Thank you for your prayers and very thoughtful notes of encouragement and ideas.
Sadly, my Mother has passed away. She passed away sometime before I had posted this Prayer Request, but I didn't find out until about an hour later.
When I heard the news about her suddenly becoming very ill just yesterday, Sunday, I was in shock and remain so.
I live in Los Angeles, she's in Columbus, Ohio and we talked several times a month by phone. She's a real character, anyone who knew her said the same. I loved her, she was my Mother.
Anyway, I took the phone and for some reason, after talking to the nurse the last time, I turned the ringer off. I think I had intended to get to bed to get some sleep, but instead got on the computer and started looking for airfares. I had too many things going on at once. The list of things to do yet half written down, oh yeah right, the laundry before we would leave, what bills are due...
I had posted this Prayer Request, then went back to searching for airfares, airports, checking back on my notes on what the nurse said, what my brother said and then I looked at the phone's caller id thing and saw that someone had phoned and that it was the hospital.
I have since learned that my Mother was not doing well by 3:00 a.m. EST so they had to intubate her. She had had an oxygen mask on from her first admittance to the ER Sunday morning.
For the size of my Mother, 90 pounds, 5 feet 2 and feisty she had the strength of never quitting, never giving up in defeat and a very strong faith in God.
She requested they pull the oxygen giving tube out one half hour after they inserted it. She wanted everything pulled off and then they gave her some painkillers. My brother did not tell me the details when we spoke sometime around 5:00 a.m. EST, when he came to the nurse's station phone, just that he didn't think she would make it. 58 minutes later she was gone.
It's uncomfortable right now. I hope she was pain free. She had what they describe as a heart attack in her small intestine, they call it an intestinal infarction. A blood clot blocks blood vessels in the intestine and the intestine constricts and part of it dies off.
When she was seen in the hospital ER on Friday, they had thought she either had the flu (nausea) or a serious case of constipation. She was given a laxative and sent home.
Sunday morning a friend checked in on her and was alarmed at her appearance. My Mother wasn't feeling too hot so the paramedics got her to the hospital where the ER thought she was in extremely bad shape. She stabilized soon though and she was offered surgery to correct the problem with her intestine.
For my Mother, she would probably say it was not her preferred way to leave God's green earth. Apparently when asked "how are you feeling?" by the Doctor in the ER yesterday (Sunday) after they had been examining her, her very typical and classic response as always was "Why with my fingers of course!" She was a character.
I loved her and sure hope she knew it.
Moms always seem to know everything, including this.
I'm sad to hear of your loss. God bless and keep your family!
Dear bd476,
You have my heartfelt sympathies at this difficult time.
My mother passed a year ago next Friday in a similar way and while you will go through some sad and questioning times in the days ahead please take comfort in the knowledge that your mother had a strong belief in our Creator and savior and she is now at peace in his loving embrace.
P.S.
She knows you love her still.
Go with God.
BD, I am sorry for your loss. Prayers for your entire family.
I lost my father last August.
There is a God in heaven who kows how to comfort the hurting.
I'm sure she knew how you felt.
My Grandmother died of the same thing. And my Father died ten years ago last week. My Mother is still with us but getting a little bit older and a little bit slower.
All I can say is give yourself some time and space and take care of yourself. When my Father died it took me three weeks to even "process" the information. Oddly enough, the best thing a friend of mine did was bring over a tray of lasagna which we could cut a piece from, microwave and eat. I never understood why people bring food when a relative dies. It's because you are too upset, busy, etc. to cook!
I don't want to sound like I'm trivializing things but please remember to take care of yourself. I know this must be absolutely devastating and yet we all have to follow God's plan. Thank goodness she was being treated in a clean hospital and relatively at peace and pain-free. I think of crime victims, auto accidents, etc. and the awful extra burden these families must have.
Sorry, everything I'm saying is coming out wrong. But you have friends who care.
My Mom uses that same line on the doctors too!
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bd476, My prayers go up for your you and your family. May your mother Rest in Peace. Lord, please provide this family with comfort and peace. Surround them with your love. In Jesus' precious name. Amen
Cindy, Pegita, Salvation-Thank you for the pings.
Blessings,
trussell
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I am praying for you. Remember God is in control and that you will see your mom again. Parting is hard but it is a comfort to know she is with her Savior. God bless you.
"I loved her and sure hope she knew it."
I'm sure she did.
May the Good Lord bless you bd476.
Amen.
Please be Lifted Up in our Father's Love for you, and please Feel our Love and Prayers that we are Sending Out to you, dear Freeper FRiend.
May Jesus send you and the family hugs of comfort and peace as He hugs your mom.
BD, I'm so sorry. Please know that I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
bd, I'm so sorry you weren't able to get to your Mother's bedside before she passed over into God's arms. But, there are reasons for everything, and you turned off the phone for a reason. It sounds like your Mother (being the strong Southern steel magnolia that she was) decided it was time to go "home". We Southern ladies have minds of our own. I'm proud of your Mom for making her own decision. She sounds like someone I would have loved and I understand her thinking. Be comforted in the fact that she knew where she was going. Hold on to the good memories and also know without a doubt that she knew how much you loved her. May God comfort you in the days to come.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss and join with the others here lifting you and the family up to God for His peace and blessing as you all adjust to her unexpected homegoing.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. God rest her soul - comfort you and her loved ones, and give you peace.
So sorry to hear of your mother's passing. Prayers for you and the family.
I'm sorry. You have my prayers.
It looks like this thread covers it.
God bless you.