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Ask Amy: We told him not to come to the wedding, but we still wanted his money
Chicago Tribune ^ | 6/29/2023 | By Amy Dickinson

Posted on 06/29/2023 9:25:13 AM PDT by NohSpinZone

Four months before my daughter’s wedding, she told me that her uncle (my brother, “Dave”) would make her feel unsafe if he was a guest. She asked me not to invite him.

My daughter is very politically progressive, as are many of her friends, and although she and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.

Dave has always been very nice, so my daughter’s request surprised me.

I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.

SNIP

Afterward, I sent him a card and pictures from the wedding, all in an effort to make him feel like he was not being totally left out.

I have not heard from Dave since then. When my siblings found out what I had done they were angry with me.

That is just one problem.

Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.

In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.

She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.

My husband says I should drop it – but I can’t. Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.

How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?

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TOPICS: Business/Economy; Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: amydickinson; askamy; chicago; chicagotribune; conservative; demagogicparty; demwit; entitlement; illinois; mediawingofthednc; partisanmediashill; partisanmediashills; progressive; ronklain; wedding; whiteprivilege
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The Ask Amy response is brutal as you might expect it to be. Assuming this is real, this is what we're up against in terms of the "progressive" mindset when it comes to politics and entitlments.
1 posted on 06/29/2023 9:25:13 AM PDT by NohSpinZone
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To: NohSpinZone

“Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.”

I’m thinking Dave would say the same.


2 posted on 06/29/2023 9:28:50 AM PDT by Not_Who_U_Think
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To: NohSpinZone
he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.

...almost certainly Trump.

This is another facet of Trump Derangement Syndrome (TDS). It is everywhere, like a pandemic, but We The People will overcome with the help of the Divine Providence of God Almighty.

3 posted on 06/29/2023 9:30:23 AM PDT by Jim W N (MAGA by restoring the Gospel of the Grace of Christ (Jude 3) and our Free Constitutional Republic!)
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To: NohSpinZone

I think Dave has learned what his family truly is interested in from him.


4 posted on 06/29/2023 9:32:12 AM PDT by KC Burke (Diversity, Inclusion and Equity is not another way to spell GOD but it is a way to spell DIE.)
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To: Jim W N

Yup. Send a “mean Tweet”...Sorry...can’t cough up the $1K in the Biden economy.


5 posted on 06/29/2023 9:33:32 AM PDT by gundog (It was a bright cold day in April, and the clocks were striking thirteen. )
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To: NohSpinZone

Yes. I know liberals just like this. Total narcissists.


6 posted on 06/29/2023 9:33:40 AM PDT by Seruzawa ("The Political left is the Garden of Eden of incompetence" - Marx the Smarter (Groucho))
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To: NohSpinZone

If the tables were turned, and a conservative bride excluded leftist Uncle Dave, I can almost guarantee the following would have happened:

1. Uncle Dave would melt down publicly and privately and doxx the bride.

2. The bride would feel vindicated in her decision, and enjoy her wedding.

3. Uncle Dave would inquire if he was missed at the wedding, and why hasn’t anyone asked about him not sending a gift.

4. The bride would reply “Uncle who?”


7 posted on 06/29/2023 9:34:16 AM PDT by DoodleBob (Gravity’s waiting period is about 9.8 m/s²)
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To: NohSpinZone

Hahah. Been there...done that.


8 posted on 06/29/2023 9:34:26 AM PDT by RoosterRedux (See my FR homepage for a link to the entire Bible narrated by David Suchet on youtube. FREE!)
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To: NohSpinZone

This is a great one for Matt Walsh’s “Am I The A-hole” segment.
This fruitcake and her daughter are the A-holes. Uncle “Dave” is a wise dude.


9 posted on 06/29/2023 9:35:03 AM PDT by lefty-lie-spy (Stay Metal)
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To: NohSpinZone

There’s givers and there’s takers in life.

Dave is a giver, but not a sucker.

Dave’s family are takers.


10 posted on 06/29/2023 9:36:16 AM PDT by jacknhoo (Luke 12:51; Think ye, that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, no; but separation.)
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To: Not_Who_U_Think

I totally agree with uncle Dave except one thing: I would send her the album, “Spirit of the Wild” from Ted Nugent. I would recommend her to play the song, “Kiss my ass!”.


11 posted on 06/29/2023 9:36:26 AM PDT by DMD13
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To: KC Burke

The letters says that the other siblings were angry too. So maybe the entire family aren’t all entitled PoSes like this s*** and her bridezilla daughter.


12 posted on 06/29/2023 9:36:50 AM PDT by NohSpinZone (First thing we do, let's kill all the lawyers)
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To: NohSpinZone

This was an astonishing read. There was so much to “unpack” in that missive.

I forget sometimes that there are people just like this out there I never cross paths with.

Thankfully.


13 posted on 06/29/2023 9:36:53 AM PDT by rlmorel ("If you think tough men are dangerous, just wait until you see what weak men are capable of." JBP)
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To: NohSpinZone

If I were Uncle Dave, I’d send her husband a card with a divorce attorney listing.


14 posted on 06/29/2023 9:37:28 AM PDT by rfreedom4u ("You may all go to hell and I will go to Texas")
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To: NohSpinZone

My mom, who had early dementia had the temerity to forget my niece’s fiancé’s name so the little skank emailed and uninvited her grandma to the wedding.

My mom was crushed. She still sent a gift. (I told her not to. I also told her that the little brat would be pretty regretful in a few years when grandma is dead.)


15 posted on 06/29/2023 9:37:30 AM PDT by cyclotic
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To: lefty-lie-spy; jacknhoo

We all like Dave!


16 posted on 06/29/2023 9:37:49 AM PDT by rlmorel ("If you think tough men are dangerous, just wait until you see what weak men are capable of." JBP)
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To: NohSpinZone

Dave’s not here, man!


17 posted on 06/29/2023 9:38:04 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: NohSpinZone

This mindset is the cancer that is killing our country and culture.

Good for Uncle Dave.


18 posted on 06/29/2023 9:38:09 AM PDT by SharpenedEdge (Stockpile. Prepare. Arm. Train. A Storm is coming.)
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To: DoodleBob

Put succinctly, this is the noxious bride telling her uncle, with the dingbat mother’s approval, “I hate your guts and you are not invited bc you are a Trump supporter but send your usual voluntary gift of $ 1000 anyway”. And he gave the correct answer, NO.


19 posted on 06/29/2023 9:38:19 AM PDT by laconic
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To: cyclotic

That is so sad. People are weird.


20 posted on 06/29/2023 9:38:32 AM PDT by rlmorel ("If you think tough men are dangerous, just wait until you see what weak men are capable of." JBP)
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