Posted on 02/25/2006 8:34:28 PM PST by Clive
The president of Harvard University, Lawrence Summers, announced this week that he will resign from his position at the end of this academic year. This became almost inevitable after he made a speech last winter claiming "innate differences" between the sexes may well explain why more men succeed in math and sciences than do women.
Not the most radical statement in history, perhaps, but bold enough to make him a hated figure on campuses and a punching bag for radical feminists.
I don't really know if there is a different aptitude for science between men and women and don't particularly care. I do know, however, that a woman's place is in the home.
There, it's been said. The unthinkable has been uttered. I can only wonder what the various highly intelligent women who edit my column are saying as they read this, but that's hardly the point. A woman's place is in the home.
No, not every woman and not every home. But one major reason society has lost much of its stability, grace and decorum is because so many women with children have been urged to flee the "incarceration" of the family for the "freedom" of the office.
Obviously there are many women who are not mothers to whom this does not apply and also many mothers who are obliged to find employment so as keep the family together. The objection here is to the knee-jerk assumption that somehow it is natural and admirable for women to be in the paid workforce.
There is no compelling case that the world would be a better place if more women were lawyers, bankers, soldiers or engineers. There are many such arguments, however, that the world would be a far better place if more women were mothers. Which means more than the mere act of procreation. It means devotion, sacrifice and time. Not quality time, just time. Lots of it. It means refusing to accept that self-esteem can only come through a boss, water cooler gossip and a generous pension scheme.
Yes, of course, fathers are a vital part of any family and most of the gun violence in our cities has far more to do with absence of dads than the presence of guns. But a mother is unique and irreplaceable.
Nobody is forcing women to become moms, but if they do they should take their new job seriously and not pretend it is some hobby or part-time occupation. Instead, we have created a situation where many women are embarrassed to admit that they are at home with their kids.
Recently, a Tory MP told me, in a spasm of political correctness, that Canada needed more women in Parliament. I asked him why, and he reacted as if he'd never been asked the question before. Which, of course, he probably hadn't.
I continued: "Could it be argued that raising a child to be a respectful, intelligent, moral and good person is just slightly more important than sitting in a building in Ottawa and obeying the orders of some second-rate prime ministerial assistant?"
He called me an idiot. Which may be true, but it does not obscure the point: We've declared war on motherhood in the name of a better, healthier society and declared war on family in the name of women's liberty.
So the president of Harvard feels he has to resign because he dared to raise an interesting question. We can only wonder what his mom would have said. Chances are that it would have been something wonderful. Mothers are like that.
Your posts on this thread are wonderful. They should be memorized by any young woman contemplating having a child.
Good on what you say!
Carolyn
You get to determine the definition of "greed"? How quaint.
No small taks, IMHO. Never "slight" motherhood. It is a truly noble pursuit.
How can you give 100% to your family and 100% to the community?
Are you a superwoman?
I agree. I love hearing the term homemaker. It is like an honor. I'm all for homemakers. My mother worked and got Friday and Saturday off. I still remember the light as air thrill I had all Friday at school and coming home on the bus knowing Mama would be there when I got home!
I read an article where someone interviewed kids and determined that children are happy their mothers work. I say that is bunk. I distinctly recall I loved my mother so much and if a teacher or someone asked me if I minded her working I would have said, "No." because I knew we needed the money and even very young I would not want to hurt my mother's feelings.
Ping
A man came home from work and found his three childrenoutside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty foodboxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard. The door of hiswife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no
sign of the dog.
Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over,and the throw rug was wadded against one wall.In the front room the TV was blaring loudly a cartoon channel, andthe family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing.In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food wasspilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food wasspilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a smallpile of sand was spread by the back door.He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his
wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its wayout the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummysoap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in aheap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed inher pajamas, reading a novel.
She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went.
He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What happened here today?"
She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you
come home from work and you ask me what in the world did I do today?"
"Yes?!" was his incredulous replyShe answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."
Moms...job description here:
http://www.glimpseofagrrl.com/archives/2005/02/mom_job_description.php
I've never had a man sneer at me for being a stay-at-home Mom, but several women have. And most of the women didn't consider themselves feminists. They think that being a full-time mother is boring and that any woman that chooses to do so must be lazy and stupid. Even some women that consider themselves conservative, like my sister, think that there's something wrong with it.
>>When you might have gone without luxuries like fabric softener and hair conditioner for years to make it all work.<<
AMEN!!!
Or when the hubby's family, who all make over 150,000 a year and send their kids to private schools to do it, look down on you because you drive 10 year old cars, homeschool and eat HotDogs.
I love my hubby, I love my kiddies and I love my life. Cash strapped or not.
"But a mother is unique and irreplaceable."
Why, yes. Yes we are! So call your Mom today and tell her that you love her. :)
I, too, have had a number of "careers" and I wouldn't trade the time home with my boys for anything.
You CAN have it all...just not all at once.
Rent yourself a copy of Fried Green Tomatoes.
Saw it, she wasn't a superwoman either
I love that because it's sooo true. Nobody realises what a mother AND wife, does for her family each day, and sometimes husbands are worse than the kids.
That IS a great book. I wish all teen girls could read it before dating.
I agree. Homemaker always sounds like I'm doing drywall or something. Usually, I'm just Mom. But if someone really wants to press the issue, I'm a full-time mom.
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