Posted on 12/12/2020 9:37:46 PM PST by nickcarraway
Relationships can be tricky. Some get the best out of it, while some are left broken-hearted.
But what happens when one is in a relationship for quite some time, and it doesn’t work out even after 8 years? Yes, that’s right. Eight years!
A Zambian woman has taken her boyfriend to the civil court for wasting her time and not marrying her after being together for eight years.
The story has been doing the rounds on social media.
Frustrated lady Gertrude Ngoma said she was tired of waiting. Her partner Herbert Salaliki, 28, had promised to marry her but did not muster the courage to propose to her.
So she wanted the court to intervene and resolve the family dispute.
Crime-Court The photo has been used for illustrative purposes.
According to Zambian media, the lady has a child with her partner Herbert. But she was living with her parents. The man continues to live on his own.
The incident is believed to have taken place in Ndola, a city in Zambia’s Copperbelt Province.
According to local media, Gertrude told the court, “Herbert has never been serious, so I brought him to the court…”
She argues that she wants to know what the future holds for both of them.
She also said that Herbert was involved with another woman.
Herbert, however defended himself in court by saying that he always wanted to get married to Gertrude, but for financial reasons, he could not move forward.
Herbert rather pinned the blame on Gertrude, claiming that she did not pay enough attention to their relationship and didn’t want to give up living with her parents.
Netizens found the case hilarious and have been sharing the story on Facebook.
Meanwhile the presiding judge told the lady that court could not do anything for her as it was not a formal marriage, though Herbert had paid the dowry sum.
The marriage drama was compared to another similar issue, which was was reported by a Kenyan website.
This young woman aired her grievances, explaining how she is fed up of young men taking years to propose and get ready for marriage. She said it was advisable to get married to older men who would take care of their women.
...that’s when she told me a story ‘bout free milk and a cow, and said “No huggy, no kissy ‘til I get a weddin’ vow.”
My Honey, my Baby, don’t put my love up on no shelf
She said, “Don’t hand me no lines and keep your hands to yourself!”
1 Timothy 5:8
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
Well, it wasn't a strap-on. It was real.
17 years
Math not a strong point?
I have been trying to find out the courtship and marriage traditions current in PRC
Difficult to decide without pictures.
Women spend their youth with guys they think are hot and exciting. Then get unhappy and upset when they find themselves past their fertile years, the hot and exciting guys are chasing younger women, and the unexciting guys they rejected in their 20s have found other women, or decided to stay single.
For most of human history, the pattern has been that women get married when young, to an older man able and willing to support a family. Much of our social problems come from abandoning that pattern.
No matter how much womyn try to make things otherwise, biology wins. Bioligically, women in their 20s have their maximum “sales power.” By 35 they are biologically spent in terms of fertility and, frankly, desireability.
When womyn waste their highest value years riding the c*ck carousel, it should be no suprise they wake up one day barren, alone and in competition they cannot win with the 20 somethings.
Single straight guys in their 30s OTOH are hitting their earning peak and still can father kids. Today they are unicorns whereas in past generations they were married and settled.
This is bioligically and applies to humans in general, There are of course exceptions.
And these trends are as unstoppable as the tide.
17
Moo
A single guy in his early 30s, with a good career, who has kept himself physically fit, has lots of choices. He's hitting his prime, while women that age are starting to hit the wall.
Women only want to get married for Security. That translates when they leave you they take all you stuff.
Let me guess... The judge will rule that she does not have standing unless she is married to guy, and if she is married to the guy, the case will be dismissed as moot.
I know a lady who has been with a guy for thirty years and is still hoping to get married. She has no children and 5 cats.
Wow, judgey much?
“Math not a strong point?”
LOL! No, no it is not! And yet I’ve made my living as a bookkeeper, because some genius invented the calculator (and before that the adding machine and yes I am that old).
My whole family, including the 8 year old grandson math wiz, laugh at me all the time.
But I tell them, the job is bookkeeper, it is NOT Mathematician!
Thanks all!
Hey, I'm not actually assigning grades here! Lighten up! It was a little levity!
Regards,
That’s OK then, it just sounded harsh!
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