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Ask Amy: We told him not to come to the wedding, but we still wanted his money
Chicago Tribune ^ | 6/29/2023 | By Amy Dickinson

Posted on 06/29/2023 9:25:13 AM PDT by NohSpinZone

Four months before my daughter’s wedding, she told me that her uncle (my brother, “Dave”) would make her feel unsafe if he was a guest. She asked me not to invite him.

My daughter is very politically progressive, as are many of her friends, and although she and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.

Dave has always been very nice, so my daughter’s request surprised me.

I wrote Dave a very nice note, telling him that we would not be comfortable with him at the wedding and that he would not be invited.

SNIP

Afterward, I sent him a card and pictures from the wedding, all in an effort to make him feel like he was not being totally left out.

I have not heard from Dave since then. When my siblings found out what I had done they were angry with me.

That is just one problem.

Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.

In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.

She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.

My husband says I should drop it – but I can’t. Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.

How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?

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TOPICS: Business/Economy; Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: amydickinson; askamy; chicago; chicagotribune; conservative; demagogicparty; demwit; entitlement; illinois; mediawingofthednc; partisanmediashill; partisanmediashills; progressive; ronklain; wedding; whiteprivilege
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To: rlmorel

Is Dave a FReeper? We could use his kind.


41 posted on 06/29/2023 9:48:04 AM PDT by rktman (Destroy America from within? Check! WTH? Enlisted USN 1967 to end up with this💩? 🚫💉)
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To: NohSpinZone

Assuming this is real.....


Yeah, I almost have trouble with that assumption myself. Hard to believe anyone would be this obtuse, but it is possible. The fact that the other siblings were angry with her should clue her in. I’m kind of surprised there wasn’t a larger family boycott of the wedding.


42 posted on 06/29/2023 9:49:11 AM PDT by rbg81
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To: x

well it may be made up, but if so- it still is very typical of how liberals act- and far too many families have run into this exact same scenario no doubt


43 posted on 06/29/2023 9:49:15 AM PDT by Bob434
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To: NohSpinZone

The true character of a liberal on full display.


44 posted on 06/29/2023 9:49:32 AM PDT by falcon99 ( )
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To: cnsmom

Yeah. Libs would figure he should send more like $1,200...because of inflation.


45 posted on 06/29/2023 9:49:35 AM PDT by gundog (It was a bright cold day in April, and the clocks were striking thirteen. )
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To: NohSpinZone

Me thinks somebody was scamming Dear Amy.


46 posted on 06/29/2023 9:49:49 AM PDT by KevinB (Word for the day: "kakistocracy" - a society governed by its least suitable or competent citizens)
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To: AdmSmith; AnonymousConservative; Arthur Wildfire! March; Berosus; Bockscar; BraveMan; cardinal4; ...
What a maggot.

47 posted on 06/29/2023 9:50:02 AM PDT by SunkenCiv (If a-holes could fly, this place would be an airport.)
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To: NohSpinZone
This is a party where the majority seem to agree that men are women if they simply identify as such.

They don't believe that. They're just using the issue to buy votes and eventually implement their radical agenda. Votes is how they reach their goals. Radicalizing the people is how they reach their goals. But, very few democrats believe that a man can become a woman or that a woman can become a man. It's unnatural and they know it, but, they prefer to ignore the truth, because the truth gets in the way of their agenda.
48 posted on 06/29/2023 9:50:25 AM PDT by adorno
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To: NohSpinZone

Still reading, but what is “she told me that her uncle (my brother, “Dave”) would make her feel unsafe if he was a guest.” ? Unsafe how, exactly? Is the uncle a brute who will smash everything after a few drinks? (Including bridesmaids) Or is he more likely to refuse to use some weirdo’s preferred pronouns and hurt their feelings? The notion of someone feeling “unsafe” has been stood on its head. I feel sorry for the pathetic liberals growing up today who are so fragile they will make sporting a tie-dyed T shirt and a man-bun while playing a spirited round of hacky-sack look like legendary he-men who had just sacked a village. They will be no match for those tiny Chinamen who will come to defeat them.


