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It’s Muslim Boy Meets Girl, but Don’t Call It Dating
new york times ^ | 9/19/06 | NEIL MacFARQUHAR

Posted on 09/19/2006 11:23:43 AM PDT by mathprof

So here’s the thing about speed dating for Muslims.

Many American Muslims — or at least those bent on maintaining certain conservative traditions — equate anything labeled “dating” with hellfire, no matter how short a time is involved. Hence the wildly popular speed dating sessions at the largest annual Muslim conference in North America were given an entirely more respectable label. They were called the “matrimonial banquet.”

“If we called it speed dating, it will end up with real dating,” said Shamshad Hussain, one of the organizers, grimacing.

Both the banquet earlier this month and various related seminars underscored the difficulty that some American Muslim families face in grappling with an issue on which many prefer not to assimilate. One seminar, called “Dating,” promised attendees helpful hints for “Muslim families struggling to save their children from it.”

The couple of hundred people attending the dating seminar burst out laughing when Imam Muhamed Magid of the Adams Center, a collective of seven mosques in Virginia, summed up the basic instructions that Muslim American parents give their adolescent children, particularly males: “Don’t talk to the Muslim girls, ever, but you are going to marry them. As for the non-Muslim girls, talk to them, but don’t ever bring one home.”

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Yasmeen Qadri, suggested that Muslim mothers across the continent band together in an organization called “Mothers Against Dating,” modeled on Mothers Against Drunk Driving. If the term “arranged marriage” is too distasteful to the next generation, she said, then perhaps the practice could be Americanized simply by renaming it “assisted marriage,” just like assisted living for the elderly.

“In the United States we can play with words however we want, but we are not trying to set aside our cultural values,” said Mrs. Qadri, a professor of education.

(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; Miscellaneous; News/Current Events
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To: Cacique

btt


41 posted on 09/19/2006 12:32:48 PM PDT by Cacique (quos Deus vult perdere, prius dementat ( Islamia Delenda Est ))
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To: mathprof
buncha fricken hypocrites, ya ask me. Remember this from last week....

This from last week Pleasure Marriages in Sunni and Shi'ite Islam

42 posted on 09/19/2006 12:32:53 PM PDT by Jaded (does it really need a sarcasm tag?)
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To: mathprof

From what I understand, according to LIEberal DOGMA mutual masterbation is GOOD and MusSCUMS here wouldn't be able to call it dating.


43 posted on 09/19/2006 12:34:29 PM PDT by Rovendem
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To: mathprof

And here's a pic of the Prophet Mohammad's intended preparing for her wedding night...

44 posted on 09/19/2006 12:39:39 PM PDT by Kenton
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To: mathprof
“In the United States we can play with words however we want, but we are not trying to set aside our cultural values,” said Mrs. Qadri, a professor of education.

"We can call it whatever we like, as long as we are still devoted to the unquestioning service of Satan/Allah."

45 posted on 09/19/2006 12:42:25 PM PDT by TheClintons-STILLAnti-American
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To: mathprof

Wow Thanks and bookmark for later reading


46 posted on 09/19/2006 12:46:12 PM PDT by Leofl (I'm from Texas, we don't dial 9-11)
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To: GOP Poet

If you are interested do a search for UK honor killing. There's been several cases where the daughter "went home" but it turned out she was killled due to the partriarchal "culture" of honor killing.

Apparently cases have been uncovered in Germany among other places in Europe. If you date a Muslm girl, her family will disapprove and her life can be in danger.

Control is a very important aspect of this superior "culture" over how the female sex organs condut themselves.


47 posted on 09/19/2006 1:02:55 PM PDT by romanesq
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To: Mr. Blonde
My now 19 year old daughter got her nose pierced last spring. We were furious about it, especially her response: "I knew you guys wouldn't like it, but I figured you'll get over it eventually."

We've had conversations over the tattoo issue, i.e. the cons and the pros. As long as we are supporting her, our edict is no tattoos. Once she's on her own, let's just say we're praying that she will be wiser.

48 posted on 09/19/2006 1:07:16 PM PDT by Night Hides Not (Closing in on 3000 posts, of which maybe 50 were worthwhile!)
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To: brownsfan
"Don’t talk to the Muslim girls, ever, but you are going to marry them. As for the non-Muslim girls, talk to them, but don’t ever bring one home.”

You said: "I can't tell you how disgusting this is to me. muslims view infidels as less than human,"

Well let's stand back here a little bit. St. Paul warned his flock, "do not be yoked to an unbeliever." For a long times Catholics were discouraged from marrying Protestants. And Protestants did not want to marry any one who was not also a WASP. All that is behind us now and good riddance. But we Christians were the same way once.

49 posted on 09/19/2006 1:15:31 PM PDT by Hound of the Baskervilles ("Nonsense in the intellect draws evil after it." C.S. Lewis)
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To: GOP Poet
"Yet, I can empathize with trying to live a religious conservative life in a world that is so sinful and disregarding of God."

