Posted on 01/09/2017 4:52:10 AM PST by servo1969
Full Title: Any woman who claims her son's better off without a dad needs her head examined: As actress January Jones says she is GLAD her little boy doesn't have a father, a guilt-ridden single mother blasts her comments
Chatting to my teenage daughter over a family dinner the other evening, I paused to reprimand my nine-year-old son for slurping his spaghetti and making a terrible mess in the process.
'You can't tell me off,' he spat back. 'I'm the man of the house.'
Of course I was cross with Charlie for being so impudent, and told him so in no uncertain terms. But at the same time I felt terribly sorry for my confused little boy, growing up, as he is, in a home without a father, and a much-needed role model.
I was, therefore, appalled yesterday to read that the actress January Jones, of Mad Men fame, believes that her five-year-old son is better off fatherless.
Speaking about her son, Xander, the 39-year-old actress told Red magazine: 'He doesn't have a male person saying "Don't cry" or "You throw like a girl". All those s***** things dads accidentally do.'
However, as a fellow single mum, I couldn't disagree more. Of course, many mothers raise children well without fathers after death, divorce or as a result of lifestyle choices. But I have never heard of a mother celebrating the fact that her son has no one to call 'Dad'.
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I’m the oldest of 9, and am familiar with the wooden spoon and the belt, and never considered it abuse.
I limit it to the hand.
“So what daddy was a bad man and mommy feels negative about him, with God in your corner, how will you decide to live your life?”
There are many factors influencing why a soul chooses to be born as a child to a specific pair of parents. It is not a discussion for FR as it would create too much unnecessary tension.
Thank you for sharing the scripture. I am going to read the entire context as I’ll admit, my Old Testament knowledge is lacking. I’m mainly a NT person.
Thank you again for sharing... you have been blessed. It is good to see your characteristics in the children.
The younger the child when the event occurs, the greater the impact upon the emotional subconscious. This is what Jesus was talking about when He spoke of the house built on a rock having a solid foundation.
Two loving parents are a good recipe for a solid foundation for life in a child.
“Sorry, the evidence says otherwise.”
I was raised without a father-—it was tough,but we had a great mother.
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•Children of lesbian mothers are nearly 12 times (≅ 1200%) as likely to say they were sexually touched by a parent or adult as those raised in intact biological families. Asked if they had ever been raped, 31 percent of those raised by lesbian mothers and 25 percent of children raised by gay fathers answered yes, compared to 8 percent of those from intact biological homes.
•Twenty percent (20%) of those raised by lesbians and 25% of those raised by gay men reported having contracted a sexual transmitted infection, compared to 8% of those raised by their biological parents.
•Twelve percent (12%) of those with a lesbian mother and 24% of those with a gay father reported having recently contemplated suicide, compared to only 5% raised by an intact biological family or a single parent.
•Nineteen percent (19%) of those raised by a lesbian mother or gay father were currently or recently receiving psychotherapy, compared to 8% of those raised by their heterosexual parents.
•Twenty-eight percent (28%) of those of working age raised by a lesbian mother and 20% of those raised by a gay father reported being currently unemployed, compared to 8% raised by an intact biological family and 13% raised by a single parent.
I raised four kids, striking a child for punishment is sometimes necessary, but in my opinion should be used sparingly, and when other methods are not effective.
When it is used to vent parental frustration, project anger, sport, and/or causes injury to the child it has crossed the line into abuse.
I don’t deny what you are saying there; it’s why the whole abortion on demand industry is such a freakish, from the pit of hell nightmare! The Bible says God knew David in his mother’s womb....that’s a bunch of dynamics right there!
What “tired and retired’
was saying was that whole negative personality traits are created directly in the child by what happens in utero while the mother is pregnant by what the mother experiences during said pregnancy...I think it is better shown that much of the influencing occurs after the birth and in the raising.
