[buccaneer81]

Though you would never know it, I have 5 kids. I say two things as an avoidance of temptation, or as a way to make sure that a situation does not arise where I am given a chance to compromise myself, (even the appearance of) 1:I have 5 kids (this is usually enough to send the flirtatious gentleman in the opposite direction) 2: My husband is 6'2 and weigh's 200 pounds (is the failsafe backup if the visual of 5 kids isn't enough.) and as a last resort ( because of the lack of courtesy this one comes into play more and more)3: I am calling the police if you bother me again

Has it ever actually gotten to the point where the jerk was so clueless that you had to threaten him with point number three? Just curious.

[Taxula]

Unfortunately...yes. I actually had someone banned from entry to my place of employment. Then he would wait in the parking lot ...I eventually did have to get a restraining order and God knows there were plenty of witnesses. I still have a co-worker walk to my car with me.

I only got the nerve to tell my husband about him after I went through legal channels. Usually the first two do it, but it is painful to admit that when you are moral it is not respected at all by many. They think you are being coy and playing hard to get. One guy actually had the nerve to say to me "I don't want to exchange rings or anything...just a nice night out, some dinner and we see where it goes." I was so insulted that I was speechless- a condition unknown to me.

One of the reasons I am no longer exceedingly active in the political scene is because of this. I used to get suggestive e-mails from alot of the guys I worked with. It drove my husband crazy.