Good thing it wasn’t a NY wedding!
I grew up in Minnesota and used to be a busboy for our church for weddings and stuff. People got married upstairs and then came downstairs for the food the ladies group had put together.
Moved out to NJ and got married there. My wife's family had a different view of weddings! Way too over the top - but it was nice and fun. Especially for some of my MN relatives!
One thing we would have done differently is not ask for so much nice crystal on the wedding registry. Some have sat for 26 years without ever being used.
One of the better presents was a large cutting board and electric carving knife. Every Thanksgiving I pull it out and think of the couple that gave it to us!