The Official Weekend Singles Thread—July 28-30

OhioWfan, Kate of Spice Island, Maximus Ridiculousness

[iluvgeorgie]

Red as a lobster? Oww! Sounds like the water was a bit too hot.

[proud_yank]

I sometimes wonder if I'll ever figure women out. I want one who is outdoorsy, but not a rabid liberal. Unfortunately, the two often go together!!

I grew up in Iowa, and got used to the heat and humidity as well as one can. I always enjoyed winter, and went to school at Michigan Tech where we got lots of it! Now, I'm in Edmonton where it just gets really cold in the winters. Luckily, I've never had too much issue with it. Doing anything really exerting in hot weather I simply don't care for. If you don't mind me asking, what is it with the heat that bothers you?

My boa got to be about 5.5 feet, but I sold her to a friend before I moved. I should try to get a picture of her now, her markings were awesome and I imagine she is about 7' and filled out quite a bit. I don't know if I'll get another, I'd really like to get a dog sometime soon.

I'm going to head home, Have a great night

[pcottraux]

Yeah, I think the water was a bit too warm that night. But I still enjoyed it.

Okay, I really, really, REALLY hate to do this, but I'm going to have to sign out for the night. It's pretty late and I'm exhausted.

ilg, can I count on you dropping by a little more tomorrow? I know I speak for everyone when I say that we'd love to have you back, and by all means feel free to.

If there's anyone you want to get to know on this thread, it's Maximus_Ridiculousness. She the nicest person, maybe ever...DollyCali refers to her as the "sunshine of the thread." And the best part is, she'll put in a good word for me.

Okay, goodnight everyone! See you later!

[Maximus_Ridiculousness]

Ever?!?!?!?!! Awe shucks!!!!!!!

I don't know what to do with myself!

Gee, thanks Phil!

ILG, Phil's the nicest guy on Free Republic...ever! He's so much fun to talk to here!

Hope to see you both tomorrow! Time for me to hit the sack too.

Night!

[WFTR]

If you don't mind me asking, what is it with the heat that bothers you?

It was either the dizziness, the leg cramps, the chest pains, or some combination of the three. LOL It was probably just a bad day, but I don't know what happened. I've done other things in the heat since then that haven't been a problem, so I don't know what was wrong that day. I do know that it was the first time that I had to beach the boat and crawl out for a while to recover myself. I like to paddle alone, or more accurately, I don't like having to find someone every time I want to paddle. However, paddling alone requires that one have a great deal of self-confidence in one's ability to handle things. I've lost a bit of that self-confidence. That particular boat has never fit me all that well, and I'm thinking of changing boats to find one that might fit better. I think a better-fitting boat would lead to more endurance.

I know what you mean about the challenges of finding a woman who likes the outdoors but isn't liberal. Too often, "conservative" becomes synonymous with "conformist," those of us who are not "cookie cutter" conservatives don't fit very well.

Dogs are okay, but I've never wanted one of my own. The nice thing about snakes is that I can feed them and give them water, and they'll be okay on their own for a week. If I have to take a business trip, go on vacation, or go home to see my folks, I can set them up to be okay for a week without my help. I also like the fact that they don't bark and don't need to be let out at night to defecate.

Bill

[snugs]

Well, let me jump in. First off wen I say that "God will send the right one to me or me to her," I always took it where when I'm ready for such a thing, it will happen. Also, I know God will help but I will have to do my share of the leg work or even most of it. I think there are some things to where if God helps you, you have to help yourself as well and/or be willing to.

That was always my understanding as well, you had to be willing to see when the opportunities were there. If you were not ready or willing then God would close the door. As my mother used to say "God helps those who help themselves".

[snugs]

You never know who you may meet as such as thing !!

Congratulations on fixing the VCRs sounds like a productive evening to me.

I appreciate that someone who does this for a living may take a long time doing for themselves the last thing you often want to do is bring work home. As the saying goes "the cobblers children are often the worse shod".

[snugs]

Maybe this is another reason for lack of success with women - women love to share all.

