[Millee]

My advice would be: Dear Mr. Neighbor,

You sound like a psycho/stalker in your letter. Hopefully, the 23-year-old floosy realizes this & moves away.

[Millee]

Yiikes ping..

[Dashing Dasher]

I like your advice better.

I would probably add more to it - like, "you sick freak" and maybe a nudge to seek professional help - but, that's just me.


DD

[peacebaby]

Dr. Mr. Neighbor:

Take my advice:
Never, ever - give it to her on the first date, kiddo.
Wam bam, thank you sir.

Sincerely,

Peacebaby
(trust me; I ought to know)

[Maximus of Texas]

Millee, I told you not to post my personal emails in this forum!

[martin_fierro]

I'm 40

Here's someone he can date. E a s y.

[Jersey Republican Biker Chick]

Um, it is just my opinion, but it sounds like she had way more than one beer.

When she woke up in his bed, she was freaked since the beer goggles had worn off and she ran.

She was probably embarrassed that she had done something or someone while drunk and stupid again.

[Jersey Republican Biker Chick]

Advice on dating PING!!

[LongElegantLegs]

It's never a good idea to screw around with people that live in your apartment building. You can't politely avoid them, they see you bring other guys over...They start leaving mutilated dogs on your porch, and you wonder why your blender smells like almonds...
Just a bad plan.

[Always Right]

I'm 40, the cute girl from upstairs is 23. When she stopped by to commiserate about loud neighbors, we had a beer, went dancing, and then had sex. Afterward, she seemed weird and left abruptly.

Dear Mr. Neighbor, perhaps you should respond to one of those winnie enlarging spam ads.

[HitmanLV]

I think his big mistake was overstating the significance of the dalliance and professing more love and emotional intimacy than she is used to.

The thing about episodes like this is that people usually act consistent with her normal behavior patterns. So my guess is that going out for a fun time and some casual sex is pretty much how she runs her life.

There is no suggestion that they drank too much (he said they had 'a beer'), so my feeling is that casual, uncommitted sex is something she is open to. His note raised the stakes and alienated her. Truthfully, it is a creepy note to give someone after some casual sex.

The odds of her coming back for another spin would have been much higher if he adopted an indifferent demeanor towards her, and if that manifested in his being insensitive, unnoticing, or even a bit mean to her.

Odds are then that she would see that the dalliance didn't mean much to him, and more aligned with her values and how she runs her life. The indifference creates a sexual tension, also, since that may be perceived in her mind as a tacit challenge: her arse wasn't that big a deal to him, not notably memorable and he is in no rush for a return ride.

Even people fairly casual with their sexual mores have a hard time coping with that. It's a shade of vanity.

[najida]

Dear Mr. 40 y/o,

Mebby the "I love you" from Daddy scared her off.

Date someone your own age twit.

Sincerely,
Cranky, the 8th Dwarf

[Valpal1]

Dear Neighbor,

The correct note should have read: "Thanks, last night was fun, have a great week!"

[SoothingDave]

I'm 40, the cute girl from upstairs is 23. When she stopped by to commiserate about loud neighbors, we had a beer, went dancing, and then had sex. Afterward, she seemed weird and left abruptly. I wrote her a note, "Sorry if I made you uncomfortable, but I love you and look forward to seeing you again." She hasn't looked at me since. Where did I go wrong? -- Mr. Neighbor

How is it that no one has raised the possibility that the sex was horrendously awful, and that's why she fled?

SD

[MadIvan]

The fellow writing the letter should have realised that this was not the best start to a serious romance. Caution was the order of the day. He decided instead to fling himself at her mercy. Bad choice.

Regards, Ivan

[wolfcreek]

Maybe the date-rape drug thing but, maybe she's just a "one roll and your out" type woman. Women are indeed strange creatures.

[Welsh Rabbit]

I wrote her a note, "Sorry if I made you uncomfortable, but I love you and look forward to seeing you again."

A forty year old virgin?

[dorathexplorer]