Posted on 11/21/2020 10:43:32 PM PST by HelloGoodbye
Hello all. Long time lurker, here. I apologize for posting this thread, but I am a dad raising my 3 daughters. Two will be 13 later this year. I told them when they reached that age or close to it they could open social media accounts. We are working on that now. Part of the problem is that they wish to follow some celebs once set up. My wife and I agreed, as long as they showed us who first. This is where we are facing problems. The first celebrity was Candace Cameron-Bure. She seemed ok, so we agreed.
The next was Lacey Chabert (another one of Christmas movie actresses). We thought that would be ok too until my wife discovered her Maxim cover shots and other (ahem) "chesty" shots as well. She is the one that proclaims she is Christian, so that surprised us. Not suggesting Christians are all prudes or anything.
The third person was Caitlyn Carmichael from the show Dwight in Shining Armor. She has numerous photos that are on the revealing side. Worse yet, she is a teenager (16) with photos going back a few years. Ugghh. The show she is on is considered kids and family on BYUTV. Go figure. My kids do love this show, however.
I don't want my daughters to be prudes, but I want them to have a balanced view on comporting themselves in public. Am I being narrow-minded? Do the above celebs have good qualities I'm overlooking? Any other advice on navigating these waters? I would appreciate any help here, as I try to handle this without running to my sick wife for every answer. Thanks.
Recommended Social Media celebs to follow:
Kathrine Hepburn
Alice Ball
Julia Child
Jackie O
Emilia Earhart
Beverly Sills
Marie Curie
Marilyn Monroe
Susan B Anthony
Montserrat Caballé
need more?
If your daughter is comporting perhaps a change in diet is called for. But on a serious note. If by this age your daughters do not know how to conduct themselves whether they under your watchful eye or not they missed some home training.
All of the celebs you listed (I only have ever heard of the first one) probably have active Twitter, Instagram, Facebook accounts. You could spend some time reviewing those and then decide how appropriate it would be for your girls to access those accounts.
But really I would simply 86 social media until they are a few years older. Safer that way.
TexasGurl24, you got that right!
Simple...wait till theyre 18 and out of your house...they can set up any they want to then...
One computer or laptop in the den where they all have to share it. And put a time limit on it.
If it is in the den then mom and dad get to see what is happening.
This is probably a distraction thread to lure our attention away from important matters.
As long as he tossed $50 in the kitty, he’s okay with me. Otherwise, the kitty should toss him for non-participation all around.
You don’t get it.
See tag line.
If you don’t raise your children in the natural law of God in the scriptures
good LUCK, because, that’s all you have left...just luck.
I wish you good luck, you cannot protect your children from the world, they need discernment that come from God that comes through the Holy Spirit by faith in Jesus Christ.
Again...the tag.
Keep your kids off Social Media. You are not helping them by letting them get into that garbage.
I’d kibosh the whole idea right now and keep them off social media. To hell with all of that.
Mole
Your daughters are entering a world in which the “culture” is dominated by leftists. Unless you lock them in a closet it’s the world they will have to function in. They will be endlessly bombarded by filth and leftist ideology by Hollywood, the media and the education system. Again, unless you isolate them from the world, they will be assaulted by this leftist propaganda. There is only one way to practically deal with this: Lay it all out for them, tell them the realities of the situation and teach them what’s right, what’s wrong, what’s good and what is evil. Pound that into their heads. Tell them to never acquiesce to any of crap being pushed on them. The rest will be up to them. Even at that, they might end up on the dark side, but that’s not likely if you teach them well and do so kindly. Make them think.
Hi
I work in cyber security and data protection (and no I’m not in any way related to the guys who’ve recently got the boot from Trump).
First of all, by far the biggest problems in this entire area are related to oversharing and naivety making people vulnerable to “social engineering” - in the old days we’d just call it the art of the con. Start there.
For young girls, the con might be a celeb airbrushing their photos before putting out a cosmetics or clothing line so nobody who buys the gear can achieve the same results.
For (as we see often in the UK) retired people who grew up in a time where people trusted and deferred to benign authority figures in their community, the con tends to be about people who pretend to be trustworthy authority figures who’re nothing of the sort.
After twenty years of explaining at great length to people that Microsoft won’t phone them telling them they’ve been hacked and ask for control of their computer to fix it for them, and their bank won’t email them asking them to “ring this number” or “go to this website [link that’s obviously not the bank]” or that impossibly beautiful people with figure-hugging perfect clothes and make-up don’t really exist without exceptional lighting and digital editing, THOUSANDS KEEP FALLING FOR THE CONS.
The most important message you can give your daughters is, always be the sceptic. Too many people think what some random anonymous git on the internet is telling them, is true. Must be true. For no reason other than it SOUNDS true, and it SOUNDS like it’s coming from a trusted source.
Distil it down to what your daughters need to know: Airbrushing, excessive prudery, constant attacks on women simply for what they’re wearing (just in case some male somewhere gets a boner), grooming and trolling are specific social engineering tactics that are designed to prey on girls.
Some are performed by head case control freaks, to serve one purpose only: to make them feel like they’re in control of stuff they have no business controlling.
People who do it either get a kick out of making kids feel insecure about their bodies and appearance, or they feel empowered by it... or they’re making money out of it.
Encouragement to “overshare” leads to girls experiencing emotional if not financial blackmail, bullying and trolling, and sadly it often leads to physical abuse.
Compared to social engineering which is really the root of all internet evil, the sheer amount of pearl-clutching that goes on every time some “concerned parent” obsesses and sexualizes a completely benign and not-in-any-way sexual picture like one of a breast-feeding mom, is completely out of proportion to the risk of harm. And it is totally missing the point.
You know your daughter’s got the right education when, at 14, she knows that some unsolicited attention from an unknown person on the internet who’s showering her with attention and asking lots of probing questions is inherently suspicious. And, no matter how positive (grooming) or negative (trolling) that attention is, it has absolutely no effect.
THIS IS THE WOMAN YOU WANT YOUR DAUGHTERS TO FOLLOW!
TERRI SAVELLE FOY
Terri Savelle Foy is a cheerleader of dreams and is convinced that “if you can dream it, God can do it.” She is known across the globe as a world-class motivator of hope and success through her transparent and humorous teaching style. Terri’s unique ability to communicate success strategies in a simple and practical way has awakened the dreams of the young and old alike. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lb2uRu8OxkQ
Kim Komando might have some answers for you. She often gets calls about this same thing from parents.
” Do the above celebs have good qualities I’m overlooking? Any other advice on navigating these waters?”
1. Most likely not.
2. Don’t navigate. Tell them NO!
3. Stop paying their phone bills.
I agree wholeheartedly!!
They should not have any followers not personally known to you. No friends of friends.
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