[Congressman Billybob]

To those who say, why did I write and post this column -- our relationship began on the Net, and both of us have been active on FR. So, it is logical that this be written and posted her.

As for those who say why now, when she left a month ago, I wrote this then. However she wanted to tell her grandmother personally (she's in Indiana), rather than her hear it from any other source. Her grandmother is also a dear friend of mine. So I honored her request to hold off a month in publishing this.

To those who say, there must be more to the story, I agree. The full story of one person, much less of two people, cannot be told in 700 words (standard column length). There are reasons why the general outline presented here is much more likely true, than not. Those, too, did not fit within the word limit.

As for those who pointed out that "better or worse" includes respect for spouse's employment opportunities. I deeply respect all those who wrote to say that they changed or dropped opportunities for the sake of their spouses, I respect their choices, and their relationships. But those did not apply in our relationship. The reasons why are both complex, and true.

I appreciate the best wishes that many have offered. I believe these choices will turn out for the best, all things concerned. None of the results are guaranteed, but that's more than any of us can be sure of.

Hope that answers some of the questions that participants in this thread have raised. I've been surprised how many people have taken an active role in this general discussion about the relationships between husbands and wives. It is the most important single relationship that any man or woman ever has. That said, it still does not guarantee success.

Does that make sense?

John / Billybob

[deadhead]

My prayers are with both of you. I am sorry that things didn't work out like you may have planned.

Wishing you both much success and happiness in the future.

[newberger]

I replied rather harshly in #52 but now realize that your column has to have reflected a much more complicated reality. Unfortunately, your 700 word limit made it sound very glib.

I really believe that divorce is the scourge of our country and conservatives no less than liberals or secularists are finding themselves divorcing in epidemic numbers.

My concern is that your column could add to that among Freepers and oters. I don't think that that is at all your intent.

You and Kemberly are in my prayers.

Paul (aka Newberger)

[Manic_Episode]

A vow is a vow.
What is the profit in gaining the world and losing your soul?

I speak to her with my comment. To you my condolences.