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What Would FReepers Do? A Question to the Forum.
RFace's Life ^ | 3.17.2007 | RFace

Posted on 03/17/2007 1:44:41 PM PDT by rface

I now know what I am going to do – But I am curious as to what other FReepers might do when faced with this situation.

What will I do?? (I know what I am going to do.)

I have a cousin whom I love, and with whom I am close. I grew up with this guy. We are both in our middle 40s. We both have gone through our teen-age years with some trouble along the way – and we both now hold good jobs. We both have done pretty well – in spite of our earlier attempts at self-destruction…..and in spite of some heavy burdens that life has thrown our way.

I was married a few months ago (my 2nd…and my last) and I invited my cousin and his “significant other” to our wedding. They flew in from Boston and my wife and I were very happy to have them here to be at our wedding.

I am very close to my cousin. I also like, and get along with, his “significant other”. My Cousin and I don’t see eye-to-eye on some things, but he did vote for Bush in 2000. And we agree on a lot of taxation and financial conservative views. He’s pretty much conservative-ish….sort of…(not that his politics has anything to do with this issue) ….except that he’s gay and he sent me a wedding invitation for me and my wife to come to the wedding in Massachusetts.

My Cousin knows where I stand on the Gay Marriage issue…. And my wife shares my view. Our views are not secretly held. We both think a Marriage is between a man and woman – but we both also think “civil unions” may be an option that Gay couples should be able to utilize.

The Question: Would you go to a family members Gay Wedding under a situation like this??


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KEYWORDS: gay; gaymarriage; homosexualagenda; perverts; sendmyregrets; thanksbutno; theanswerisno
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To: rface

Would you go if he was about to profess his love and commit his life to a cocker spaniel?


21 posted on 03/17/2007 1:54:19 PM PDT by papertyger
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I agree with duckman. Family's too important. Go, be gracious, and don't let them see any hint of disapproval on your part, even if you're about ready to leap out of your skin.


22 posted on 03/17/2007 1:55:39 PM PDT by LibWhacker
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To: rface

I kinda think I would go, and here's why:

"Family" ain't the rest of the world. They are not the media or the politicians or anybody else.

They are the ones who stand by you no matter how bad you screwed up.

And it sounds like you and this fellow are really close.

If you chose to go, you can always make it clear to him before that you're going NOT TO RECOGNIZE GAY MARRIAGE but SO THAT HE CAN REMEMBER YOU BEING THERE ON A SPECIAL DAY.

JMHO.


23 posted on 03/17/2007 1:55:46 PM PDT by djf (Democracy - n, def: The group that gets PAID THE MOST ends up VOTING THE MOST See: TRAGEDY)
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Since he knows where you and your wife stand on the gay issue, I would go. Love and family are more important, I believe. Let him know that you don't agree, but more importantly you love him regardless.


24 posted on 03/17/2007 1:56:17 PM PDT by moonpie57 (Fred Howell McMurray, Jr. The man on my POW bracelet.)
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To: rface
I would go. He presumably knows your views. He, not you, will stand before the Great White Throne on judgment day for this action.
25 posted on 03/17/2007 1:56:26 PM PDT by Citizen Tom Paine (An old sailor sends we need a 800 ship Navy.)
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To: rface
The Question: Would you go to a family members Gay Wedding under a situation like this??

Yikes! Let me put it this way. If you go, imagine the company you'll be in. How does that make you feel? I don't think I could put myself in that position. Let me explain:

Homosexuality is only definable as a sexual act. Lots of men love one another. Father/son...that sort of thing. Homosexuality is crossing the lines into depravity.

The only way one knows another man is gay is if they advertise the fact.

Consider that in an office environment... If a man did the something similar to a woman who wasn't interested, sat..tell a bad joke with sexual connotations or make a pass it would be considered "Sexual Harassment".

An unwilling, non-interested man having homosexual tendencies inflicted upon him would be experiencing the exact same feelings.

Homosexuals who inflict their filth upon unwilling, non-interested individuals are openly harassing them. It's blatant sexual harassment. If it was in an office environment, you could sue and with a good lawyer...win. I'm waiting for someone to file a suit and shut office freaks down for good.

I couldn't subject myself to that. I'd react...poorly and it wouldn't be a nice experience.

So if you know the environment, and you are willing to endure what is certain to be a flaming experience then go. Just know what you will be subjected to. A lot of them aren't nice about impressing upon others their personal perversions.

