Posted on 12/25/2022 7:12:41 PM PST by FarCenter
Philosophers seeking to answer questions around inequality in household labour and the invisibility of women's work in the home have proposed a new theory -- that men and women are trained by society to see different possibilities for action in the same domestic environment.
They say a view called "affordance theory" -- that we experience objects and situations as having actions implicitly attached -- underwrites the age-old gender disparity when it comes to the myriad mundane tasks of daily home maintenance.
For example, women may look at a surface and see an implied action -- 'to be wiped' -- whereas men may just observe a crumb-covered countertop.
The philosophers believe these deep-seated gender divides in domestic perception can be altered through societal interventions such as extended paternal leave, which will encourage men to build up mental associations for household tasks.
(Excerpt) Read more at sciencedaily.com ...
Who hurt you? You seem to hate the truth.
So do I. I have friends who think it’s great fun. I’ve never enjoyed it.
I shop only when necessary. Groceries once a week or so, clothes when I need them. And I don’t browse among stuff for hours like I see people doing. 😖
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0KrOZe2SxoQ
Above is a great video with a marriage counselor regarding men’s vs women’s brains. Funny, but he goes into how it affects our communications with each other.
His whole series is really good and informative. And VERY funny.
I can corroborate that!
When I am busy with a task, and ask, "Where are the scissors?", I don't want my wife to reply, "Where I put them after I finished darning the socks," or "In the d'Or box next to the Queen Anne table," (what the heck is a "d'Or" box or a "Queen Anne" table, anyway?).
I want her to reply, "Here, let me put them into your hands."
Regards,
I’m glad that I’m not the only one scratching his head..
Bookmark for potential need later.
“but I would because she’s good at nagging, which is her way of doing the task”
LOL. Beats actually having to do the task.
I am much neater than my wife. I hate clutter. She’s essentially a hoarder.
Not in our house. My mother didn’t dare touch the garage and the shed, which he liked to clean and rearrange every so often. He cooked on the weekends before he retired the second time and then all the time after that. He’d also vacuum and mop, but he didn’t clean bathrooms, dust or do laundry. That was my mom’s territory.
The outdoors was also his to do with as he pleased. My mom only dealt with her roses; he took care of everything else. Perhaps that comes from his mom passing away when he was 14 (3 years after he started working), or he would just get too bored if he wasn’t doing something.
The marriages that I see fail are the 50 50 ones where either or both keep detailed records.
I am no saying g that there shouldn’t be some sort of equal yoking but the micromanagement oh my gosh!
https://www.hammacher.com/product/best-bug-vacuum
We do now.
I particularly like the zap as it is sucked into the electric thingy.
I’m not suggesting micro-managing, tit-for-tat.
I’m just suggesting a type of division that might work best between male-female when it comes to cleaning a house.
I agree with you that these shouldn’t be measured on the scale.
Fazed
Sorry pet peeve
Phenomenology is (basically) reality is what you perceive it to be.
Example - you walk into a doctor’s office and see a newspaper on the table. You think one of the following:
1) How nice, somebody left a newspaper here when they were done with it, so others could enjoy it.
2) Ugh, some slob left their newspaper here.
3) There is a newspaper on the table.
In other words: good, bad, or indifferent.
I say choose the one that makes you happy.
You can thus train yourself to be happier.
The difference between men and women is that men tend to question the point of doing things required by “civilization”, and resist doing things that are pointless - like wrapping gifts or “making” the bed.
Women do not tend to question the point of doing pointless things - they just need them done to feel at peace.
My wife and I both wash dishes so the sink is not full of dirty dishes - I do more than my share of putting away leftovers and cleaning or seasoning heavy pots and pans. But after they are cleaned and dried or drying on the sideboard, I am usually satisfied.
My wife is the one who needs everything put away where it “belongs”.
By contrast, I often feel a bit disappointed that something got put away - it would have been more convenient if it was still on the sideboard where I left it.
Same with making the bed. I don’t see the point - she likes the bed “made”. When I do help her make the bed, I skip the part about tucking the top sheet under the mattress - that drives her crazy. :-)
Exactly. Who wrote this headline? They need Grammarly
BS. The wife and I were married for 37 years until she passed. We never had a list of “Mine” and “Yours”. We saw something needed to be done and we did it. Both of us being Army NCOs probably had a lot to do with that.
In breaking news:
Men and Women are Different.
And they cannot exchange places.
Oh, wait, that’s the new definition of Fascism...
Seems like another “man is stupid” hit piece by yet another feminazi.
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