Posted on 05/14/2017 3:45:35 PM PDT by BJ1
I hear the same story, told in different ways, all over New York City. There’s 34-year-old Kate, who works in finance downtown. “She’s beautiful, smart, talented . . . everything going for her,” her colleague tells me. “But her boyfriend doesn’t feel settled in his career, so she spent thousands of dollars to freeze her eggs as she waits for him to be ready.
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they’re afraid of the western divorce industry and rightfully so. Men have zero rights in family court. The mother almost always gets full custody and the dad gets stuck with a 18 to 21 year long indebted servitude.
But the instant you tell a woman that as a man, you expect her to have your kids, you are demonized as some kind of throwback cave man.
No joke, wifey and I are doing child-rearing in our 40s and 50s but for different reasons. She had a pituitary gland problem, so she had a high hormone level (prolactine, sp?) that made getting pregnant just about impossible. We were going childless and that’s how it was going to be. Then at age 43, guess who’s pregnant?! You never know what God is going to throw you, it’s all good. Ironically, that hormone level is totally normal to this day after getting pregnant, weird.
“wife them up”?
Maybe these “women” need to ditch the entitlement attitude.
It doesn’t matter which side of the political spectrum, there seems to be this notion that women only need to bring their boobs and vagina, and that alone should cause men to turn into brainless simps too legally bind themselves to them with no expectations on her part but an endless list of demands for him.
And yet, we are told that so many college educated career women, are unattached due to a “shortage” of men in their education/career/income categories.
We are told that women want to “marry up”, and be with a man who is older/more successful/makes more money than she does.
But the reverse doesn’t seem to be true. Does anyone ever say anything, if a college educated career man, marries a woman who works in a file clerk position, or is in a random hired help type job in an office or in a retail store?
While these are broad stereotypes, it seems that men have more choices. Men can marry someone who is their equal in education/career, etc. or they can marry down; marry someone with only a high school education or a clerical type job. But these college educated career women would never think of marrying a man who worked as hired help in an office in a “gopher” type of job, or hired help in construction/manual labor.
BINGO!
Childish men are the problem? NO, picking a freakin’ loser is the problem.
I can understand these fears that men have now. But just as women often marry the wrong kind of man for stupid reasons, men do it too.
I’ve known men to whom a prospective mate’s physical aspect was so paramount that they allowed this to cloud their minds, instead of dwelling more on character. Even after one divorce, some of them made the same mistake again, with the same results.
LOL.
Well, while I must admit, I am interested in the vagina, there are many other considerations in a relationship situation.
They are starting to.
My son is a trucker and soon to be police officer is involved with and will probable marry a gal who will have at least one masters and who makes at least 60K more than he does working a high level back room job.
He brings other things to the mix, his investments etc. But she is interested in him even though he is never going to play in her league in the employment area. She is wonderful and he is lucky to have her in his life. And she is lucky to have him, he loves her and will protect her forever.
And if need be, he will stay home with the four children they hope to have.
Of the couples I know in which both partners are still smiling 20+ years after getting married, many or most are American male + foreign female. Considering the low percentage of such marriages, I find that extraordinary.
A man who is considering marriage to anyone should understand that his real long-term marriage partner may turn out to be the family court judge who will rule his life after the divorce.
Quite a difference in comportment you could say.
Yes, Adam Sandler plays fictional characters but many men of today emulate his sloppy, overly casual style as well as his "overgrown kid" personality.
Don Draper is a fictional character but many men of that era looked exactly like that. When I look at pictures of my father during the 1960s, he pretty much had a shirt and tie on in every one of them and he looked serious!
Oh, sure. It’s always the fault of MEN. The fact that so many women today struggle with commitment (it’s not just women), put their career first, want to “experience life”, and give the milk away for free has N-O-T-H-I-N-G to do with it, right>
BS!
Men always take their signals FROM women. ALWAYS. If men are acting a certain way it is either because women want them to or it is a reaction against women. That’s always how it has been.
You’re lucky it was the leftist that got arrested. Now in Minneapolis you would be arrested for assaulting the leftist, who was merely exercising his right of political free expression.
Congratulations and God's blessings to you both!
Well, I would suggest that while she is an infantile egotist and not mother material by any stretch of the imagination she can still sell her eggs for money. She makes decent financial investments even if she is a shrewish harpy.
Well, to be fair, we don’t choose the age into which we are born. About 80% of the reason any individual is sexually moral has to do with the way things are when he or she comes of age. It’s the old what-came-first-the-chicken-or-the-egg question. In 1950, say, Shaker Heights, Ohio, there was an IMMEDIATE reward or punishment for a 15 year old girl for being sexually active. It’s not nearly as simple any more. Right and wrong are still right and wrong, but it would be inaccurate to claim people used to be “wiser†as teenagers than they are now. The support for moral behavior evaporated decades below. So, to laugh at thirtysomething women who grope in the darkness is as unfair as it is hardhearted. These same women would not be in these situations had they merely been born forty years earlier.
Like Kate, they "need" a man,, but they don't really want one. .
You notice in the story of Kate, love and relationship and attachment never are even given a nod. She wants a baby' and will put up with a man only as necessary to get one. If she loved her "boyfriend," she'd be married and have her kid by now.
The real problem is they are not marrying in the LORD.
The problem which career women face, is that THEY demand a man who is of higher status than themselves (though they might grudgingly settle for equal status). Men, on the other hand, are looking for a WIFE, someone who will be willing to keep him sexually satisfied and bear and help raise his children, and are willing to look at women of lower career status.
In other words, the only men the aging career women would be satisfied with, have better options than to marry THEM.
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