Posted on 11/08/2005 8:01:14 AM PST by TBP
Before the divorce rate began its inexorable rise in the late 1960s, the common wisdom had been that, where children are concerned, divorce itself is a problem. But as it became widespread -- peaking at almost one in two first marriages in the mid-1980s -- popular thinking morphed into a new, adult-friendly idea: It's not the act of divorcing that's the problem, but simply the way that parents handle it.
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Bingo -- that's it exactly -- what is missing from today's narcissistic environment. Before my recent break (after 5 generations of my family) with the Methodist church, my pastor (the 4th gay pastor in a row) was questioned during a Bible class about why our church was hiring a known adulterer about town as the construction company for restoring our sanctuary. The pastor breezily said that condemning the construction vendor's behavior was "inappropriate" -- the pastor's doctorate was in psychology. The group contained another couple of open adulterers, who were doubtless grateful for this dispensation, but as one of the dumped-spouses-with-a-child in the group, I felt completely disgusted.
Wow! You're a rarity 8-)
I see you are a controller. Same here. Going into budget season. Ugggggggggggggggggghhhh!!
And neither are *HYPOCRITES* welcome into the Kingdom of Heaven.. How many men good christian men are hooked on Internet Porn have secret affairs, this happens I see it in my own church and personally the Church does not even think that is the BIG SIN, but keep tithing keep the family together, keep asking Jesus for forgiveness and if you are weak when it comes to keeping your pants zipped or feeling Lust in your heart just pray...that's what it is...
good luck to you...its budget season here now too...than year end season...then tax return season...than August.
Its way better than working private though. The hours were a bit longer.
Like I said, be prepared, since you are clearly stating that you are willing to run the risk of damnation in order to do it your way.
This kind of thing is horrible, but the best outcome is repentence and the restoration of the marriage, right? Life can be messy.
Don't get all logical. You'll interrupt the daydream of the romantics. The older I get the more I realize that the reality of marriage is put to the test when you have children. It's hard work and a secure environment is so important them, so you do everything to stay together. But when it's just the two of you why put yourself in the position of a possible ugly legal entanglement?
Personally, I'm a proponent of perpetual dating for those past childbearing years.
So I guess you are casting the first stone...Unless you are PERFECT my friend then that is a Judgemental statement.
GOD knows my heart and he will judge me accordingly...
FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN?!?!?! Do you realize how far out into space you have to go to come up with that as a reason for children not wanting their parents to divorce? That's like saying 4 Year olds aren't pro abortion because "well they just fear the unknown"... That's absolute nonsense.
You might want to check up on those, lots of boys being raised by moms, who had dads before the divorce winding up in lots of trouble to. Particularly in their teen years.
Other than real abuse or neglect there is nothing other than selfishness as any other justification for divorce.
plank, eye
This would do well for everyone to remember:
Matthew 7: 1-5
Mat 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
Mat 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
Mat 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Mat 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam [is] in thine own eye?
Mat 7:5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
oh, i see you made that point.
sorry for stepping in
EXACTLY!
Although some say you are going to HEll!
What is wrong with having a great relationship with a person that when you both want to see each other you get together and enjoy each other then go home when it's time no arguing no baggage a great time with someone where there is a genuine WANT when you want to get together..
Good Post! Thank you...:)
Oh, well I've seen tons of folks enter into marriage with full on blinders on.. not having a clue what they are in for.
Its not a matter of being "madly" in love... its a matter of not being realistic in expectations.
Nope, I'm an ordinary human sinner like everybody else. But God is perfect and he expects us to look at his will for our lives, not our judgment.
"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding." -- Proverbs 3:5
"For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginnning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery." --Jesus, in Matthew 19:8-9
Sure it is..But I beg to say most people are AFRAID, afraid of being alone afraid of being unloved afraid to be on there own. I can honsetly say I am not afraid on being alone, although lonliness would be hard wether married or un-married.
I have expereinced BOTH being lonely while married and being happy being alone...
See post # 137.
Do I wish I grew up in an intact family? Yes. But I was born of two people who should not have ever gotten married in the first place, so what are you going to do?
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