Posted on 05/11/2017 10:02:05 PM PDT by BJ1
At the end of the day, most men just want a woman who’s nice. “Nice,” to a man, means being soft, gentle and kind. It means asking your husband how his day was and really listening. It means doing something nice for him with no expectation of getting something in return—you know, the way you did when you were dating. But wait a minute, you say. Don’t women want the same thing? A man who’s nice? Not exactly. Most women do want a man who’s kind, but that’s not the same as nice. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy. That’s because just as most men are attracted to femininity, or softness, most women are attracted to masculinity. And masculinity is hard. Gruff. Take charge. So, where are you on the nice scale? If you’re not an inherently nice person, believe me I get it. I think I’m pretty nice, but that isn’t the first word one would think of to describe me. The truth is, I’ve had to exercise my nice muscle. Now Playing Author shares marriage advice for 'alpha females' Never autoplay videos I’ve had to learn how to be be nice. A lot of women think they’re nice because they act nice. But acting nice and being nice are two different things. Being nice means you think of others before you think about yourself. (And yes, there’s such thing as being too nice and putting your needs last; but I’m not talking about that.) It means you’re attune to the needs of others and incorporate those needs into the equation. Most husbands have no desire to lord over their wives....
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Don’t women want the same thing? A man who’s nice?An old adage: "Nice guys finish last"
Thanks for the ping.
It took me three times, but the third time was a charm.
My current wife of thirty years, restored my faith in women.
Amen! Even if you yourself don’t believe (perhaps more so) a Christian woman is to be prized above all others. To live as Christ directs is the easiest and best blueprint for ‘nice’ as defined in this article.
If that opinion makes me a bigot or a misogynist, so be it.
My son is married and my daughters are not. Yet.
However, I think it’s a far richer playing field for guys.
I know an awful lot of young single Christian girls who are quite good catches and they far outnumber the number of guys who are good catches, ones with integrity.
Nope, only married once, still am, to the same man through thick and thin.
It certainly hasn’t been easy but it’s the RIGHT thing to do.
And this instability and poor decision making is why just about every single culture that has ever existed strived to control their females.
The control of females and their capricious desires is a fundamental foundation of societies. All of them.
My brother was in a relationship like that.
He gave up visitation rights for no child support.
The psychob**** to this day, with their 30 year old son, is STILL trying to control the son. Told him to cut all contact with my brother, forcing him to chose between him and her.
They live many states apart and converse only by email, seeing each other maybe once every couple years, but that still isn’t good enough for PB.
He and the family as SO glad he took that route.
Start with The Rational Male.
Well that’s a whole lot of ASSuming going on.
Inflection doesn’t come across in words in print.
If you are reading that into it, I’d say it says more about you than me.
Eventually, yes.
You sound incredibly bitter. Sorry you’ve had bad experiences.
There are many good men and women out there. It’s sad when they don’t meet up with each other and become disillusioned with the opposite sex.
FWIW, yard work fixing things that break, working on cars are what are considered normal male chores around the house.
Just like men expect and don't seem to appreciate the work it takes to do the laundry, shop for the food, prepare the meals, clean up after them, etc. Expected by not appreciated.
See, it goes both ways.
Sad thing is that appreciation goes out the effin window. A little bit even goes a long way.
Oh, piff.
Perhaps the problems with Christian marriages is found in this, which interestingly I just posted yesterday.
Is This Popular View of Marriage Completely Unbiblical?
Oh really?
Then I’ll throw this out there. Men want crazy and not just hot.
No, women want alpha and not *bad boys*.
*Bad boys* are just alphas who never grew up.
I live here and experienced the dating scene. That statement could not be more accurate, except maybe add in a sense of self entitlement.
Men want to be loved and sex
Women want different things kind of
Yup, exactly. When we leave God out of anything it becomes a warped, twisted version of what he intended.
Much of what’s being discussed here is immature men and women trying to come together and build a life based on what they want as individuals. A true Christian marriage is two imperfect people growing together in their faith, working to serve God first and each other second.
It’s all about please self these days. No wonder the whole concept of marriage is questioned by the young these days.
“3. Bad boys - Super masculine, unstable, reckless, irresponsible, usually law breaking/dishonest, usually extremely flawed, violent or abusive.”
I had a conversation with a female coworker about this. She said women like “dangerous” men.
I asked her, “you mean ‘dangerous’ like the guy might kill them?”
She said, “yes.”
Women are nuts.
LOL no it doesn’t say anything about me. I’ve already given my point of you. Try rereading your post objectively, especially the one you sent me after this one. You sound extremely bitter. Maybe that’s just your personality. But I don’t think so because I’ve seen your post before. I think it is just this subject.
I appreciate everything my husband does. And I don’t feel unappreciated either. I don’t feel the need to point out everything I do so I can get a plus. I didn’t even mention it in my post, that you do feel the need to point out the female roles. I really Think those are the easier chores. And I am happy to do them.
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