Posted on 06/29/2023 9:25:13 AM PDT by NohSpinZone
Four months before my daughter’s wedding, she told me that her uncle (my brother, “Dave”) would make her feel unsafe if he was a guest. She asked me not to invite him.
My daughter is very politically progressive, as are many of her friends, and although she and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.
Dave has always been very nice, so my daughter’s request surprised me.
I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.
SNIP
Afterward, I sent him a card and pictures from the wedding, all in an effort to make him feel like he was not being totally left out.
I have not heard from Dave since then. When my siblings found out what I had done they were angry with me.
That is just one problem.
Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.
In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.
She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.
My husband says I should drop it – but I can’t. Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.
How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?
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this girl is a snot, unless Dave molested her. I’d think letter writing Mom of Bridezilla woulda mentioned that, though.
For all that think this is made up, sadly we have family just like this.
“Friends are the family you choose.”
Beautiful
Great job.
When my daughter got married, {about 40 years ago} I was on the verge of bankruptcy but had about $ 40K left in the bank and spent it all on her wedding.
I decided that if I was going broke, what the hell.
I had an open bar, limos, top shelf booze, a great venue and most said it was the best wedding that they had ever attended.
It was so long ago that politics were never even considered.
I recovered from my debt pit, and never regretted going all in for the wedding.
My mother attended, so there was at least one DemonRAT there, God rest her soul.
Wow.
But she sent him a “very nice note”!
It’s not stupidity, it’s a programmed conformity. It’s become so normal to denounce your relatives and friends as racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic evildoers that these indoctrinated kids truly don’t understand why the denounced party doesn’t apologize on the spot. After all, they signalled their virtue as loudly as they could.
Now they can pretend to be victims.
I know some people whose children really have done this to them (without asking for money afterward, thankfully), so I might be just a tad bitter.
That’s far better than the response “Amy” gave.
The brother should send them a wedding card wishing them well and not put a dime in the card.
See post 89.
The petty behavior is coming from your family, honey.
And what an entitled brat you raised who thinks that after telling someone they are not invited to her wedding, she is still expecting a VERY generous wedding Gift.
Dave is better off without that bunch in his life.
This woman has far more to be embarrassed over than her brother.
Yeah, I guess nothing should surprise me at my age. But sometimes things still do.
YES! That would be perfect.
Dave handled it just right. Silence in this instance is the best revenge. This tortures the sister because she knows deep down how wrong she is. It also means Dave gets to enjoy not seeing her at family functions as she sounds like a complete loon.
How do you write a nice note telling Dave he isn’t invited?
I’m the executor of my mom’s will.
Maybe I’ll remember when the time comes.
You obviously don’t know many white female Democrats. This is exactly how they act. They have so much moral authority in their minds, that this is perfectly justifiable to them. In short, white female Democrats are often insane and are the most problematic demographic in our country.
Dave should send back a card with a picture of money in it.
That’s blunt man!
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