51st Way to Leave Your Lover

Special to FreeRepublic ^ | 26 November 2005 | John Armor (Congressman Billybob)

[Willie Green]

Yusef found the kishka.

[Diana in Wisconsin]

Wasn't this an episode of "Friends?"

Oh, just trying to lighten the mood a little. Some things are not meant to be, though I completely disagree with your rationalization as to why she's left you, and/or why you're letting her go.

You might need to face the fact that there's more likely than not someone else in the picture. There usually is.

And I don't want to see a 'Why We're Breaking Up' Vanity Opus from Cyborg and Petronski in the future either, LOL! ;)

[GreenHornet]

My prayers are with both of you this evening, that the Lord will bring whatever is best for each of you into your lives.

[Paulus Invictus]

American Samoa is the place. My Samoan friends who told me about their favorite beach feast are from there. Is it not true that New Zealand corned beef is a big seller there? The 5-pound tins are big sellers in Hawaii too, along with the favorite Spam.

[No Longer Free State]

Until death or 'opportunity of a lifetime' do us part?

[BibChr]

Troll.

(c;

(Well -- it is Classic Troll Behavior{tm}!)

[bonfire]

Sure is. Strange, I tells ya!

[jla]

Our situation raises an interesting philosophical question. Would you, should you, leave your husband/wife if the chance of a lifetime – the chance of several lifetimes – came along?

No.

[Bouchart]

Hmmmm.

Good luck to both of you, but I can't help but feel that much more is going on than is being stated.

[Aracelis]

My prayers for both of you...

I hope you will both take some time to talk and consider carefully what each is gaining and losing. If the feelings between you are strong enough, I sincerely hope you will figure out some way to stay together.

Restaurants come and go, but a good mate is truly a very rare blessing.

[StarFan]

I question why he chose to post this now when she (Felicity Farquad) apparently left him in October. From one of her posts:

You want macabre, try this on for size: yesterday, my ex-husband helped me unload furniture. Without being asked, without being paid, and without so much as a word of complaint. Just because I needed the assist.

Where did he unload furniture, in Pago Pago? If her State flag is any clue, she left NC for Tennessee.

[Diego1618]

Good luck to both of you, but I can't help but feel that much more is going on than is being stated.

You nailed that one! I have a feeling we'll all be listening to Paul Harvey someday and get "The Rest Of The Story".

[deadhead]

Having read most of the responses on this thread, I have to ask what your thoughts are John & Kem.

What say you?

[Congressman Billybob]

She moved from NC to Tennessee to her mother's home, first. In two weeks or so, she leaves for Pago Pago. Often, details which are correct but only part of the story, lead to conclusions that are unwarranted.

John / BIllybob

[kstewskis]

Would you, should you, leave your husband/wife if the chance of a lifetime – the chance of several lifetimes – came along?

The right spouse, the "happily ever after" one, should be "the chance of the lifetime."

Not a job.

I'm very sorry that your marriage didn't work out (at her choice). May you find that "happily ever after" lady in your lifetime. You deserve better.

[Bigg Red]

I admire loyalty and devotion above ALL other things....:)

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Yikes! I admire loyalty and devotion above many other things, but I would not jump on the pyre. I might go through fire for his live body but not for his dead one. :')

[Congressman Billybob]

To those who say, why did I write and post this column -- our relationship began on the Net, and both of us have been active on FR. So, it is logical that this be written and posted her.

As for those who say why now, when she left a month ago, I wrote this then. However she wanted to tell her grandmother personally (she's in Indiana), rather than her hear it from any other source. Her grandmother is also a dear friend of mine. So I honored her request to hold off a month in publishing this.

To those who say, there must be more to the story, I agree. The full story of one person, much less of two people, cannot be told in 700 words (standard column length). There are reasons why the general outline presented here is much more likely true, than not. Those, too, did not fit within the word limit.

As for those who pointed out that "better or worse" includes respect for spouse's employment opportunities. I deeply respect all those who wrote to say that they changed or dropped opportunities for the sake of their spouses, I respect their choices, and their relationships. But those did not apply in our relationship. The reasons why are both complex, and true.

I appreciate the best wishes that many have offered. I believe these choices will turn out for the best, all things concerned. None of the results are guaranteed, but that's more than any of us can be sure of.

Hope that answers some of the questions that participants in this thread have raised. I've been surprised how many people have taken an active role in this general discussion about the relationships between husbands and wives. It is the most important single relationship that any man or woman ever has. That said, it still does not guarantee success.

Does that make sense?

John / Billybob

[Amelia]

The why is unique, and extraordinary.

Lots of people leave because they think "the grass is greener" in some other pasture.

Most people don't need to go to the other end of the globe to find greener grass, however.