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Guest gets bill after not showing up to wedding (MN)
KARE ^ | Sept. 30, 2015 | Jay Olstad

Posted on 09/30/2015 10:08:15 AM PDT by bgill

It was a couple weeks ago, Jessica Baker was getting ready to go to a wedding with her husband when she got a call from her mom. "She called at the last minute and had something come up and said I can't make it," said Baker. Her mom was supposed to watch their kids. And since the invitation said no children, that meant no wedding. But then this week, she received a bill for the dinner they were supposed to have enjoyed. The total came to $75.90.

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To: FredZarguna

Depending on the band, it may have been worth paying $79.00 to not attend.


21 posted on 09/30/2015 10:40:46 AM PDT by Larry Lucido
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To: Ingtar
I blame the wedding shows on television for raising expectations too high.

Pair that with no family life to speak of, absentee parents or parents who fail to teach their kids the basics and you wind up with a generation of sickeningly greedy, shallow children who grow up into adults with the attention span of a gnat and the manners of a pig. They wind up knowing only what they see on TV and consider it proper.

22 posted on 09/30/2015 10:42:07 AM PDT by Bloody Sam Roberts (Democracy is not freedom. Democracy is simply majoritarianism. It is incompatible with real freedom.)
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To: Jonty30

Total number of people at our wedding was 7.

In a bit of real irony Mrs. L now sells weddings at a ritzy country club. Think Bushwood but without the laughs.

Minimum cost for a June weekend: $15,000 in food and beverage.

It’s insane.


23 posted on 09/30/2015 10:47:28 AM PDT by Lurker (Violence is rarely the answer. But when it is it is the only answer.)
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To: Larry Lucido
Depending on the band, it may have been worth paying $79.00 to not attend.

"Give me time
To realize my crime
Let me love and steal
I have danced inside your eyes
How can I be real..."

24 posted on 09/30/2015 10:47:39 AM PDT by Bloody Sam Roberts (Democracy is not freedom. Democracy is simply majoritarianism. It is incompatible with real freedom.)
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To: bgill
YUP....I remember my Matron of Honor asking me what color she should wear to our wedding....we were being married in our backyard....I said...It doesn't matter...she was aghast...to which I said (loosely remembered as it was 31 years ago)...a wedding DAY is NOT the MOST important DAY...it's the rest of the years beyond that.
25 posted on 09/30/2015 10:52:45 AM PDT by goodnesswins (hey..Wussie Americans....ISIS is coming. Are you ready?)
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To: bgill

Huh. Get this.
I hired a guy to lay tile. Got his business card from a friend.
He brought his girlfriend to help him. They laid the tile, I paid them. This was the only time I ever met these people.
A few weeks later, they sent me a wedding invite, which included an RSVP card and a request for cash in lieu of gifts.
I didn’t even bother to RSVP.


26 posted on 09/30/2015 10:56:33 AM PDT by mumblypeg (I've seen the future; brother it is murder. -L. Cohen)
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To: bgill

Pay it and ask for a to-go box.


27 posted on 09/30/2015 10:59:30 AM PDT by TexasCajun (#BlackViolenceMatters)
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To: bgill

sending a bill to someone because they cant make a wedding at the last minute is just goesh....that person would get nothing from me and would no longer be a friend.

this couple sounds totally self absorbed and I bet are liberals that think the world owes them.


28 posted on 09/30/2015 11:01:03 AM PDT by PCPOET7
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To: bgill

I’d consider that a favor.

Their true colors have come out so now they don’t have to waste untold time, money and energy only to find the same thing out years from not.

Chalk it up to the cost of education, then move on.


29 posted on 09/30/2015 11:02:13 AM PDT by MichaelCorleone (Jesus Christ is not a religion. He's the Truth.)
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To: jocon307

I see what you did, there.


30 posted on 09/30/2015 11:13:58 AM PDT by Cletus.D.Yokel (BREAKING: Boy Scouts of America Changes Corporate Identity to "Scouting for Boys in America")
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To: bgill

I would have sent them the following “Credit Memo”

Wedding Gift Credit:.....$75.00
Less dinner fee...........($75.90)
Net gratuity:..............($0.90)

Then I’d send the outstanding balance in coins with the next Xmas card so they don’t forget that I won’t forget.


