How do you get that from my previous post? First of all, you really haven't defined "growing up" except to say that a male isn't apparently grown up unless he transforms himself to your liking by spending all his time doing "home" stuff. You cite "too many men in your neighborhood" as having spent the same time on the golf course as they did before they had kids. I doubt that statement is true, but regardless, I think that's between them and their wives. By the way, you do have their golf time documented, don't you? Or are you just making things up to further your anti-male agenda.
Those hobbies of yours are fine as long as you have time for them. I enjoy hobbies, too. So does my husband. But guess what? We're not so SELFISH as to put our pleasure ahead of our children's needs. Kids need love, and real love is spelled T-I-M-E.
Where, in my post, did I say that people shouldn't take time to play with the kids? (In fact, where did I say those were hobbies of mine?) Don't put words in my mouth. I would venture to say that your definition of "spending time" is way out of whack - I mean you accuse a good portion of the male population in the neighborhood of being wrong while you claim to be right. The law of averages is not on your side.
Like I said earlier, I've heard your ever-growing accusations, but I've not yet heard from the other side. Something tells me it would be drastically different from what you present here.
I do hope you never marry.
I suspect that if I ever do, it will be with someone who isn't a control freak. You know, someone who knows what she wants and sees it in me. Not someone that would attempt to mold me to fit her variable definition of the ideal man.