Posted on 12/12/2020 9:37:46 PM PST by nickcarraway
Relationships can be tricky. Some get the best out of it, while some are left broken-hearted.
But what happens when one is in a relationship for quite some time, and it doesn’t work out even after 8 years? Yes, that’s right. Eight years!
A Zambian woman has taken her boyfriend to the civil court for wasting her time and not marrying her after being together for eight years.
The story has been doing the rounds on social media.
Frustrated lady Gertrude Ngoma said she was tired of waiting. Her partner Herbert Salaliki, 28, had promised to marry her but did not muster the courage to propose to her.
So she wanted the court to intervene and resolve the family dispute.
Crime-Court The photo has been used for illustrative purposes.
According to Zambian media, the lady has a child with her partner Herbert. But she was living with her parents. The man continues to live on his own.
The incident is believed to have taken place in Ndola, a city in Zambia’s Copperbelt Province.
According to local media, Gertrude told the court, “Herbert has never been serious, so I brought him to the court…”
She argues that she wants to know what the future holds for both of them.
She also said that Herbert was involved with another woman.
Herbert, however defended himself in court by saying that he always wanted to get married to Gertrude, but for financial reasons, he could not move forward.
Herbert rather pinned the blame on Gertrude, claiming that she did not pay enough attention to their relationship and didn’t want to give up living with her parents.
Netizens found the case hilarious and have been sharing the story on Facebook.
Meanwhile the presiding judge told the lady that court could not do anything for her as it was not a formal marriage, though Herbert had paid the dowry sum.
The marriage drama was compared to another similar issue, which was was reported by a Kenyan website.
This young woman aired her grievances, explaining how she is fed up of young men taking years to propose and get ready for marriage. She said it was advisable to get married to older men who would take care of their women.
Women lose all leverage when they give away their cash & prizes.
Clearly Ol’ Herb isn’t done scattering his seeds.
Makes you wonder what Moochell did to get Baraq to marry her.
Indeed. The old saw about “why buy the cow if the milk is free?” turns out to be more or less true. I personally know two childless women who wanted to be moms who wasted the tail end of their fertility (late 30s, early 40s) on dudes uninterested in marriage and children. It’s a sad thing because they lacked the courage and character to cut their losses and try to move on to someone else.
In matters of the heart (or financial portfolio) nothing is guaranteed, Madam. Yes, he lead you on, but he ‘owes you’ nothing.
At any time, you could have set an ultimatum. He probably thought you were playing the waiting game too. Maybe you were fine staying with a man you knew to be unavailable on your terms.
LOL....I thought it said this story appeared in Golf Today
“She said it was advisable to get married to older men who would take care of their women.”
There’s something to be said for this. It doesn’t give the woman’s age, but the man is what, only 25? If they’ve been involved to 8 years that makes him, what 13? when they started keeping company?
Anyway, here’s a link to a great song this woman might related to (sorry if there’s an ad).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RX-eFkGdJNM
I heard she settled for 2 goats and a couple of sheep.
He is 28. They have been together since he was 20.
She’s probably a similar age. Time to move along and find a man, not a man-child.
It sez heah
I thought of Adelaide right away.
Still, the same story so often now. Women put out then they don’t want to dump the guy they’re connected. Guys don’t see it that way. Women won’t think. They don’t study character or classic society twice today I was out the women are opening doors and holding them for the wimps they’re hanging around with. Revolting.
Who knows what he said in private?
He could have told her he didn’t want marriage.
And even if he promised her up and down, did she not figure things out in year THREE or FOUR or FIVE or SIX or SEVEN????
She had a penis added.
bookmark
i think its clear
the woman doesn’t seem to get it
That way no one can ever verify it. Next year the story can be recycled as coming from India or China.
Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.
25 - 8 = 17, not 13.
But as the article stated, he's 28 years old, so he was 20 when the relationship began.
Math: D-
Writing skills: C+
Reading comprehension: D.
Regards,
That rating system looks goodly and should be used more at Frees Repub.
But I thunk the ratio,e said they are both 20 at some point.
So how can she have wanted 18:years?
And why she nt have more tables? It makes no sense!
Bad articles.
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