31 posted on 09/30/2015 11:28:43 AM PDT by PeteePie (Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin is a reproach to any people - Proverbs 14:34)
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To: Dr. Sivana

My husband and I got married at our farm under a dogwood tree in bloom. I found a female minister in the yellow pages who agreed to officiate and she brought her husband and brother to witness and our basset hounds were the only attendees. I bought my linen dress at a department store and got 2 dozen ivory roses from the grocery store and tied them with 3 yards of ivory silk ribbon. Total cost was $200.

After our vows, I changed to work boots as we had some fields to harrow. It was a beautiful day and a perfect start to our life together.


32 posted on 09/30/2015 11:40:57 AM PDT by Cowgirl of Justice
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To: bgill

That’s OK, they can be at the divorce party.

People that petty always seem to divorce within a few years.


33 posted on 09/30/2015 11:45:20 AM PDT by Fresh Wind (Falcon 105)
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To: LadyBuck
“Good thing it wasn’t a NY wedding!”

I grew up in Minnesota and used to be a busboy for our church for weddings and stuff. People got married upstairs and then came downstairs for the food the ladies group had put together.

Moved out to NJ and got married there. My wife's family had a different view of weddings! Way too over the top - but it was nice and fun. Especially for some of my MN relatives!

One thing we would have done differently is not ask for so much nice crystal on the wedding registry. Some have sat for 26 years without ever being used.

One of the better presents was a large cutting board and electric carving knife. Every Thanksgiving I pull it out and think of the couple that gave it to us!

34 posted on 09/30/2015 11:58:22 AM PDT by 21twelve (http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2185147/posts It is happening again.)
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To: pepsi_junkie

That’s probably part of it. Myself, I’m glad that my Father-in-law threw a small wedding and gave us a substantial check towards a down payment on a house. That’s just what I plan to do.


35 posted on 09/30/2015 1:24:42 PM PDT by Seruzawa (All those memories will be lost,in time, like tears in rain.)
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To: bgill

It sounds as though the guest made no effort to contact anyone and let them know that something had come up, and also that they didn’t send a gift. So, not much sympathy here, although I can’t imagine sending a bill.

If I were the bride, I would simply not associate with this person again.


36 posted on 09/30/2015 1:29:17 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: bgill

This has absolutely nothing to do with the newlyweds’ lifetime commitment to each other. It has quite a bit to do with the guests not keeping their word.

The bill definitely appears at first blush to be in bad taste, but I think the bride/groom knew full well they’d never get paid, and were trying to make a point. This couple RSVP’d to go to the reception, and the bride/groom were left with a $70 no-show bill from the restaurant/caterer. No one is reimbursing them.

The no-shows apparently never called/texted or in any way notified the hosts that they were not going to make it. The excuse of mom canceling? BS! You make backup plans when you have an important engagement.

So, because the guests were rude in not notifying the hosts, it’s the hosts who now have to lay out the $70 the deadbeat guests will never pay.


37 posted on 09/30/2015 1:34:06 PM PDT by EDINVA
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To: jocon307

Well, yes, according to history. (I was typing on an IBM electric typewriter with one of those “keyboard” snap-in “balls” that had all those weird symbols on them. I’d only ever typed on an old manual typewriter & was fresh out of high school.) I reckon God just had mercy on our ignorance back then; because there were lots of kids like myself down there at the time.

The wedding went okay. I was VERY naïve at the time. Would not put myself or my parents through anything like that again. Husband’s parents were “pillars of the community”, which sort of made me feel obligated to go the extra mile. Of course, my daddy was proud of me; which he deserved. He’d been through Hell in WWII combat. Momma just broke down and cried & cried & cried. (I wised up after some years & got to where I bucked his parents every now & then!)
Fifty-one years in September. - I’m not one who believes in the fairytale of “greener pastures on the other side of that hill”!


38 posted on 09/30/2015 2:12:55 PM PDT by Twinkie (John 3:16)
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To: Larry Lucido
Depending on the band, it may have been worth paying $79.00 to not attend.

Or if the curse toast was embarrassing enough.

[George: "Alright, still her father didn't have to throw me out like that, he could have just asked me to leave. The guy had me in a headlock!"]

39 posted on 09/30/2015 2:20:52 PM PDT by FredZarguna ("It appears a Kenyan has infiltrated the lumber room")
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To: bgill

send them an I.O.U.


40 posted on 09/30/2015 2:39:14 PM PDT by terycarl (COMMON SENSE PREVAILS OVER ALL..)
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