Posted on 01/16/2020 3:00:45 PM PST by Responsibility2nd
The dreaded midlife crisis may come about because it coincides with life’s peak time for misery, a study released this week says, according to a report.
That peak time would be around age 47, Dartmouth College professor and former Bank of England policy maker David Blanchflower claims in a study, after examining trends in 132 countries to compare the relationship between well-being and age.
A typical individual’s well-being reaches its minimum point – on both sides of the Atlantic and for both males and females – in midlife, Blanchflower wrote in his report for the National Bureau of Economic Research.
In order to better understand age’s relationship to happiness, Branchflower undertook the study using prior surveys of self-reported well-being, the report said. In those reports, the results generally argue happiness across a lifetime is either relatively flat or slightly increasing with age.
To achieve a better understanding between happiness and aging, Blanchflower looked at data from 500,000 randomly sampled Americans and West Europeans.
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“76 to 80 was pretty damn miserable!”
I’m in that cohort too. Mostly for physical reasons. It seems like it’s just putting out one fire after another health-wise.
“What is it for women?”
They aren’t happy until you are unhappy. You find out the nympho you married was actually faking it and is actually frigid.
“76 to 80 was pretty damn miserable!”
Haven’t quite got there yet, but after decades of doing pretty darn well, age 70 - 2019 - became The Year Of Pain. It was “peak miserable” physically, but not emotionally.
Good summary.
I was somewhat miserable between 38-42. Ill be 46 soon and happier than Ive ever been.
I have a woman friend Im fond of here at 63. She doesnt want any physical affection other than her dog. To even think about being married to her is a none starter. Im no stone or a eunuch.
Im Silent Generation too,1932,not many left to share old memories.
Once one abandons all hope for youthful goals, ambitions, hopes, aspirations, dreams, romance, love etc one will be fine.
I’ve never abandoned my youthful goals I’m experiencing them now.
Ill be 46 this year. My wife of 24 years is awesome, beautiful and still takes care of me. My adult sons are productive members of society, my 14 year old daughter is a respectful, smart and helps around the house. Other than my mortgage I have no debt, got my health, retiring from the Navy in 3 months and looking at nothing but opportunities for my second career. It would take a lot for 47 to suck.
Maybe your mistake was wanting a ‘nympho’ in the first place.
I know...you have a wonderful profile and are living your dream. You are lucky and deserve it.
Frustrated non-pilot here.
Not really...just “normal” and reasonable.
I recently turned 46. After a phone call from a much loved relative of my husband sharing that she may have a very serious disease, I realized that we are at the age where news shared tends to be bad.
In our twenties and thirties phone calls brought news of new babies, new jobs and new homes.
Lately the news has been heart attacks, cancer, dementia or that someone has passed.
Thats the way it goes in our fallen world.
Now I know who to blame for the planet killing asteroid next year.
In an eighteen month span that included my 42nd year - my mother, both brothers and the best dog in the world all passed on.
Thanks. My grannie says she wants more grand kids I told her my brothers were providing all she wants. She’s confused.
Grannies are very selfish that way. Gots to look out for yourself. You’d be quite a “catch” though!
Any man can find a ‘normal and reasonable’ woman, if he’s patient and percipient.
The problem is that too many of you allow the ‘little head’ to make the decisions; and then you wind up in a world of hurt.
Men have the same problem that women do - in our separate ways, we’re always looking for some ‘dream’ - we want the other person to serve our own needs and expectations.
It helps to actually become interested in another person AS THEY ARE; to appreciate someone simply for WHAT they are, not for what they can do for us in terms of satisfying our expectations and idealistic ‘dreams’. Nobody else is here to make you happy or to fulfill your own deepest desires - we all have to make ourselves happy, and find ways to fulfill ourselves. Once we do, we can really offer something to someone else.
Many times, you’ll find that ‘what they are’ isn’t really something you’d want anything to do with, even though ‘little head’ is gunning for it. Other times, thinking with the ‘big head’, you’ll find that despite all their ostensible flaws, you love and appreciate them and can see yourself committing.
One night years ago, a friend and I were watching the evening news, and there was a beautiful young woman doing weather, or something. I told my friend, ‘She’s single, and very pretty.’
Friend said, ‘She looks like somebody’s mother.’ (This was a very young, beautiful girl - but friend wanted more ‘excitement’, which he probably would have gotten with said pretty woman, if he’d actually investigated her real self, instead of making such a stupid judgment. He’s now twice divorced, and alone.)
Finding a good person is not the complex calculation that people make it out to be. You just have to have the patience to find someone whose real nature you can appreciate and want in your life.
“Im Silent Generation too,1932,not many left to share old memories.”
My mother outlived her siblings and most of her longtime friends.
She lived in a nice retirement home for her final years, one of my siblings and her adult children lived in the same community. So she had family contact on a regular basis.
My Mother said that she loved all us as family, but we weren’t friends like the ones she had lost. We now know what she meant. They had survived the great Depression, WWII, the Korean War, the Cuban Missile Crises and the Nam mess,and still successfully raised their families, enjoyed grand kids
and bonded strongly over the decades. They were truly a great generation and positive role models.
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