[Taxula]

Unfortunately...yes. I actually had someone banned from entry to my place of employment. Then he would wait in the parking lot ...I eventually did have to get a restraining order and God knows there were plenty of witnesses. I still have a co-worker walk to my car with me.

I only got the nerve to tell my husband about him after I went through legal channels. Usually the first two do it, but it is painful to admit that when you are moral it is not respected at all by many. They think you are being coy and playing hard to get. One guy actually had the nerve to say to me "I don't want to exchange rings or anything...just a nice night out, some dinner and we see where it goes." I was so insulted that I was speechless- a condition unknown to me.

One of the reasons I am no longer exceedingly active in the political scene is because of this. I used to get suggestive e-mails from alot of the guys I worked with. It drove my husband crazy.

[buccaneer81]

Sadly, there is gender equity in this area as well. I hadn't been separated from my wife more than a week before a couple of female co-workers tried to "comfort" me (one was married). Now, six months down the road with a single, that would have been another story. But the boldness I saw really amazed me.

[Phaedrus]

You sound like a "keeper" . . . ;-} No offense . . . so does your husband!

[Rytwyng]

...when you are moral it is not respected at all by many. They think you are being coy and playing hard to get.

How true. I stayed a virgin til my wedding (3 weeks ago). When I was single, I discovered that, "I'm saving sex for my wife", is the best seduction line ever invented -- it really brings out the tigress-in-heat in some women -- except, of course, that I actually meant it.

Sadly, so-called Christian women were the worst offenders; non-religious women get tired of the endless seduction game and tend to be quite respectful of a man who decides not to play, or who quits playing. But churchy girls... Never mind. Suffice to say, thank God I found a real Christian. It took me 22 years of searching, though (from 14 to 38.)