Posted on 12/23/2023 5:27:35 AM PST by lowbridge
They say not to speak ill of the dead, but a Michigan woman did so in writing a scathing obituary about her “violent, hateful, and cruel” mom.
Gayle Harvey Heckman accused her mom, Linda Lernal Harvey Cullum Smith Stull, who died Dec. 12, of condoning sexual assault against her, as well as lying about who her biological father was, the Sturgis Journal reported.
She revealed so many skeletons in the closet that the publisher removed the obit from the Three Rivers news site when readers complained about its shocking contents.
“Well, honestly, I wanted to write it for myself because I wanted to clear my name,” Heckman told the Journal on Thursday.
“For 24 years and before that, my mother has had to come up with a reason as to why her daughter isn’t in her life that doesn’t make her look like a monster. … I had to reclaim my name,” she told the outlet.
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“As a mother, Lernal was violent, hateful, and cruel. She physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, and financially abused Gayle,” the print obit states, according to the outlet.
It also names one alleged abuser, an ex-husband of her mom’s whom the Journal did not identify.
“Lernal accused Gayle of ‘trying to steal her husband’ and proceeded to beat her senselessly,” the obit reportedly says.
“Gayle and her family forgive Lernal and hope that she has found peace,” it reads.
But the obit concludes, “Lernal will not be missed by Gayle or her family. They all understand the world is a much better place without her.”
Heckman said she found it cathartic to pen the vicious obit.
“I wasn’t trying to be hateful, I genuinely … don’t have any hate. I am angry,” she told the Journal.
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The mother might have had a different version.
The sexual abuse probably wasn’t known outside the family and took this woman’s experience to another level from most people’s.
Don't bother wondering! In 95% of all cases, it was the expressed wish of the Deceased that no services be held.
In the other 5% of the cases, it might be a combination of
1) No money available for services;
2) The Bereaved don't want strangers, golf buddies, etc. showing up at the service and peppering them with questions ("So, where's the banquet table?" "Was it AIDS?" "Say, what about those golf clubs Freddie has in the garage? If no one else wants them..."). They may be holding a private (family, only) memorial amongst themselves, but see no need to advertise that fact;
3) The next of kin simply don't want or see the need for services.
4) Religious reasons (the Deceased belonged to some crackpot religion and may even have requested that the "Grand Poobah" himself officiate; the Bereaved would rather avoid that entire issue).
Regards,
That has some application to politics. Kamala Harris. Amy Klobuchar. Sheila Jackson Lee. Some politicians have had high turnover rates for employees. Trump did too, though there were other reasons for that.
Lucky you!
There are numerous cases where the worst possible outcome occurred. Where the "unthinkable" did happen.
But I guess that you were "special."
Regards,
Woman wears here last names like "kill marks" below a fighter canopy.
Well, daughter could have taken a selfie of herself taking a dump on momma’s grave, so there is that.
That’s impressive! Dude was an Ace on both fronts!
Bull Cheese. She us a mean bitter woman who better learn the power of love and forgiveness before her hatred consumes her.
My late MIL.
I worked with a lady that passed away before she could retire & her mother had survived her. The mother penned an obituary that blamed the company and the president for her early death. Couldn’t believe the newspaper allowed it and the president was a nice person.
Yes, some horrible things have happened to the innocent. When we finally realize that eternity is more real and more important than the vapor that this life we have on earth is, we will have peace, if we will just trust the Lord.
i don’t believe in curses!!! the truth’s the truth.
That's moving the goalposts to infinity. The statement "My childhood would have been even worse if there had been no divine intercession" is unfalsifiable.
The statement "Even a hideous life of constant abuse, torture, and injustice at the hands of true monsters can be compensated for by an eternity in a pleasant Hereafter" is the epitome of cynicism.
Regards,
I would not do it but then my mom is a normal person.
Take their stuff and sell it. Take money from their wallet. Steal their identity and use it to take out loans.
Lots of ways.
And the police and prosecutors quite often will do nothing about it.
They will tell you that you should "work it out" with a stupid smile on their face like stealing from someone and trashing their credit is the same as not putting dirty dishes in the sink.
Sometimes the loudest notes in a piece of music are the ones not played.
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