Posted on 11/14/2020 5:05:41 AM PST by Prince of Space
I’m asking for prayers for my son-in-law. My daughter just informed me tonight that she’s leaving him this weekend while he’s out of town. I knew they were having problems and she “wasn’t happy,” but I was hoping she’d come to her senses and realize she was being stupid. Unfortunately, she hasn’t. They’re both 32, have been married for 7 years with no kids, and they are employed.
The reason I’m asking for prayers is the way she’s chosen to leave the marriage. He’s coming home Sunday to a note explaining that she’s gone. I love him to death but he’s got a negative outlook on life in general. I know how I’d feel if it happened to me and my heart breaks for him. I believe he also has a gun, although we live in Arizona so who doesn’t?
I’ve been here for over 20 years, including as a lurker, but this is only my second post. I’m really feeling anxious about this situation so I’m asking freepers to lift up Adam in prayer and surround his heart with love to help him get through this dark time. Thank you in advance!
My God...support your daughter and do everything you can to help her.
I will pray for restoration. Part of it will be that bitterness not take root as it will spread like wildfire, making one bitter about everything.
Praying
I'm praying that you haven't inadvertently created an unintended situation for everyone involved, including yourself.
Prayers
No matter what she is doing what she thinks is right for her. Do you know if he could get violent? Why risk it? And you should be prepared to have an angry husband land on your door demanding to know where she is. Not saying that is what will happen but you should be ready for it.
Everyone has three personas. Public, private and what goes on in their head.
I strongly suggest that you support your daughter and her decisions. If something bad happens will you ever forgive yourself if you talk her out of the plan she has laid out.
Have you considered going to the home, maybe even ‘accidentally’, to be there when your son-in-law comes home or sometime after he comes home calling him? Or telling someone close to him so they can be there somehow for support? I'd guess you have but have you even begged your daughter to try counseling and pleading with her that this isn't the way to go?
In any case, Your son in law and the whole situation will have my prayers.
I’m not going against anyone. I support my daughter but I disagree with the way she’s leaving him. I love them both but he’s going to be blindsided by this and he already has a dark outlook on life. If you don’t wanna say a prayer for him, then don’t, but don’t attack me for caring about a beloved member of my family.
I'm also praying that you to keep your family's life off the internet.
There’s probably better resources to go to than FR when you fear domestic violence.
Just saying.
If he has a dark but not cruel outlook on life then honestly HE is in the biggest danger from himself.
Unless he has been physically violent, the honest, it’s a kind of weak way to end it with someone.
She’s in a good place — staying either with us or her brother — and she’s also emotionally devastated so of course I feel for her. My issue is that he’ll be alone when he reads her note and realizes his life has changed while she’s surrounded by her loving family. I’m trying to stay out of it as much as I can, but that doesn’t mean I’m not supposed to care about BOTH of them.
I’ll be praying for your family.
Why? I haven’t discussed this with him and don’t want to. I’m merely asking for prayers.
Hmmm, I’m guessing your daughter already has another guy lined up. Most women don’t end a relationship until they have another guy ready to go. Sorry to be cold, but I’ll wager she’s been cheating on him for a while.
I didn’t name names and neither one of them has the slightest interest in coming here. I was just asking for prayers for family members like I’ve prayed for fellow freepers for multiple reasons over the past 20 years.
Thank you!
Thank you!
Thank you very much!
You asked for prayer...simple request. If I were you, I would ignore most of the unsolicited “advice.”
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