Posted on 03/20/2024 3:20:25 PM PDT by grundle
Dear Pay Dirt,
I love my husband but he comes from a very wealthy family, whereas I raised my kids on a modest salary as a single mom. I had to sign a prenup when we got married and even if he dies before me, I will not be inheriting millions. He has been very generous with my two adult children, taking them on expensive vacations and such.
This I why my daughter’s behavior is such a shock. She, her husband, and their two girls live in a very expensive area and rent. They refuse to consider relocating based on their political opinions. My daughter called me to complain yet again about her living situation and then proceeded to berate me for not convincing my husband to go ahead already and buy her a house. She was “sick” of how we were flaunting our lifestyle in her face and said I needed to do more as her mother. We haven’t really spoken since and the thought of having this conversation makes me physically ill. I worked two jobs to give my children the best start in life. They graduated with no college debt and I was able to help pay for both of their weddings (this was before I met my husband). I haven’t spoken to my husband about my daughter’s demands because I know it will sour their relationship. What do I do here?
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Fine. Buy her a LEGO set.
If they all get along, the wealthy husband might offer advice on how to save, invest, plan... to his daughters-in-law. That doesn’t cost him anything and the kids can go on to help themselves.
Fine. Buy her a LEGO set.
The one who cheats or otherwise abandons their spouse seldom files for divorce. They’ve moved on and can’t be bothered with details.
So what that statistic really saying?
That is an unpopular idea because it puts the responsibility back on the person but it is true.
Now having good parents makes it easier for you to be a good person and having bad parents makes it more difficult but at some point it is just you and what you have chosen to become.
I notice one thing.
I homeschooled my kids and they had to pay for all education after high-school. They all did it via college loans which were immediately paid off or training programs and journeyman positions.
Noticed it with friends kid ytoo. The financially successful kids are the ones who paid their own way after high school for their education. They may have been living at home while they trained or finished their degree but they worked and went to schopl.
Dang! I should have casually dropped that expectation during one of my holiday visits to my parents when I was a young adult living 1,200 miles away. (And yeah, I paid for those airline tickets myself, even though Mom & Dad always offered to help.)
I always enjoyed the sound of my parents laughing hysterically.
I don’t think you are correct. No one owes anyone post secondary education or training. See my experience posted above.
You are welcome to your opinion. I respectfully disagree.
That’s a good way, imo, to help your kids end up in lower middle-class if they have to bear the full load themselves while more close knit families, like Asians or East Indians do better because families subsidize their progress.
How many of us have children who are more liberal than we are. 0/4
How many have fallen away from the faith they were raised in? 1/4
How many got involved with people who are more liberal? ⁰/4
How many send their children to public school? ⁰/4
You are welcome to your opinion. I respectfully disagree.
That’s a good way, imo, to help your kids end up in lower middle-class if they have to bear the full load themselves while more close knit families, like Asians or East Indians do better because families subsidize their progress.
Again, I repeat, my position is dependent upon whether they are earning my help by doing well. They would get no help if they thought it was to be used to not have to work.
This is very, very Wong!
Or after 30 or 30 years si gle a better fit than divorced
Give it some drama.
Drive the daughter to a fancy house in a fancy neighborhood.
Then tell the daughter you have a surprise for her.
Let the tension build.
Get out of the car with her.
Point to the house.
“You see that house. If you ever want to live in a house like that you will have to buy it with your own money.
Any questions?”
Your observations are very wise. We all have free will.
Did it occur to you that the father may have cut and run, or expected her to put up with infidelity, lying, gambling, alcoholism or drug abuse?
Read it
The Mom married the wealthy dude After the daughter was grown and graduated from college
Some of the posters on this forum live in a parallel universe where everyone behaves properly. It’s bizarre.
My sister did it to my mom, and her wife just did it to her. Both were so mean I left them for dead years ago.
Damn....
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