If you can deal with it you've got a stronger stomach than I do.

And yes, I know several gay people. They know better than to put me into a situation like that and we can deal with other in a respectful manner. As a result I "know nothing" about their personal habits and have nothing to say about them.

26 posted on 03/17/2007 1:56:31 PM PDT by Caipirabob (Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: rface
Tough question... but seeing that his 'gayness' hasn't offended you enough to cut your ties with him... I guess you're somewhat obligated to attend.

You kind'a set yourself up for this.

27 posted on 03/17/2007 1:57:01 PM PDT by johnny7 ("We took a hell of a beating." -'Vinegar Joe' Stilwell)
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To: rface

Are you kidding me of course the food would be delightful


28 posted on 03/17/2007 1:57:33 PM PDT by al baby (Hi mom)
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To: rface

I would not attend. I would send a gift.


29 posted on 03/17/2007 1:57:45 PM PDT by Tax-chick (John Edwards is a gamma male. "Yeah, buddy, that's his own hair!")
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To: rface
First off, I'm stunned that he voted for Bush. I'd invite him to be a Freeper.

IMHO, homosexuals are suffering from a lack of love. They cannot be helped by negative behavior.

Go to his ceremony. If Massachusetts is arrogant enough to call this a wedding, let it be.

Love. Love is why we are here. Love is what family and friends are for. Let God be in charge and support your cousin.
30 posted on 03/17/2007 1:57:47 PM PDT by Vision ("You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed." Luke 10:41-42)
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Go.

He knows how you feel and still invited you. Family is family.

I'm a firm believer in picking your battles wisely. This shouldn't be one of your battles IMO. Going doesn't imply you support gay marriage, it just implies even though you don't agree with your cousin he is still your cousin.

Someone else said it and I agree - you will regret it later if you don't.

And for what it is worth, I don't approve of gay marriage either so I have a good idea how you must feel.

31 posted on 03/17/2007 1:58:03 PM PDT by Condor 63
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I wouldn't go. If you love your cousin, let him know how you feel about his lifestyle in a way that won't damage your relationship, if that's possible.

You don't appear to be comfortable with going either or you wouldn't ask us. :-)

I vote for not going. Send a gift though.


32 posted on 03/17/2007 1:58:46 PM PDT by Melinda in TN
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To: rface

No, any more than I would signal my approval of any other self destructive behavior.


33 posted on 03/17/2007 1:58:58 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Some people are too stupid to be ashamed.)
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"..but we both also think “civil unions” may be an option that Gay couples should be able to utilize."

I'd go. Wish them well. Like someone said...life is too short. I know of gays who have married females to hide their sexuality from families, friends, etc. That's despicable! At least your cousin is honest. I'll bet the wedding will be fun!



34 posted on 03/17/2007 1:59:00 PM PDT by toldyou
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To: rface

I wouldn't go


35 posted on 03/17/2007 1:59:11 PM PDT by Fiddlstix (Warning! This Is A Subliminal Tagline! Read it at your own risk!(Presented by TagLines R US))
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To: rface

Go.


36 posted on 03/17/2007 1:59:20 PM PDT by Sunsong
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To: rface

It would be hard for me to go. But I would send a card and gift.


37 posted on 03/17/2007 1:59:22 PM PDT by zook
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" I'll bet the wedding will be fun! "

A gay old time, no doubt.

38 posted on 03/17/2007 2:00:03 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Some people are too stupid to be ashamed.)
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To: rface

No.. He already know how you feel about the situation.
I would respond to the invite in a kind and gentle way with a re-cap of how you feel about gay marriage. Keep it on a positive note.


39 posted on 03/17/2007 2:01:20 PM PDT by The Mayor ( http://albanysinsanity.com/)
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I would definitely go. You have always been close to him, have obviously gone through a lot with him and seem to love him. You would not ignore his wedding if he was marrying a woman you couldn't stand. You would grin and bear it. I'm assuming his partner is probably someone you like and even if he isn't, grin and bear it. Don't hurt your cousin. You can go to the ceremony and leave the reception early. Or you can find a reason to skip the ceremony and just go to the reception. But you really need to attend one or the other or both otherwise your relationship will never be the same.


40 posted on 03/17/2007 2:01:59 PM PDT by kedd
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