Posted on 10/22/2022 5:28:17 AM PDT by MtnClimber
I was disowned by three close members of my family — two without explanation — and the pain of unbearable loss prompted my research. Hopefully, I can provide some understanding to many who are also experiencing this unusual attack on family and friends.
As early as 578 B.C., the legendary philosopher Pythagoras wrote in his Rules of Conduct,
Honor thy parents and thy nearest kin: Of other make the virtuous thy friend: Yield to his gently words, his timely acts; Nor for a petty fault take back thy love[.] (Runes, Dagobert, A Treasury of Philosophy, 1973)
For at least 2,600 years, the family unit was intact until the woke rewrote the meaning of family and true friendship. In a family relationship, the bonding, particularly with children, is profound. The possibility of loss or permanent separation is an unbearable thought. How did this concept of toxic family relationships evolve? In the past, physical, sexual, emotional, and verbal abuse were the primary causes for estrangement. Today, perceived attacks on one's mental health are the number-one cause for estrangement. Historically, the basics of family and true friendship meant working through disagreements. The philosophy once was agree to disagree and move on.
The BBC's article "Family Estrangement: Why Adults are cutting off their parents" (Maddy Savage, December 1, 2021) explains:
Polarised politics and a growing awareness of how difficult relationships can impact our mental health are fueling family estrangement, say psychologists.
"I am done" is the familiar term for dealing with disagreements with family and friends. Karl Andrew Pillemer, author of Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, surveyed families in the United States, indicating that one in four Americans was experiencing family estrangements. According to a British survey by Stand Alone, one in five families were experiencing the same.
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One of the goals of the left is to destroy the family unit so that only the state is left.
Our family rarely discusses politics. We know how it goes and no minds are changed. Some movement rightward by those on the left since Go Brandon was installed.
Little editing.
Hard to believe 3 family members would leave a family for no reason at all.
Scriptures are full of teachings instructing us to leave relationships with wicked or evil people, to be separate from them, to shun, outcast, and purge them from our midst. (1 Corinthians 15:33, Proverbs 13:20, Psalm 1:1, Proverbs 6:27, 1 Corinthians 5:11, 1 Corinthians 10:13 – these are just a few)
There was a time (1970s/1980s) when you only got hyped up on politics every four years for about three to four months. Presently, I’d say more than 75-percent of nation is hyped on a daily basis.
Even on a religious basis...it’s possible for me to get up and walk out of a church, if it more of a lecture on politics.
Court case over mom care split mine. Still ongoing. 2nd court date upcoming. Very confidant we will prevail. Dont want anything to do with siblings who put me and mom thru hell and expense last two years.
Both are in agreement, but one does not realize they are serving the other.
After watching many millennial’s in the workplace, I have concluded that they just don’t know how to talk to anyone. Meaningful discussions are rare and they just throw out the epitaphs of racist, sexist, gender hateful, etc. If they don’t get their way they just throw a hissy fit and pout. Not particularly good at any one thing, not even coding, sure there are exceptions, but not like there was in previous generations.
I am 65. Politics, religion, and sex were always off limits at family gatherings.
Estrangement from him protects the rest of us from a murder charge.
Bkmk
“I love my family. I just don’t like ’em very much.” — martin_fierro
Yes, on leaving relationships with wicked people. But these are simply matters of information (or miss-information). I have very limited relationships with two sisters because of politics. They simply REFUSE to listen to anything that challenges what they see on the mainstream media. They think conservatives & Republicans are evil & yet are oblivious to what their side is doing. And because Leftists make EVERYTHING about politics, it’s hard to have any lengthy conversation with them.
I saw my Dad and oldest brother almost come to blows over my brother’s vote for Jimmah Cahtah. He was trying to convince my dad to do the same thing. He stayed away for months after that. He eventually realised the error of his ways.
In non political family business, fast forward 42 years later and he decided that he deserved 60% of my mother’s estate. He was her appointed executor and padded every expense he could. As the youngest of 8 children, I hired an attorney to represent my other siblings and fought back and he decided to settle in front of the Judge instead of going to trial. He barely got his share and no out of pocket expenses.
He hasn’t spoken to any of us in over 2 years.
Leftists make EVERYTHING about politics
That IS surprising, I would think with family members there must be at least one subject you could discuss and maybe stay away from politics or at least somewhat end the conversation before it gets out of hand.
Personal boundaries protect us against harm from predatory, toxic and abusive people and sometimes reconciliation is simply not possible when problematic behaviors continue, humility is absent, or forgiveness is not given.
Anyone who has gone through the emotional blender of narcissist or borderline abuse knows this. Anyone who had been ripped off by close family members who are unrepentant knows this. Anyone who has been a victim of physical and/or emotional abuse knows this.
To remain in relationship with the abuser is to intentionally continue to suffer, which should not happen. Personal boundaries protect us.
I’m not an Andy Stanley fan, but he has an excellent four-part video titled “GUARDRAILS” (ewetoob), which addresses the need for personal boundaries. Boundaries protect us from greater harm and if anyone is struggling with relationship problems, this series is a good insight.
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
Proverbs 13:20
...if you associate with fools (in proverbs this can mean a number of things- people who are evil, lazy, slow to learn life’s lessons, low intellect, unwise, foolish, stupid etc), you will suffer harm. ...do this at your own peril. Notice it doesn’t say you’ll become unwise, it says you’ll suffer harm. This is in contrast to walking with the wise-in this case, just being around, walking beside, in the company of wise people, you don’t necessarily have to DO anything, yet you yourself, become wise.
Boundaries are necessary and we should have them in our personal lives.
I cannot fault anyone who has established boundaries to protect from personal emotional, financial, or physical harm.
If they don’t care about their money, they don’t care about your money.
If they don’t care about their marriage, the don’t care about your marriage.
If they don’t care about their health, they don’t care about your health.
The list of fools is endless, so guard yourself.
...that is all
I know, it’s sad.
MATTIAS DESMET INTERVIEWED BY TUCKER CARLSON - MASS FORMATION PSYCHOSIS AND TOTALITARIANISM
https://www.bitchute.com/video/kAATmssZlG80/
This interview is an hour long and worth every minute of watching it. In it a
he explains how this mass formation psychosis can lead people to turning in their own family members, even when they know it will result in their execution.
It exactly describes what we are seeing today in terms of especially Covid, but IMO also the climate change nonsense.
It’s the same playbook
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