Posted on 07/06/2002 5:00:19 AM PDT by buccaneer81
Has it ever actually gotten to the point where the jerk was so clueless that you had to threaten him with point number three? Just curious.
I only got the nerve to tell my husband about him after I went through legal channels. Usually the first two do it, but it is painful to admit that when you are moral it is not respected at all by many. They think you are being coy and playing hard to get. One guy actually had the nerve to say to me "I don't want to exchange rings or anything...just a nice night out, some dinner and we see where it goes." I was so insulted that I was speechless- a condition unknown to me.
One of the reasons I am no longer exceedingly active in the political scene is because of this. I used to get suggestive e-mails from alot of the guys I worked with. It drove my husband crazy.
Guys are not particularly happy about the lack of ladies. I mean ladies in the truest sense of the word, not just females....don't be surprised. You should hear some of the gals I know talk. Some are worse than the horniest guy.
The judge was a woman.
I knew it was the fault of the "devil's panites" LMAO!
In other words, nothing you posted indicates any level of new-found maturity in women. Ignoring the apparent fact that someone pissed in your Wheaties, you obviously have no idea what maturity actually means. HINT: It doesn't mean being able to buy and drive (horrors!) a car with a big engine. Any incompetent drooling imbecile can do that, so I personally wouldn't claim that as a mark of maturity and achievement unless your standards are really low.
Oh yeah, I'd forgotten about that. Guys who are going through a divorce can be a hot commodity -- its an interesting phenomenon. I remember women making passes at me that I would never have expected it from, before I was even divorced yet. Madness. It seems that there is something about a minty fresh divorcee that makes all kinds of women try and trade up. I have a reputation for being a nice guy and having a lot of other things that generally makes a guy marketable, but the sudden avalanche of attention from all directions weirded me out. Apparently I was more attractive to women at that stage than in any other status I've been in.
ObDisclosure: I was married briefly when I was young and stupid. No kids or bitterness or anything -- I didn't get raped over it. Ignoring the fact that we should never have gotten married, she was mostly an honorable girl.
How do you get that from my previous post? First of all, you really haven't defined "growing up" except to say that a male isn't apparently grown up unless he transforms himself to your liking by spending all his time doing "home" stuff. You cite "too many men in your neighborhood" as having spent the same time on the golf course as they did before they had kids. I doubt that statement is true, but regardless, I think that's between them and their wives. By the way, you do have their golf time documented, don't you? Or are you just making things up to further your anti-male agenda.
Those hobbies of yours are fine as long as you have time for them. I enjoy hobbies, too. So does my husband. But guess what? We're not so SELFISH as to put our pleasure ahead of our children's needs. Kids need love, and real love is spelled T-I-M-E.
Where, in my post, did I say that people shouldn't take time to play with the kids? (In fact, where did I say those were hobbies of mine?) Don't put words in my mouth. I would venture to say that your definition of "spending time" is way out of whack - I mean you accuse a good portion of the male population in the neighborhood of being wrong while you claim to be right. The law of averages is not on your side.
Like I said earlier, I've heard your ever-growing accusations, but I've not yet heard from the other side. Something tells me it would be drastically different from what you present here.
I do hope you never marry.
I suspect that if I ever do, it will be with someone who isn't a control freak. You know, someone who knows what she wants and sees it in me. Not someone that would attempt to mold me to fit her variable definition of the ideal man.
General bashing then. It would have been much more forgivable if you had cited specific people to bash and given reasons for it. Instead, you bashed men "in general" as if to say that this is a normal trait of men. You were wrong, of course. Reading comprehension generally requires logical writing. You haven't made that leap yet.
Men have grown up, eh? That's why so many children don't have fathers anymore, and why men have laundry lists right down to chores expected, dress size, and hair color in what they will "accept" in a woman. What a howl; they may be homely, boring, and have a limited work ethic (and an ex and former family to support, but they demand everything.)
So many children don't have fathers any more precisely due to the easy divorces that women get. Have you still not read the article? It is the childish women (and NO, I didn't say all women), self serving as they may be, that have chased the fathers out of the house and taken a good chunk of their earnings to boot. And where did you find this horse-hockey about "laundry lists"? Yeah, many men are choosy about who they pick as mates, but are women not choosy? Or do you just look at the wallet and see how much you can soak him for at the divorce in 2 years.
If I didn't know any better, I'd say that you didn't like men. In fact, I'd say that you hate them so much that you'd marry one just to divorce him and take half his paycheck.
My father's generation was a generation of men. Mostly boys have been raised since WW2.
So marry your father.
Tortoise, you're wasting you time with this one. She's arguing like crazy, but has made so many leaps of faith that I can't keep track of her religion any more. She still hasn't read the original article, or has read it and decided that she likes the option of keeping that atomic bomb next to the bed so that she can rake her next victim over the coals financially. And all the while, she'll be trying to claim the high moral ground, whining "he wouldn't change", and "I thought he'd sell the Harley".
Funny how certain women make a bad choice, then somehow blame the man. What's not funny is that the court system lets them get away with it.
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