49 posted on 06/29/2023 9:50:30 AM PDT by bk1000 (Banned from Breitbart)
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To: Not_Who_U_Think
Dave’s behavior is what you should expect for being so boorish. Good for Dave!

Liberals spouting their "progressive" ideas in college expect us all to pay for them. There is nothing "progressive" about these feudal fascist ideas. Nuts to that as well.

50 posted on 06/29/2023 9:50:44 AM PDT by Vigilanteman (The politicized state destroys aspects of civil society, human kindness and private charity.)
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To: Nea Wood

The bride would “feel unsafe” if a conservative was at her wedding.


Yeah. If there sister was any kind of a real parent, she should have pushed back on the ridiculous nature of this statement.

But, as I posted earlier, this whole letter is so ridiculous, it’s hard to believe it’s real.


51 posted on 06/29/2023 9:51:00 AM PDT by rbg81
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To: Not_Who_U_Think

Award for the most clueless, selfish, petty, narcissistic and entitled snowflake response to Uncle/brother Dave... oh the #RustyIrony!!! (envelope please...)

“How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?”

If I was Dave I’d say: “Congratulations on your wedding niece and congrats Sis, be proud she’s turned out just like you. So sorry, but giving the newlyweds any of my money makes me feel unsafe, I know you’ll understand. You and new (”progressive?”) hubby can help save the planet by not having children.” Bestooya! Uncle Dave.


52 posted on 06/29/2023 9:52:25 AM PDT by FiddlePig (The greatest threat to our sacred liberty is to not value it!””)
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To: x

No, no, no! You have things mixed up-those are the Penthouse letters you are thinking of!!!!


53 posted on 06/29/2023 9:52:27 AM PDT by rlmorel ("If you think tough men are dangerous, just wait until you see what weak men are capable of." JBP)
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To: NohSpinZone

Me my gf and her family haven’t seen or heard from the niece since President Trump beat hillary.
Good riddence..


54 posted on 06/29/2023 9:52:35 AM PDT by mowowie
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To: rightwingcrazy

“The progressive mindset is to hate everything about conservatives with a white-hot passion, except their money”

There’s a bit of that addressed in “Atlas Shrugged”. A ne’er-do-well relative of Hank Rearden’s, BIL, I think, asked Hank to hand over a good deal of money. But he didn’t want his circle of friends to know it came from a capitalist.

It’s been decades since I read it, so am not sure if I got it right. But I think it’s something like that.

We have family who are happy to take our money when they want or need it. But have heard they bad-mouth us behind our backs.


55 posted on 06/29/2023 9:52:42 AM PDT by MayflowerMadam
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To: x

Sometimes but this is all too real See my post #39


56 posted on 06/29/2023 9:53:43 AM PDT by AbolishCSEU (Amount of "child" support paid is inversely proportionate to mother's actual parenting of children)
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To: NohSpinZone

So he’s not invited and doesn’t send a gift and the mom of bride is mad about it? Who’s really the “petty” one?😄


57 posted on 06/29/2023 9:53:48 AM PDT by pnz1 ("These people have gone stone-cold crazy")
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To: adorno

See my post #39


58 posted on 06/29/2023 9:54:14 AM PDT by AbolishCSEU (Amount of "child" support paid is inversely proportionate to mother's actual parenting of children)
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To: NohSpinZone

“Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.

How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?”

Well, step one would be to change your own petty behavior and apologize to Dave profusely. Then get your child to do the same.


59 posted on 06/29/2023 9:54:17 AM PDT by Boogieman
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To: adorno

[[The letter to Amy has to be made up. Nobody is that stupid, not even the worst of the democrats. ]]

Disagree- we have a cousin exactly like both the girl and her mom- We’ve been cut off from communicating with them, but they are still allowed to write and cry poverty and beg for money- She slams our politics, then got all huffy when we responded and wrote “ENOUGH- You don’t get to make up facts”-

Her cutting us off has been a blessing


60 posted on 06/29/2023 9:54:30 AM PDT by Bob434
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