Posted on 12/19/2014 7:21:27 AM PST by C19fan
Katie and Sam’s engagement story is a lot like most couples. There was a bended knee, a ring pulled from a pocket, an impromptu celebration with friends—but with one key difference: Katie was the one doing the asking.
“We had been together almost two years and I was confident in our relationship and in doing it,” says Katie, 26, who proposed to Sam at a friend’s party. “We had discussed marriage before, and the time just felt right. He was surprised, but very happy and said yes.”
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He chases her until she catches him. ;-)
I guess with today’s bolder woman, there are more instances of this. Yet, somehow I think that the formalities and niceties of “proposals” are well-engineered by the prospective bride, even if behind the scenes.
I guess this is from an innate sense of purpose and direction (i.e., keeping the prospective groom on track)....The annals of filmdom are replete with the many variations thereof. :0)
There’s a reason it has never been done this way and dare I sound like a sexist? Men and women are hardwired differently. This wouldn’t work because at the proposing age most of the time, (note the use of the word “most,” not all), most of the time the woman is ready to get hitched far sooner than the man. That’s just the way it is. If you had an equal amount of women proposing to men you’d see a lot more heartbreaks and a lot more premature breakups. If you two are right for each other, he’ll get to you when he’s ready, dear. If he’s taking too long, then move along.
Call me cynical but I thought somewhere in the article we were going to find out that Kate was once Kat Jones, a poor tortured woman imprisoned in a man’s body until the miracle of modern surgery freed her/him from this bondage... you know... the usual crap that’s floating around sites like Yahoo.
I agree that men and women are different . They are hard wired differently. Though it is not politically correct to say such things nowadays........
It does seem that women are ready to settle down or get married before men are. This is a basis for a common female complaint that he fears commitment or is avoiding committing to her.
I’ve seen enough women, family members, friends of the family etc. Who after two or three dates they announce to everyone that this is the one for them etc. It doesn’t always work out that way but I’ve seen a number of women with such reactions.
Whereas I have never seen any men I’ve known making future plans after a few dates with someone new.
Flame away, I know I have said some provocative things here.
Just saying in my experience it seems that women make up their minds about a man and seem ready to.move forward, sooner than their men are ready to take those steps.
After her ovaries have withered away?
If you think it is bad now, wait until the feminization of males has progressed further. 10 years from now, most males will be wearing dresses.
I see a future divorce in my crystal ball. Methinks if Sam wanted to get married that bad he would have already asked Katie. :-)
That happened to me. By the third date my GF was already practically picking out bridesmaids dresses with her girlfriends, which I didn’t know at the time.
I made her wait 6 months. The marriage is still going strong 19 years later.
I wonder if there are any statistics on the number of guys who have long-time girlfriends propose to them but say no? I mean, if you’ve been getting the milk for free, why buy the cow, especially if there are other cows around?
I’d bet more than a few “empowered wymens” have proposed and broken up at the same time.
I knew I wanted to marry my wife the first time I met her - we were in a big group, but we spent a couple of hours talking pretty much only to each other. That's all it took and I knew she was the girl I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. I didn't say outloud that I'd met the woman I wanted to marry, although I did tell my brother that I met a girl I really liked and was going to ask her out and I'd certainly never done that before. It was about three weeks later when a friend asked if I'd go out with a friend of his girlfriend's that I first said I was off the market permanently.
He definitely thought I was crazy. I wasn't crazy. I was sure. And more than half a century later, I still say marrying her is the smartest thing I've ever done. (Might not have been her brightest move, but that's another story ;) )
My ex wife proposed to me. Looking back it prob should have been a one night stand but lasted for 27 years! I was 26 and she was 19 and I virtually raised a teenager, that eventually became a wife at around 24, but I would not go through the stress again. I had a child from a previous marriage and she did not know the difference of love of a child versus love of a spouse. I have just now reconnected with my son. So in retrospect I would only marry a woman I proposed to. I try to not think I only accepted to not hurt her feelings but I did! We did have 4 kids of our own and she finally learned the difference. But she lost the love for the spouse in return! Sometimes it’s best to walk away.
Congrats on your ongoing happy marriage.
My sense is, a marriage where the woman proposes probably won't last long term.
I might have to think further about what I posted, though, because it seems women are asking for and seeking divorces in most instances these days.
And squat to ... never mind.
There is a reason men do the proposing. Anything else is lack of interest or leadership. Not to mention horrifically unromantic. Is a woman that takes the lead like this someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? Is a man who would allow it someone you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Even this guy gets it!;)
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