Posted on 11/29/2016 3:43:40 PM PST by Kaslin
Many Hillary Clinton voters have ceased communicating with friends, and even family members, who voted for Donald Trump. It is so common that The New York Times published a front-page article on the subject headlined, "Political Divide Splits Relationships -- and Thanksgiving, Too."
The article begins with three stories:
"Matthew Horn, a software engineer from Boulder, Colo., canceled Christmas plans with his family in Texas. Nancy Sundin, a social worker in Spokane, Wash., has called off Thanksgiving with her mother and brother. Ruth Dorancy, a software designer in Chicago, decided to move her wedding so that her fiancé's grandmother and aunt, strong Trump supporters from Florida, could not attend."
The Times acknowledges that this phenomenon is one-sided, saying, "Democrats have dug in their heels, and in some cases are refusing to sit across the table from relatives who voted for President-elect Donald J. Trump."
A number of people who voted for Trump called my show to tell me that their daughters had informed them that they would no longer allow their parents to see their grandchildren. And one man sent me an email reporting that his brother-in-law's mother told him that she "no longer had a son."
All of this raises an obvious question: Why is this phenomenon of cutting off contact with friends and relatives so one-sided? Why don't we hear about conservatives shunning friends and relatives who supported Hillary Clinton? After all, almost every conservative considered Clinton to be ethically and morally challenged. And most believed that another four years of left-wing rule would complete what Barack Obama promised he would do in 2008 if he were elected president -- "fundamentally (transform) the United States of America."
In other words, conservatives were not one whit less fearful of Clinton and the Democrats than Democrats were of Trump and Republicans.
Yet virtually no conservatives cut off contact with friends, let alone parents, who supported Clinton.
Here are 10 reasons left-wingers cut Trump voters from their lives.
1. Just like our universities shut out conservative ideas and speakers, more and more individuals on the left now shut out conservative friends and relatives as well as conservative ideas.
2. Many, if not most, leftists have been indoctrinated with leftism their entire lives.
This is easily shown.
There are far more conservatives who read articles, listen to and watch broadcasts of the left and have studied under left-wing teachers than there are people on the left who have read, listened to or watched anything of the right or taken classes with conservative instructors.
As a result, those on the left really believe that those on the right are all SIXHIRB: sexist, intolerant, xenophobic, homophobic, Islamophobic, racist and bigoted. Not to mention misogynistic and transphobic.
3. Most left-wing positions are emotion-based. That's a major reason people who hold leftist views will sever relations with people they previously cared for or even loved. Their emotions (in this case, irrational fear and hatred) simply overwhelm them.
4. Since Karl Marx, leftists have loved ideas more than people. All Trump voters who have been cut off by children, in-laws and lifelong friends now know how true that is.
5. People on the right think that most people on the left are wrong; people on the left think that most people on the right are evil. Decades of labeling conservative positions as "hateful" and labeling conservative individuals as "sexist," "intolerant," "xenophobic," "homophobic," "racist" and "bigoted" have had their desired effect.
6. The left associates human decency not so much with personal integrity as with having correct -- i.e. progressive -- political positions. Therefore, if you don't hold progressive positions, you lack decency. Ask your left-wing friends if they'd rather their high school son or daughter cheat on tests or support Trump.
7. Most individuals on the left are irreligious, so the commandment "Honor your father and your mother" means nothing to those who have cut off relations with parents because they voted for Trump.
8. Unlike conservatives, politics gives most leftists' lives meaning. Climate change is a good example. For leftists, fighting carbon emissions means saving human existence on Earth. Now, how often does anyone get a chance to literally save the world? Therefore, to most leftists, if you voted for Trump, you have both negated their reason for living and are literally destroying planet Earth. Why would they have Thanksgiving or Christmas with such a person?
9. The left tends toward the totalitarian. And every totalitarian ideology seeks to weaken the bonds between children and parents. The left seeks to dilute parental authority and replace it with school authority and government authority. So when your children sever their bond with you because you voted for Trump, they are acting like the good totalitarians the left has molded.
10. While there are kind and mean individuals on both sides of the political spectrum, as a result of all of the above, there are more mean people on the left than on the right. What other word than "mean" would anyone use to describe a daughter who banished her parents from their grandchildren's lives because of their vote?
I wish none of this were true. But there is a way to prove me wrong: Re-friend your friends and relatives who voted for Trump, and tell everyone who has ended relations with family members -- especially with parents -- to reach out to them and welcome them back into their lives.
(A previous version of this column appeared in the Jewish Journal.)
Tell the kids that you are giving their inheritance, which they don’t deserve because they have neglected you over the years, to the NRA.
