[HitmanLV]

I think his big mistake was overstating the significance of the dalliance and professing more love and emotional intimacy than she is used to.

The thing about episodes like this is that people usually act consistent with her normal behavior patterns. So my guess is that going out for a fun time and some casual sex is pretty much how she runs her life.

There is no suggestion that they drank too much (he said they had 'a beer'), so my feeling is that casual, uncommitted sex is something she is open to. His note raised the stakes and alienated her. Truthfully, it is a creepy note to give someone after some casual sex.

The odds of her coming back for another spin would have been much higher if he adopted an indifferent demeanor towards her, and if that manifested in his being insensitive, unnoticing, or even a bit mean to her.

Odds are then that she would see that the dalliance didn't mean much to him, and more aligned with her values and how she runs her life. The indifference creates a sexual tension, also, since that may be perceived in her mind as a tacit challenge: her arse wasn't that big a deal to him, not notably memorable and he is in no rush for a return ride.

Even people fairly casual with their sexual mores have a hard time coping with that. It's a shade of vanity.

[peacebaby]

are you a psychologist? psychiatrist? How mmuch do you charge?

[Mr. Jeeves]

I think his big mistake was overstating the significance of the dalliance and professing more love and emotional intimacy than she is used to.

Yep. Men have a bad habit of getting way too serious, way too fast. Especially in this case, where a 23-year-old would likely be freaked out by anything resembling relationship talk. The "I love you" line is best saved for much, much later.

[Dashing Dasher]

[wardaddy]

The odds of her coming back for another spin

A dozen or so tremblin soak the sheets toe bending orgasms might a helped too.

article sez she got weird before she left....she would likely have been all a cuddly if she had just had her bell rung right

casual semi stranger sex is always awkward in the morning....which is why most men...and apparently girls these days leave early.

but...back in my day....if I thought there was good relationship chance happening then morning was great....time for more fun.

I sure don't miss all that goofiness though......

last advice to 40 year old love lorn...."hey homeo, if a girl half year age puts the mojo on you for a beer.....be grateful and quit whining!"

damn ....so many meterosexuals ...so little time to cure them.

I should start a 12 step program for the emasculated.

[Goodgirlinred]

Just a tad bit on the crude side, Hitman. Why couldn't he have just said, "Let's go out and have some lunch?" That is not a commitment. It is just a friendly suggestion. No biggie. Just friends. No judgment on anyone's behavior. It takes two to tango. His morals are no better than hers. Double standards are not allowed.