Posted on 10/02/2024 6:49:49 PM PDT by Az Joe
After seeing Carter being wheeled outside yesterday on his 100th birthday I, being 70, couldn't help feeling some sympathy for him and some fear of being in the same situation somedays. He looked oblivious to his surroundings and maybe pretty miserable.
I watched my sister deteriorate and die last May from complication's associated with Parkinson's disease over several years, especially in her last few months. She was very miserable and helpless to do almost anything for herself.
If she had wanted to kill herself and end her early misery, she would have been helpless to do it on her own. In the end, she went into hospice care and lasted almost exactly 2 weeks before she died. The hospice worker said when she was being admitted that she probably had about 2 weeks, (I guess they have seen it many times).
My faith requires that I would be expected to endure my medical condition, whatever it was, until my natural end. Of course, this may impact my loved ones greatly, who would be caring for me at least in some ways until the end.
I don't like the idea of all the suffering that might entail for me but also the burden I would be on especially my only child, and other loved ones who are currently dying off themselves slowly.
Any thoughts Freepers?
Not the place to engage.
Bye
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No problem, and I will point out you are the one who “engaged”, not me.
Mom mom stopped eating at age 83. She would just curled her lip at food and say “I’m not hungry.” Dad had already passed a few years earlier. She didn’t want a feeding tube and we honored those wishes. I’m not even sure they administered a sedative to her. She went peacefully.
I think the pain is the result of what the disease is doing to you. Pain killing drugs are not a way of extending life - they don’t ‘fix’ anything except pain. They simply make what’s left of life tolerable.
I think it would be the height of cruelty to forbid them to someone dying, and the height of stupidity to forego them.
I believe that most people are not really afraid of dying - they’re afraid of pain.
You’re an inspiration to me; I’m a few years younger, and have gotten really lazy in the last few years.
Forward and Up!
Come unto Me and I will
Give you Rest.
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Jesus
You lie. I did not ask for any advice anywhere in my post. I asked for your thoughts. You responded with your unsolicited advice, and I responded back. You need to shove it pal. Sit down before you get knocked down
stupid ass Lol
Here's one from a couple weeks ago on our hike up to the Plain of the Six Glaciers at Lake Louise, Alberta.
I’m 69 and my wife is 68. She was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s in 2012 though the signs were there in 2011. We moved to FL to get established and a network of friends for when we retired. When she was diagnosed I promised her that I would be with her every step of the way until she no longer needed me. I retired on 12/31/2020 and had been taking care of in-house (convinced my employer to let me work from home) since 2016. She has been on hospice since 4/2023 and does not know me and does not really speak though she sometimes mumbles and occasionally will answer a question with a yes or no though I often doubt she understood the question. She may not know me but I know her and I still love her and will not abandon her to someplace else to take care of. We’re Catholics and she will be allowed to pass away a dignified natural death on God’s timeframe unless he takes me first. Next may we’ll celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary God willing.
I’m not afraid of death but I’ll do nothing to hasten mine or hers.
Thank you. God bless.
Very beautiful!
I think the tiny home, which could be nicely decorated, could turn a big negative into a big positive for all involved.
I've also thought about doing something creative with this large country house in which I'm living now. The two first floor master bedrooms are ideal for the elderly, and the second floor is a nice fit for visiting family members. There's a third floor too, which is well suited for younger kids. The front porch is, according to Randy the mail man, "the best sitting porch in the state".
It gets really exciting here when the delivery person comes with the latest Amazon package. At my age I've already forgotten what I ordered and it feels like Christmas (today Santa brought me three hand-held ham radios!).
Good thread.
Prayers for you and your wife.
I’m so sorry that your wife has to suffer Alzheimer’s at such an early age. Life can sure throw you curveballs when you don’t expect it. God bless the two of you!
Good tale. Yes, a “casita” or min-house put back would do the trick.
Your own place sounds like the ideal, multigenerational home/compound. No need for your son to have to provide a tiny house!
God bless you.
I took care of my Grandmother at home for many months, under similar circumstances. I think the most heartbreaking thing is that moment when you realize that they don’t recognize you anymore.
Only morbid ones.
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