Posted on 09/30/2015 10:08:15 AM PDT by bgill
People make too big a deal on all the wedding fru-fru. It's not about the few hours event but about the lifelong commitment. Ditch the forego the dinner and put the $$$$ toward a house or pay off those students loans so the rest of us won't be stuck with the bill.
That’s generally my position. Go get married in a small church, then begin your life.
Whaaa it is all about the bride man!
Most practical wedding reception I ever saw...full wedding party dressed for the day, the minister, I’d guess about 50 guests....in the semi-private room at Golden Corral! Now, there’s a couple with a promising future.
With friends like this,,, who need them ?
That’s some minnesota nice for you.
But what about all those poor wedding planners getting paid to plan wonderful and expensive weddings? And all of those florists and bakers, what about them? It’s horrible, tragic even!
Sure hope she hadn’t sent a gift on ahead.
When I was in my teens, there was a wedding that went like this:
After the evening service, we were invited to stay for a wedding. Two members of the congregation came forward & were married. We all congratulated them. Then we all went to Denny’s, and paid for our own meals. We all chipped in to pay for the newlyweds’ meals.
No invitations. No fancy dresses. Pictures by friends. No fancy reception. No debt. Just friends, and God’s blessing.
Moved away a little after that, but I’d bet they were starting a good marriage.
32 years ago, we provided the cake, the church provided the fellowship hall, and guests provided the potluck. I blame the wedding shows on television for raising expectations too high.
Or was the point of the invitation to suck as many potential gift-givers into an obligation as possible? In any case, these aren't the kind of people you want to stay in touch with.
There’s some weird juju idea that spending a lot on a wedding will make it last or something.
If it were me, I would respond with a comment stating it was nice being friends, but now it is ended, have a happy life. This couple need to get some etiquette learning.
Well. Fifty-one years ago, husband & I married in a largish church wedding. I’d never even been to a wedding of any sort; so I had to try to do it by the book. - Got a summer job working at Redstone Arsenal in Huntsville, AL on the Saturn V “moon shot” project (Clerk Typist), made enough to pay for the wedding. A few years later, I was very nervous when the astronauts took off for the moon; afraid I’d made a horrible typographical error on the work orders I’d typed.
It went OK; no thanks to me. The engineers I worked for took it for granted that MANY men would lose their lives in the quest for the moon. - I couldn’t look at it that way, so I prayed!
Good thing it wasn’t a NY wedding!
So, the rocket launch went ok, which is good, of course.
How was the wedding?
Now there is an RSVP that means something.
Is there? I think it's just a big competition. Women want all their friends to "oooh" and "aahh" about how fairytale like everything is and money is no object. Meanwhile the groom's buddies are happy enough if there is an open bar.
You did it right. Close friends and no debt. That should be the goal of all weddings.
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