Posted on 08/17/2008 10:20:46 AM PDT by Daffynition
Dolores Aguilar 1929 - Aug. 7, 2008
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.
She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.
Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.
There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
Wow! Buffalo Butt? It sounds like the whole family are “devoted animal lovers” when the animals are on a sesame seed bun. LOL!
I have severe, lifelong issues with my mother, and I doubt I’ll be overly disturbed by her passing. That said, I will attend her funeral, and I will be polite, and I will keep my thoughts to myself. I’m at peace with my childhood and see no value in publicly digging up a painful past.
I had an aunt like that. I can well believe it.
My husband teases me because I like to explore cemeteries and seem to know more about people who have died. It’s only because no one really tells the stories in someone’s life until after they die. I like people’s stories.
BTW: I have counted 42 offspring from my great grandmother (had 14 children, 12 that lived past five).
I know. I know.
And for people in such a fix hearing the usual praise heaped upon the departed, who inflicted on them scars and wounds which will pain and crippled them for the rest of their lives is like having a knife twisted in their guts.
So, I don't approve. It's far mo' better to avoid speaking ill of the dead and to do at least superficial honor for one's mother and father. I don't approve, but I surely understand.
That is a wonderful find! Thanks so much dighton! “... she knew there was a problem.”
Life imitating art. ;)
LOL!
She must have had at least one redeeming quality.
She's no longer making people's lives a living h*ll?
LOL!
Same here. I am almost always polite to my mother, but will not allow her to be manipulative any more. Case in point: Last year on the way to my nephews wedding reception she threw a typical crying fit and said she was so upset she just couldn't go to the reception. I told her that this was to honor my nephew not her and that she could sit in the car if she wanted to. She didn't. But I still attended her 90's birthday party in January. My father, god rest his soul, always said "The good die young".
My brother and I collected odd obits when we were young. We had a Harry Weiner who died locally, followed by the death of Harry Beaver a few weeks later.
It’s the same thing as when I would have to pick out a card for Mother’s Day and none of them was fitting. But, if no services, almost kinder to take the high road and say nothing this publicly.
This obituary is classless, tasteless, and an ill-advised treatise; probably a psychobabbler’s remedy for a dysfunctional family’s “healing”. But..........I laughed and laughed and then I HAD to read the guestbook entries and laughed some more. GREAT STUFF!
Used to have a person in a data based I managed name Harry Balls. He is now deceased.
It’s hard sometimes, isn’t it? You’re right, taking control is the only way to deal with someone like that.
Hey wait just a minute, my mother in law’s name wasn’t Dolores! (I am not joking here)
My MIL was a strange and difficult person and everything was always ALL about her. She would be medicated if she was still here.
Honey, I didn’t know we were married. ;)
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