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My Daughter Is Not Transgender. She’s a Tomboy.
New York Times ^ | 04/19/2017 | Lisa Selin Davis

Posted on 04/19/2017 10:06:26 AM PDT by SeekAndFind

“I just wanted to check,” the teacher said. “Your child wants to be called a boy, right? Or is she a boy that wants to be called a girl? Which is it again?”

I cocked my head. I am used to correcting strangers, who mistake my 7-year-old daughter for a boy 100 percent of the time.

In fact, I love correcting them, making them reconsider their perceptions of what a girl looks like. But my daughter had been attending the after-school program where this woman taught for six months.

“She’s a girl,” I said. The woman looked unconvinced. “Really. She’s a girl, and you can refer to her as a girl.”

Later, when I relayed this conversation to my daughter, she said, “More girls should look like this so it’s more popular so grown-ups won’t be so confused.”

My daughter wears track pants and T-shirts. She has shaggy short hair (the look she requested from the hairdresser was “Luke Skywalker in Episode IV”). Most, but not all, of her friends are boys. She is sporty and strong, incredibly sweet, and a girl.

And yet she is asked by the pediatrician, by her teachers, by people who have known her for many years, if she feels like, or wants to be called, or wants to be, a boy.

In many ways, this is wonderful: It shows a much-needed sensitivity to gender nonconformity and transgender issues. It is considerate of adults to ask her — in the beginning.

But when they continue to question her gender identity — and are skeptical of her response — the message they send is that a girl cannot look and act like her and still be a girl.

She is not gender nonconforming. She is gender role nonconforming.

(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: genitalmutilation; homosexualagenda; psychology; tomboy; transgender
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To: thesharkboy
Also, a lot of people are mentally ill. Like a whole lot.

Yep. They're called ex-wives.

21 posted on 04/19/2017 10:47:34 AM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: usconservative

I just couldn’t resist...


22 posted on 04/19/2017 10:47:51 AM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: SeekAndFind
"She is not gender nonconforming. She is gender role nonconforming."

POW! Out of the park.

23 posted on 04/19/2017 10:48:43 AM PDT by moehoward
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To: SeekAndFind

They will eventually convince this girl that she’s trans or a lesbian. Count on it.


24 posted on 04/19/2017 10:50:36 AM PDT by Antoninus ("The Western world has lost its civil courage, both as a whole and separately." -Solzhenitsyn)
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To: SeekAndFind
And yet she is asked by the pediatrician, by her teachers, by people who have known her for many years, if she feels like, or wants to be called, or wants to be, a boy.

Sounds like indoctrination.

25 posted on 04/19/2017 10:51:45 AM PDT by hattend (Firearms and ammunition...the only growing industries under the Obama regime.)
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To: Menehune56
too bad we have to label everything nowadays....boys could be sissies, so what...girls could be tomboys, so what...

but now, we have to make a federal case out of everything...

26 posted on 04/19/2017 10:51:49 AM PDT by cherry
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To: sharkhawk

They are. It is the Marxist endgame where Up is Down, Slavery is Freedom and Boys can be Girls.

They want a total removal of Objective Truth (God) and Biology (science) so that children are so ignorant and dumb, they will “think’ in totally irrational ways—totally removed from Common Sense and Natural Law—that which created the Minds of our Founders and the US Constitution.

It is a removal of Reality for the artificial reality of Marxism, the “utopia” which they are FORCING on ALL the MINDS of little children NOW.

Erase concepts of mother and father and male/female paradigm like they did with the oxymoronic irrational concept of “homosexual marriage” and you destroy Logic and Reason in a lot of the masses. It is embedded into the culture which affects all young minds.

They are trying to force with Psychological Warfare on the minds of all our children—which is embedded in Common Core and ALL curricula that isn’t Classical Christian curricula. John Dewey was a communist Humanist who wanted to “kill God” from the minds of the masses-—to collapse Western Civilization to remove us back to tribal, irrational mindsets where sodomy, baby-sacrifice (killing), torture, cannibalism, orgies with children/babies is “Normal” again like in Ba’al days and Sodom and Gomorrah and like in the days of Noah and the Fall of Rome where Caligula dresses as a women and had homosexual orgies where he castrated little boys. This is the SAME, exact wet-dream and actions of the Leftist hero who destroyed England, John Maynard Keynes (Google Sugar Keynes at Harvard), who was having orgies with his homosexual buddies and little boys.

Without Virtue, there is no possibilty of Freedom. vice makes you into a Slave. They want ALL our children to be slaves and controlled and herded by the elite psychopathic soodmites.


27 posted on 04/19/2017 10:53:51 AM PDT by savagesusie (When Law ceases to be Just, it ceases to be Law. (Thomas A./Founders/John Marshall)/Nuremberg)
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To: bigbob

My optometrist told me she sees more kids crying because they CAN’T have glasses (don’t need them) than the reverse.