Me too.

50 posted on 09/19/2006 1:21:48 PM PDT by Hound of the Baskervilles ("Nonsense in the intellect draws evil after it." C.S. Lewis)
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To: Hound of the Baskervilles

"But we Christians were the same way once."

You know, I go over to the DU and read what those idiots have to say about things. Your post fits beautifully with what they say. But even over at the DU, a few of them had the sense to argue that that was in the past. To equate muslims of today with Christians of 600 years ago yeilds what positive result?
We once lived in caves, ate raw meat, didn't sanitize properly... etc. So, all those things we once did, we should approve because our ancestors once did that?!
I don't know a single Christian who, in my entire lifetime, was told to marry exclusively in their faith. I don't know of a single Christian who, in my lifetime, that was told that if he or she left the faith, they'd be apostate and be killed. I don't know a single Christian woman who was killed as an honor killing for seeing a non-Christian.

It's not like we can ignore them and let them live their lifestyle how they see fit. They want to change our lifestyle. They want sharia law, they want our country, they want to kill or convert us. Stop making excuses for these animals. Call them on their behavior. If they can't exist in the 21st century, let's help them to cease to exist.


51 posted on 09/19/2006 1:27:51 PM PDT by brownsfan (It's not a war on terror... it's a war with islam.)
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To: Night Hides Not
I have brain washed my daughter about tattoos with the same philosophy I used with cabbage patch dolls when she was younger. They are vile, ugly and disgusting. She ever wanted a cabbage patch doll and she hates tattoos./p>
52 posted on 09/19/2006 1:30:18 PM PDT by BUDDYCAT
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To: MadeInAmerica

These Muslims are:

Moral savages. Barbarians. Primitives.

We `infidels' must fight them unto the gates of Hell!

):^(


53 posted on 09/19/2006 1:57:21 PM PDT by elcid1970 (atio)
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To: elcid1970

These Muslims are:

Moral savages. Barbarians. Primitives.

We `infidels' must fight them unto the gates of Hell!

):^(




I second that


54 posted on 09/19/2006 2:01:08 PM PDT by MadeInAmerica (- If ILLEGAL means Undocumented - Then Breaking and Entering means Unannounced Visit)
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To: YOUGOTIT; brownsfan; All
"Use these non Muslim women for your pleasure but do not bring one home.

I can't tell you how disgusting this is to me. muslims view infidels as less than human, so it's ok for their sons to do anything they want with infidel women, as long as they don't bring one home.

Well, unfortunately, I just learned today that my lovely, smart, 30 year old niece is pregnant to a muslim. I guess they are planning marriage. I am sick! The naive idiot doesn't know what she's in for! Keep her in your prayers, please.

55 posted on 09/19/2006 2:50:04 PM PDT by sneakers (Freedom is the answer to the human condition)
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To: YOUGOTIT; brownsfan; All

Actually, on second thought, I guess "smart" doesn't really describe her. :-(


56 posted on 09/19/2006 2:51:25 PM PDT by sneakers (Freedom is the answer to the human condition)
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To: brownsfan
"You know, I go over to the DU and read what those idiots have to say about things. Your post fits beautifully with what they say."

The article above is not about bloodthirsty terrorists trying to kill people. It is a about Muslim parents trying to figure out how to help their kids find a Msulim spouse. I am a Christian and I try not start spewing venom every time I see the word Muslim.

And the example I sited about Christians was not 600 years ago. I remember well when Catholics were discouraged from "mixed marriages" with Protestants, it was in my lifetime. I have been to the Smithsonian and seen posters from the late 1800's where there was panic about Catholics immigrating to America and establishing "pope worship." But that did not happen did it? We don't know what will happen with the Muslims but it behooves us all to cool off every now and then. We should try to detach ourselves from our fears and look at situations that turned out better than we expected them to. We need to be vigilant but we also need to avoid letting our fears get the best of us.

57 posted on 09/19/2006 5:48:37 PM PDT by Hound of the Baskervilles ("Nonsense in the intellect draws evil after it." C.S. Lewis)
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To: brownsfan
Filthy, vile, Satan worshiping, POS's. All of them. Moderate muslims are just the ones who haven't blown themselves up yet.


58 posted on 09/19/2006 5:51:11 PM PDT by freedumb2003 (Insultification is the polar opposite of Niceosity)
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To: mathprof

I hope this doesn't give Chuck Barris any ideas about a "Muslim Dating Game."


59 posted on 09/19/2006 5:53:42 PM PDT by Clemenza (Dave? Dave?)
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To: brownsfan
muslims view infidels as less than human

Sadly there are plenty of 'infidel' women who will service these guys.

60 posted on 09/19/2006 5:55:45 PM PDT by pbear8 (Hey Muslims, listen to B-16 he's telling the truth)
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