According to Tired and Retired, My wife who relished many vegetables and ate them with great enjoyment during her pregnancies should have had kids who should also have liked their vegetables due to my wife’s positive enjoyment feelings,spiritual contentement(as blessings were asked over the food), endorphins and enzymes somehow influencing them in utero. What did we get? One boy who will tolerate only corn,lettuce, and broccoli and the rest...a little more like their mother but not without a lot of positive reinforcement,some occaisional applied “warming” to the posterior buttocks and the denials of their deserts!
I agree with both of you although I have swatted my 3 girls on the bottom occasionionally. It was extremely effective and I only had to do it once or twice. I was raised in a traditional Italian family where wooden spoons, hands, shoes, etc were routinely used. I remember my mother smacking me in the mouth when I was particularly disrespectful. It communicated that I had crossed a line like sitting in timeout never could have.
This response was meant to be sent to you and Drop 50.
I agree with both of you although I have swatted my 3 girls on the bottom occasionionally. It was extremely effective and I only had to do it once or twice. I was raised in a traditional Italian family where wooden spoons, hands, shoes, etc were routinely used. I remember my mother smacking me in the mouth when I was particularly disrespectful. It communicated that I had crossed a line like sitting in timeout never could have.
She will either raise a gay son or a monster.....................
Detroit, Memphis, Camden, Chicago. Who needs baby daddy when Uncle Sam is the biggest of them all.
Whether or not your mother was ‘great’ is irrelevant.
The reality is that children need both a female mother and a male father, and both sons and daughters need a strong male influence (but for different reasons). Civilized society functions best that way.
There are almost always exceptions to a rule.
NO the bible does not say that.
The bible does say that if you spare the rod, fail to discipline a child, you spoil him/her, or allow them to be self-centered and selfish.
Divorce and single motherhood has been around for generations. What's new, however, is that the stigma has been lost. Instead of a quietly whispered "His father isn't in the picture...", instead we've replaced it with Oprah cheering for "Tanisha, A Single Moooom!!! Wooo-Woo!"
No there's no social downside for the mother to rampant bastardry. The kids, unfortunately, take the brunt of it. We're just now beginning to see the end result in Generation X, and Millenials.
It depends on the dad. Some kids ARE better off with SOME dads.
That’s the way it was with my father. He was a military man and has these huge meathook hands. He only spanked me 5 times in my young life, each for different reasons. He did not spank to injure me, though with my soft little behind it did sting for a few minutes. He would spank me, sit me on my bed and leave me there for a few minutes to nurse the sting, then he would come back and look me in the eyes and ask me if I understood what I did wrong and why I had to be spanked for it. Then he told me that it ‘hurt him’ to do it, but he did it because he loved me and wanted me to learn then he would hug me. My father was and still is my hero and I thank God every day for the lessons and discipline my father instilled in me.
We should co author a book together...my half will focus on everything in our culture that is demonstrably unhealthy and tees me off. Your half is up to you!
Doesn’t it say in the Bible: ‘ Hate the father, destroy the child.’ ?
“Numbers don’t lie. Fatherless children are more likely to do badly in school, do drugs, drop out before graduation, have trouble with the law, bear children out of wedlock, etc.
WHY on earth would a sane woman want to stack the deck against her child?”
There is another reason for this. Children who encounter trauma early in their life (trauma as perceived from the limited perceptions of a child) tend to shift prematurely from their emotional consciousness to a logical consciousness. This is what creates the 7 year old going on 35 who has a premature sense of self way beyond their age.
Early elementary school is taught emotionally, not logically until third grade (roughly age 7 to 8) when long division and multiplication is introduced. A child who shifts prematurely, such as the case of autism or Asperger’s Syndrome, has a difficult time as the emotional stimulus does not math their consciousness learning ability.
They use the intellect as an escape from emotional pain.
Amen amen amen
I observe modern women daily off this forum and that is exactly how it is
We unleashed the inner spoiled kitty cat a generation or two ago and are paying the price
Honestly I’m not sure how to fix it anymore
I don’t think your experience is the rule but I regret for you that rxiwruence
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