If you bottle things up or feel that it is not appropriate to talk about things as you want to keep things light they will often think you building an emotional wall and do not want them to breach it.

Women then feel that the relationship can never be complete because they feel they cannot share if you are not willing to.

Just my thoughts but it is something to bear in mind as most women have this problem as some time in relationships with men as men are not known for wanting to be willing to share.

It is a macho thing with a lot of them - not saying it is with you but some think that they should be able to sort it out themselves and not burden the special lady in their lives but ultimately in most cases not doing so ruins the relationship.

[snugs]

How did the church discourage you from women seeing you at your best? I do not really follow this one.

The teaching I had from my church was that do not be anxious for a life partner but be willing to see when God is showing the way to go. This could be a job in another area or doing some sort of Christian work whether full or part time but be willing to do what you are called to do.

I saw many people who I thought would never marry do something like this and very shortly there after meet someone.

I also saw a couple of people return home after years away and again meet someone either from our church or another local church. So for them God wanted them to return home rather than venture out maybe they had left to escape something earlier or they could well have been following a calling from memory I believe that we had a few incidents of both.

What I am trying to say is that the teaching you received is not wrong but may not have been explained fully or maybe a lot of people interpreted it incorrectly so it was put forth as you did not need to do anything active but just "wait on the Lord" instead of what I would say is "listen to the Lord".

Let go of the anger and bad feeling and be willing to see opportunities in the future and be willing to talk this through. You may find that this is not the "person" but unburdening it face to face with someone will lead to "the person" or give you the peace to be content until this happens or otherwise.

[snugs]

My response is every time a plane takes off that does more damage to the environment than you can ever do - do you think they will be banned of course not big business has too much of an interest in this.

I do not advocate wasting the earth's resources and am one of those people who reluctantly throw anything out. If I had a bit more time I would also recycle more such as cans.

Also I have seen the destruction of small businesses through Kyoto regs, higher energy bills and more regulation either has put some out of business or reduced profit margins to where wage reviews etc are a thing of the past. Americans and Australians ought to be so grateful to their governments that they did not sign up to this.

IMHO science has never proved the hole in the ozone thing - how can we tell it has not always been there.

I think it was prudent to ban CFC gasses but to keep on and on about global warming is crazy. Yes we have had a very hot summer but in general talking to my dad and others of a similar age summers and spring were in general warmer when he was younger than now.

[snugs]

Right you like reptiles there must be plenty of women who do.

You say that you are not particularly looking for a Christian lady, why not look at joining a local club or organization which are into reptiles or snakes it may surprise you to find women there to.

As a women I have never held a snake - never had the opportunity but would love to but I am fascinated by them and always visit the reptile house at zoos and see plenty of women there to.

Many women handlers and feeders are apparent as well.

On the other hand my dad has a horror like his mother did of them both my mum and me did not.

Also do not think you have to be the macho successful type to get women to like you often women like a vulnerable man. What they really like is someone who is comfortable in their own skin whether this is the successful sporty type or the more vulnerable not so successful man but someone who can cope with this and does not feel they need to always be striving to look good.

[snugs]

There you have proved my point ladies do like them like your local breeder.

Maybe she know other female owners and can introduce you so you can maybe even start a club of your own. Not necessarily for romantic reasons but as friendship who knows where it may lead on all levels.

[snugs]

What comes over to me is that you have a lack of confidence and do not like asking others for help but would rather struggle on your own so end us looking even worse in a given situation.

IMHO you need to know when you need to ask for help. Women do not expect men to be able to do everything on their own and in fact appreciate someone who know when to admit they need help.

Relax and do not think you always need to be "on your game" when around women they will see through this very quickly and think you are false and just trying to get another conquest.

I may sound hard but it is said out of concern that you are always going to carry around a load of baggage and hurt if you do not break the destructive cycle you have bought into.

Hope some of my ramblings tonight/this morning have help.

Take care there are those of us here that care about you and want you to be able to feel content with where you are in life right now as until you can do that IMHO you cannot move on to the next chapter of your life whatever that holds.

