Posted on 12/09/2022 5:05:02 PM PST by tiredofallofit
Imagine this. You meet a charming man with whom you seem to have an instant connection. This man constantly flatters you, praises you, and makes you feel like you are on top of the world. He gives you gifts, he treats you to fancy meals, and he seems so attentive to all of your needs. You quickly open up to him, sharing with him your deepest desires and dreams. Perhaps you even feel like you are sharing with him secrets about your life that you have not shared with anyone else. You appreciate how he listens and how he seems to reciprocate with sharing his own deepest hopes and emotions. Pretty soon you feel like no else could understand or sympathize with you like he does. You have found your match made in heaven.
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or her
or charming woman who throws her body at you
Hospitals are bad places for affairs between the medical staff for this reason.
It’s also called hysterical bonding.
I should live so long.
I had to laugh when I got to the second paragraph: “Perhaps photography is one of your hobbies and one day he shows up at your house showing off a very expensive camera that you never knew he owned.”
I was 26 and had just moved to Akron, Ohio. I had traveled all over Asia and South America the previous two years and had taken a lot of photos in my travels. While in Tokyo, I replaced my first Bell & Howell SLR camera (made by Canon) with a real Canon EF and several lenses.
I thought it was time to get some professional training, so I took a photography class at the university and met a great woman who quickly became my girlfriend. I showed her my expensive camera and lens collection from Tokyo and she fell for me. We went on a number of local photo expeditions together and had a great time sharing our hobby. After we drifted apart, she left the real estate business and went on to scout locations for Hollywood movies.
So love-bombing through photography works!
Cop shops as well are bad places for affairs to happen.
Yes, it can be both sexes for sure.
Thanks for the info.I’m jotting down notes to see how well this works. This may be the breakthrough I’ve been looking for.
I believe Jordan Peterson has spoken quite a bit about the difference between two types of men.
On the one hand, you have a competent, and responsible guy who works well with others, solves problems, can be the head of a household and a good provider.
On the other hand, you may have a control freak with jealousy issues. He’s manipulative. He plays games. He may have divided loyalties. He puts himself first and enjoys exerting power over those who are weaker.
It’s an important part of growing up for women to learn the difference between these types. In many cases, a girl can learn this from observing her own father (for good or ill). Unfortunately many women do not learn this lesson at all.
Many women find a competent, and responsible guy who can take charge and provide solutions and they say: “Get me out of here! That’s the patriarchy! I know danger when I see it!!”
Alternatively, these same women may find a smooth talking charmer who has a way of ingratiating himself into their lives and creating some exciting situations and making himself the real center of their world: “Prince Charming! It’s True Love at last! Marry that guy before he runs off with someone else!”
Not all men are bad, but I think a lot of women have no ability to spot the good ones. Of course, a lot of men can’t spot the good women either.
When women do it, it’s called “fixing her man”.
When men do it, it’s called “deviant behavior”.
Every place is bad. Get a dog.
It works.
Depends on the size of the gun, of course.
A lot of that sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder. And that is scary atuff.
I’m a dude...I’d think he was fruit.
Affairs can happen in any workplace, but hysterical bonds or trauma bonds will happen in places where there are life and death issues happening.
That happens to me nearly daily.
Prince Harry trauma left him open to a narcissist.
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