Reminds me of one of my daughters. She had a new friend, who wore glasses. Pretty soon, she started complaining she was having trouble seeing the blackboard. Had her eyes checked. I think she deliberately faked the far vision part. Optometrist said, she almost doesn’t need these, but just has a little trouble with distance. So, we bought the glasses. They got broken or lost or something, got her the free replacement pair. Lost those, too. That was the end of that. Never had any trouble seeing again, til about forty years old. Kids get ideas in their head. Grade school and up, they want whatever their peers want (even if they really don’t). That’s why it’s so important that parents act as filters for their kids. You are what you eat, read, watch and hear. Kids today are exposed to every kind of trash there is. It’s really dangerous out there. Home school. Even then, some of the world’s garbage will touch them, but not as bad as if they’re spend 12 plus hours a day with it.


28 posted on 04/19/2017 11:09:04 AM PDT by Flaming Conservative
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To: Dilbert San Diego
Why would she be researching such topics if she is saying her daughter is just a normal girl??

Disappointment. All the cool Moms have trans- kids. Or, they're at least gay.

Munchausen's by Proxy. I'd no idea it was so common.

29 posted on 04/19/2017 11:11:21 AM PDT by wbill
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To: meadsjn
More than 79.8 Million people in the US are taking psychiatric drugs for mental illness.

That is the whole Democrat party. They are insane. They are programmed. They are violent. And they intend to kill humans.

So what you are saying is they have enough chemicals in their veins to be sort of.... robots looking to kill humans? XD

30 posted on 04/19/2017 11:12:40 AM PDT by VaeVictis (~Woe to the Conquered~)
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To: Antoninus

“They will eventually convince this girl that she’s trans or a lesbian. Count on it.”

Depending how libtard her family is, I’m afraid you may be correct.

I look at pics of my wife as a young girl, total tomboy. Cute, but defiantly tomboy who excelled in sports and loved her matchbox cars. In her teens she blossomed and became drop dead gorgeous with a knock out smile. Her family is large, devout and for the most part, conservative and nature was allowed to take it’s course.


31 posted on 04/19/2017 11:13:07 AM PDT by moehoward
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To: SeekAndFind

I was a tomboy-I’ve always preferred male friends, I wear jeans work boots and T’s to work-construction work.

I also am a real female-have waist-length hair, like to wear a dress and heels and go out to dinner with my man. I have been married twice, have kids and recently got my flame from college as my man. People have a problem with girls/women like me now? WTF is that-they need to mind their own damned business...


32 posted on 04/19/2017 11:13:30 AM PDT by Texan5 (`"You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: Antoninus

That is what I am guessing.... She already has the weakness for it and they see her as a new recruit.


33 posted on 04/19/2017 11:14:59 AM PDT by VaeVictis (~Woe to the Conquered~)
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To: LouieFisk

I think the big qualifier in this mother’s statement was gender ‘role’ whatever be used than only ‘gender’ whatever.

What I read that she’s saying that people are trying to push her daughter into a gender that THEY define by the role she is comfortable - a Tomboy and in her words I think confirming that. Bottom line, she is a GIRL but she ‘roles’ much like a boy. It is my impression the ones forcing the “gender designation issue” are the a$$holes in this, not the girl or mother.

I may be wrong, but that’s my take - and I am surprised that NYT even printed it. It doesn’t fit their narrative IMO.


34 posted on 04/19/2017 11:15:06 AM PDT by Gaffer
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To: Mr. Douglas

My daughter was a big time tomboy until 5th grade, if I was out working she was with me, if I was out shooting she was shooting, if I was going fishing she wanted to go. If she went to my parents and spent the summer she took about every step my grandpa took. Around 5th grade the girlie-girlie thing kicked in and the tomboy thing trailed off.

She still goes tomboy from time to time, she will grab a pistol and the dog and take off in the woods around our house walking and exploring and at times will find me outside repairing something or building something and is right in the middle of it.

I wish libs. would let kids be kids and stop their stereotyping about which they rail all the time.


35 posted on 04/19/2017 11:20:32 AM PDT by sarge83
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To: Dilbert San Diego

Normal people do not “research puberty blockers and hormones”.

As stated upthread, A LOT OF PEOPLE NEED A DIRT NAP.


36 posted on 04/19/2017 11:22:40 AM PDT by T-Bone Texan
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To: bigbob

My dad’s bumpersticker saying was

“Nuke the gay whales for Jesus”.


37 posted on 04/19/2017 11:24:41 AM PDT by T-Bone Texan
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To: Diana in Wisconsin

“Yeah. I guess we’re weirdos. *Rolleyes*”

It sounds to me like you both had a normal, healthy childhood.

But what do I know?
(rolleyes too... 8^)


38 posted on 04/19/2017 11:27:38 AM PDT by jonno (Having an opinion is not the same as having the answer...)
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To: wbill

“Munchausen’s by Proxy”

Bingo - there it is...


39 posted on 04/19/2017 11:29:30 AM PDT by jonno (Having an opinion is not the same as having the answer...)
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To: SeekAndFind

Exactly, for my entire life, the left has been saying that men and women should be free to act any way they choose. Now they are saying that if someone chooses to act outside of traditional sex roles, people have to change gender.


40 posted on 04/19/2017 12:03:33 PM PDT by freedomfiter2 (Lex rex)
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