..........Iris Anthony, a mother of four boys, recalls sitting at the dinner table in her Arnold home, listening to Bush declare victory in Iraq and knowing with dreaded certainty that his declaration did not mean soldiers were coming home anytime soon. "I looked around the table at my satin-cheeked boys - I mean, not one of them shaves yet - and saying I was damned if I was going to send any of them to Iraq. "I think I actually cursed. "Anyway, Theo, the 13-year- old says, 'Well, Mom. What are you going to do about it?'" Anthony called 20...