Posted on 12/01/2015 7:00:33 PM PST by rickmichaels
Men are often advised to stand out from the crowd to attract women - there can be only one alpha male. Women, on the other hand, are told not to be too weird. This advice has sunk in: a 2006 study found that when in a mating mind-set, men become less conformist and women become more so. A paper in the June issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, however, reports that we have it all wrong.
In the new work, which studied subjects who identified as either heterosexual or bisexual, both women and men preferred nonconformist partners - those whose clothes, opinions or life decisions broke the norm - when selecting from online dating profiles, describing ideal partners or picturing dates with people they had just met. Men showed just as much interest as women in oddballs (and in one experiment, in fact more interest), even though subjects predicted women would like misfits more. Further, independent-minded people - in the U.S., the U.K. and India - reported more success in both short- and long-term dating. Other research has shown breaking rules to be a good indicator of status and power, which may explain part of its appeal for both sexes, but gender role expectations have yet to catch up.
"The old-fashioned gender stereotype - that men go for conformist, submissive women - has been slow to die," says lead author Matthew Hornsey, a social psychologist at the University of Queensland in Australia. "I'm intrigued by the notion of the 'girls' night out' and how many women feel as though they can be more unguarded without men around - more relaxed, more crass, more honest, more funny. And I keep thinking, 'Why are you keeping this good stuff to yourselves? Men would love it!'"
We need a ruling on the field.
Idiots.
I wish it was harmless but this is the new basis for social ethos in the aChristian west.
It’s 2015 — the conformist women are Liberal harpies pushing feminism, looking for evidence of microaggression, and insisting that they are non-stop victims and men should apologize non-stop.
So ... yeah. Non-conformist women are looking good.
I want a gal who challenges me. Not a slave.
But I dont want a cursing slob either.
The best girl for me, that I walked away from, was an intellectual education oriented Jewish gal. She introduced me to Citizen Kane and many other classics. I went back to school and got a good job while with her.
Alas, her pop said she was out of the will and family if she didn’t marry one of her own. Neither of us wanted that for her. what a shame. Plus her abortion stance was difficult for me but I think i was getting through to her.
and i never lend credence to a study that also involves bisexuals.
In this Brave New World, men and women have no idea WHAT the h*ll they’re doing.
Good lord, where did you get those freakzoid pics?
I need eyewash!
Non-conforming Venice Beach / Hollyweird Blvd creatures - ugh
Nonconformist in American is women/wife’s who like sex, IMHO.
Who wrote this crap?
Darn. Here I spent all that time worrying about becoming a good provider and an all-around good guy, and instead I should have been raising my profile as a Mafia axe-murderer, a Goodfella instead of a good citizen.
Try to be Ozzie Nelson, and the women want Ozzy Osbourne and Bluebeard instead. Snake-eaters and wife-beaters. How did I miss that?
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