[DollyCali]

May your Lord’s Day:

~~ Sound Like a magnificent Symphony
~~ Appear as a sun soaked rainbow
~~ Feel like a refreshing breeze
~~ Taste like a 4-star feast
~~ Smell like a fragrant rose

~~ And be a blessing to YOU and to those you love.

And God said,” It is not good for man to be alone….” Genesis….





People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. .

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. .

They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. .

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.! .

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. .

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime. And I thank God for permitting us to find each other. .

DollyCali

[The Mayor]

July 30, 2006

I.O.N.U.

READ: Deuteronomy 10:17-22

Love the stranger, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt. —Deuteronomy 10:19

Sometimes the Christian life boils down to the uncommon expression of common virtues. For example, you would expect that people indwelt by the Spirit of love would be friendly. What a difference practicing that virtue would make in society!

Tim Sanders, in his book Likeability Factor, says that a person who provides others with “a sense of joy, happiness, relaxation, or rejuvenation” is more likely to be hired or promoted. He maintains that some companies have actually abolished unfriendliness. They call their system I.O.N.U.: “I observe no unfriendliness.”

That principle should be practiced by the citizens of Christ’s kingdom. When people are asked what they look for in a church, their number-one response is friendliness. Unfortunately, the reality is that many churchgoers are as distant as a star and as cold as space.

The Lord told ancient Israel that He “loves the stranger, giving him food and clothing” (Deuteronomy 10:18). He commanded them to emulate His behavior (v.19).

Friendliness is not just a wise business practice, it should be a characteristic of all who follow Christ. When you attend your church today, act in such a way that a newcomer could say, “I observe no unfriendliness.” —Haddon W. Robinson

Thinking It Over
What are the key elements that help
a church to be meaningful?
Read The Church We Need 

In a world where many people couldn’t care less, Christians should be people who couldn’t care more.

Bible in One Year: Bible in One Year:   Psalms 51-53; Romans 2

[DollyCali]

In the world, one single rule applies to the men:

Make the Woman happy.

Do something she likes, and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.

Here is a guide to the point system:

SIMPLE DUTIES
-- You make the bed (+1)
-- You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
-- You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
-- You go out to buy her what she wants (+5)
-- In the rain (+8)
-- But return with Beer (-5)

-- You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
-- You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (still 0)
-- You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
-- You pummel it with fireplace poker (+10)
-- It's her pet (-10)

SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
-- You stay by her side the entire party (0)
-- You stay by her side for a while, then go chat with a friend (-2)
-- Named Tina (-4)
-- Tina is a dancer (-10)

HER BIRTHDAY
-- You take her out to dinner (0)
-- You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
-- Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
-- And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
-- It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the colors of your favorite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT
-- You take her to a movie (+2)
-- You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
-- You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
-- You take her to a movie you like (-2)
-- It's called 'Death-Cop' (-3)
-- You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

YOUR PHYSIQUE
-- You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
-- You develop a potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
-- You develop a potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and Hawaiian shirts (-30)
-- You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)

ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION
-- She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [That's right, you lose points no matter how you answer]
-- You hesitate in responding (-10)
-- You reply, "Where?" (-35)
-- Any other response (-20)

COMMUNICATION
-- When she wants to talk, you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
-- You listen for over 30 minutes (+50)
-- You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
-- She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)

[DollyCali]

Special PERSONAL ping

to post 334

[ohioWfan]

Bill, I have read through your posts this morning, and have some thoughts, but no time right now to respond.

I'll do so this afternoon. Thanks for including me in your conversation here. I am honored.

[DollyCali]

You can be my counselor/therapist ANY DAY!!!

You spoke to MANY of us Eleanor even though your posts were directed to Bill..

[iluvgeorgie]

No need to apologize about signing off, Phil. I fell asleep first. I'll try to drop by later today, but it depends when I get back from the office.

Tuesday is supposed to be my last day at work, so I'm scrambling like a crazywoman to finish my projects. It was great to meet you both.