Posted on 08/17/2008 10:20:46 AM PDT by Daffynition
Some people just shouldn’t have children. ;(
I was appalled and couldn't understand why such a nasty, petulant, whiney, spoiled brat type obit was even published.
"Honor thy father and thy mother" was obviously foreign to him, and his father had never hit him, ran around on his mother, or any other terrible thing. Junior was well fed, given a very expensive education, but that wasn't enough. He literally kicked the corpse of his father.
I think you have to experience it to really understand it. While I don't think a blistering obit accomplishes anything. The bad parent is just a dead bad parent. I do understand the motivation & the passion behind it though. But again, it doesn't change it.
And actually no, food & expensive educations are not enough. Not by a long shot. Some corpses deserve kicking. Trying to move past the crap the not so dearly departed inflicted on those around them is not always easy.
Unfortunately that’s true.
Dayum!
About the only thing missing is the C word!
I can see writing something like that for therapy, but to go ahead and post it just makes the poster look bad.
That's won good reason to honor them anyway. Some people come out of abuse ok, some come out with the scars on the inside, and some have them right were nobody can get away from them. We have to detach sometimes to protect ourselves, but somebody made her that way, like a dog that's kept chained, hungry, and taunted. BTW, that's the part that's often hardest to see while they're alive. It's only after they're gone that you can step back and see the totality of the person. The person that wrote that obit probably never saw her mother as anyone other than mean ol' mommy. She never thought of her as a goofy kid getting pushed down by her brother or whipped by her dad.
A close friend used to be a pastor of a small town church in Arkansas.
When a woman (not in his church) died, he was asked by the children to perform the funeral.
While working on it, he asked the children to give him a list of her accomplishments and “good works”.
By the end of the day, all they were able to come up with was “She liked to do crossword puzzles”.
Sad...
On a personal note, my mother told us (siblings and I) that when she dies, she wants us to have a party, toast her and say “the b*tch is finally dead.”
I dunno...I’m kinda torn.
Wow! Simply fantastic make-up job.
Fulfill her wishes. You could always have private service later.
Great find ES ... unfortunate for the family to have a mother like that, but I can understand ‘legacy.com’’s wanting to keep their site controversy free.
When my husband’s aunt died, there were tons of words from the funeral director who didn’t know her. Apparently, the children (ages 45-60) couldn’t come up with much good about her so he kind of winged it, talking about the wonderful helpmate and mother she’d been. Everyone was kind of..’huh? okaaaay’.
Sad, I thought. I told my family that when I die, I want a celebration of my life, no dark colors but bright purple and red and yellow and blue, tons of gorgeous bright flowers, my favorite songs and poems, lots of nutty photographs and nothing but laughter, good memories, lots of talk and good food.
Mrs Weya has agreed to give me a send-off in a pyre in the NW corner of our property.
This after they take any parts of me that are still any good to anyone else.
With all the painkillers, muscle relaxants, and anti-inflammatory stuff (arthritis in the spine and most of the other joints), there won’t be much to work with, but if it’ll help someone, use it...I won’t need it.
The OP?
Wow...I mean, I’ve burned some bridges and all, but I hope no one rememebers me like that.
A side note about my mother (and her request). There were a lot of times I needed her, and she wasn’t around, but the time she took us away from an abusive father makes up for all the f***-ups she ever had.
(Note, I’m not feeling sorry for myself, but my mother was a high school drop-out, with 5 (ages 8-16) kids, that left an abusive husband back in 1968. She might not have done right all the time, but she had bigger guts than a lot of folks.)
Was this a news broadcast or something. I never heard of rogue waves until this happened to our family? Thanks for the comment.
Was this a news broadcast or something. I never heard of rogue waves until this happened to our family? Thanks for the comment.
Yes, the Obit is real.
It sounds like your mother’s effort paid off.
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Was this a news broadcast or something. I never heard of rogue waves
until this happened to our family?
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I can’t recollect the exact year, but I suspect it was some where in
the time frame of 1995-2000.
I think there was one fellow swept out to sea by a rogue wave tall
enough to sweep over a breakwater and carry him away.
And I think I saw a video of a rogue wave that hit the shore somewhere
in Northern California. I don’t recall if anyone perished due to
that one.
As I’ve said, it has made me more cautious on trips to the ocean shore!
The History Channel has a one-hour special on rogue waves a couple of
years ago (link below). Even though it was produced as a tie-in with
the re-make of “The Poseidon Adventure”, it was a good documentary
and covered the general disbelief in rogue waves (at sea) until recent
film/photo evidence arose. IIRC, there are now plans to monitor the
appearance of rogue waves via satellite surveillance.
A number of ships damaged or lost is included in the Wikipedia article
(second link below).
Nature is wonderful...but not always.
Rogue Waves (History Channel)
http://store.aetv.com/html/product/index.jhtml?id=76081
Rogue Waves (Wikipedia)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rogue_wave
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