If one of your relatives is actually a closet liberal, they’re probably keeping a diary of all of your microaggressions, just in case the Police State they dream of happens in their lifetime.
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I was on a group tour including people from both coasts about 6 weeks before the election. They were of course all libs and because I had no desire to engage in their political conversations, one of them actually smirked at lunch one day and said, “Isn’t it funny how everybody on this trip is a Democrat?”
That’s how they live their lives, assuming the trip was an extension of their “circle”.
Whoever you are do not marry this woman. Seriously. You will live to regret it.
Interesting article I can personally relate to. Have been un-friended by a cousin on Facebook due to my support of Trump.
“One great result is having to buy 65 fewer Christmas cards each year since...{:-)”
. . . not to mention all the money you are saving on postage!
Many years ago, around the Passover table at my Brooklyn Jewish liberal In laws house, my father quoted Bill Clinton during a heated conversation and said,”it’s the economy stupid.” My wife’s cousin thought he was talking about her and a melee ensued. My father was disinvited from ever again going to my in laws for Passover dinner.
My parents were insulted and left, very angry. I am sitting there in shock. My in laws turn to me and start bashing conservatives like my parents for their lack of intellect. My wife is looking at me knowing what was about to happen and knowing there was nothing she could do about it.
And then I struck. “If Hitler was a Democrat you would vote for him.” My in laws didn’t talk to me for 10 years. Several years back my wife’s family implemented a no politics policy at holiday dinners. They say it’s for my protection. I say it was for their protection.
“They were of course all libs”
That must have been excruciating! You have my sympathy for having been subjected to such torture, but also my kudos for being strong enough to endure it.
[And they’re cheap as hell too]
You got that right.
They’re fine spending someone else’s money though.
I just let them know that disgust they feel I got to live with for 8 years...the shocked looks are priceless.
When I read articles like this one, it brings tears to my eyes ... because I’m laughing so hard!!!!!
That’s wild. Liberals harbor such hatred.
Liberals love groupthink. Its the only thing that reinforces their false convictions.
1. I have no problem with this. For one thing, we are supposed to have freedom of assembly and be able to choose with whom we associate. That is their choice. Also, I imagine quite a few conservatives cut liberals from their lives after 0vomit was elected or would have after Hitlery was elected.
2. I have chosen not to cut all liberals out of my life. Only one who was an insufferable bully and with whom there could be no conversation because he never shut up. For the rest, I choose to educate them. Some by having rational discussions, and others by setting an example of how a conservative behaves. the fact that I am both conservative and “nice” just about makes some heads explode. In their warped world, that is an impossibility.
I don’t have enough time in my life for the people I deeply care about and where the feeling is mutual. Just not enough hours in the day.
So why should I mourn a “friend” or family member who wishes me out of their life over something as petty as politics? Heck, I would be tempted send them a thank you note.
Funny you mention that. Last week my oldest boy is in the Marine Corps based out in CA,a nd got leave for the first time since being there.
He met a girl, a young woman who attends college. He said he asked if she wanted to meet up later for dinner, a bit like a date.
She said yes, and they met.
He said within the first half hour she brought up politics , and her liberal views. He told me he quickly left without being rude,and she wanted to drive him back to base, to which he declined. She texted him later that night asking if they could meet, and he never did.
The young woman he said was good looking, but could never go with someone who is way out there, and feels she has to push her political views on the first date.
I told him that the problem is that she was born out there, she was raised out there, she goes to college out there, and so she thinks everyone is like her and her friends she grew up with.
I asked him if he tried to correct her as apparently she was coming out with all sorts of fake facts, to which he told me what was the point , she was so far gone that she could never understand anything outside her realm of life.
Yes! That’s why I had no desire to talk back to them and ruin my trip, it would have been a waste of breath!
And YOUR story reminds me of an immigrant friend I have, came to this country to live the American dream, took him 7 yrs to get citizenship, got married and divorced, now can’t find any conservative women to date - same type of thing. The women have no idea they would be labeled “liberal”.
Exactly. But I actually got rid of them first because I no longer could tolerate their stupidity quite frankly.
The left has had 40 years of Saul Alinisky intolerance, name calling conservatives while claiming THEY are the tolerant ones.
I would say that while they CLAIM they are tolerant, of race, sexual preference or religion, that THEY are only tolerant to the point of being skin deep, and are NOT tolerant of other’s beliefs when diametrically opposed to their socialistic agenda, regardless of how history has played that game. I have had many friends and family alienate me and my conservative friends just because of the fact we don’t agree with them. While conservatives have had to try to tolerate other very vocal views and cary on relationships for about four decades now.
Liberals are only tolerant skin deep.
Conservatives are tolerant to the bone.
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