychosocial issues - at least if either has occured more than twice. You might want to prepare your wife for the GTPAL score that she may see at a later OB-GYN visit - gestations, term births, pre-term births, abortions (spontaneous and induced), living children.
Again, I am very sorry. Men and women tend to grieve differently in these matters. Be ready for that.
I know this term is a medical diagnosis, but perhaps you could gently communicate to the dr's office how that term was offensive to you and your wife.
Having worked in the field for a long time I assure you that that's the "medicalese" term for a miscarriage.I don't know when this term was first used by doctors...before or after legalized abortion.
The thing that always got me was that abortions were referred to as a "therapeutic abortion"...abbreviated "TAB".
Hopefully you and your wife will recover from this tragedy.
I am sorry for your loss.
There’s emotion wrapped around that word/term, that’s for sure. It is a clinical term obviously, but it’s been so highly charged with religious/philosophical/political debate, that it’s hard to separate the clinical word from the debate surrounding it. We tend to burn words out especially when they’re emotionally charged. For example, think of how many words describing disabilities have been swapped out for new ones over the years when the negative connotations become too burdensome.
My condolences. My wife had several.
But WE never got pregnant. Only her.
“Spontaneous abortion” is the medical term.
I know. We’ve been through three in the last two years.
My condolence on your loss.
I trust your doctor meant no harm, for billing/medical/legal purposes it is the term which they have to use.
What I find abhorrent is the term for the willfull killing of a living baby, that is called a therapeutic abortion.
You’re not alone in finding it offensive. Years ago, and I mean 24 years ago...I had a miscarriage. Ended up in the ER and they kept referring to me as the “abortion” in bed such and such. It bothered me so much I asked them to quit using the term. They were patronizing explaining that it was what was medically termed a “spontaneous abortion” and I told them I didn’t care, I didn’t want to hear the word again.
Very sorry to hear it, all the best to you and your family.
And yes, the doctor’s language is offensive in the extreme.
My condolences on your loss.
I changed dentists after a visit shortly following the loss of a tubal pregnancy. He used the word “aborted” to finish MY sentence for me. I never walked back in there.
My wife and I have had 2 miscarriages. Y’all have my prayers.
i am so sorry for your loss. i miscarried my second pregnancy 4 yrs ago and i still think about the what ifs. i agree that the term is offensive, unfortunately it is correct medical terminology.
Personally I have taken years to get over it, no matter how much I tried to let her know it was not her fault,she blamed herself and it broke us up.
Pray hard and be understanding.
We will be praying for you.
My heart goes out to you and your family. So sorry for the loss of your baby.
mrs