I have severe, lifelong issues with my mother, and I doubt I’ll be overly disturbed by her passing. That said, I will attend her funeral, and I will be polite, and I will keep my thoughts to myself. I’m at peace with my childhood and see no value in publicly digging up a painful past.
Same here. I am almost always polite to my mother, but will not allow her to be manipulative any more. Case in point: Last year on the way to my nephews wedding reception she threw a typical crying fit and said she was so upset she just couldn't go to the reception. I told her that this was to honor my nephew not her and that she could sit in the car if she wanted to. She didn't. But I still attended her 90's birthday party in January. My father, god rest his soul, always said "The good die young".
My wife’s mother is not doing so well right now. Since I’m an in-law I keep my thoughts to myself, but my wife and brother-in-law have made it very well known that when she does pass there will be a sigh of relief throughout the whole family when it happens.
Since I have seen the physical scars my wife bears to this day I hope she dresses casual and comfortable when she meets St. Peter, it will be the last time she will ever be comfortable again IMHO.
Some people’s only redeeming quality in life are their offspring, and usually you have to sit back and wonder how they turned out so well considering what they had to overcome.