1. Love them.
2. Be polite.
3. Don’t allow them to force you to embrace evil:
Don’t use their false terminology.
“Gay” is a lie.
They are “homosexual” if you must refer to that.
I don’t think “lesbian” is a lie.
Never refer to them as anything but friends - otherwise you legitimize their nonsense by agreeing to use their made-up false terminology (would you call your brother “she” if he started saying he was a woman?).
There is only one mom - the woman who gave birth (the other is the child’s guardian).
Don’t let them share a bed in your home (would you let them if they were hetero?).
If they get uppity and complain, tell ‘em straight up:
“In the spirit of diversity and tolerance, I don’t dictate what you must do, say, and believe - and I expect the same from you. I love you but I won’t lie to you or for you, which means I won’t use the politically-charged language you prefer. In the spirit of tolerance I know you will not think less of me because I have strong beliefs that are different than yours, and I have the integrity to live by those beliefs.”
My cousin decided to turn gay when after he graduated from college and went into the entertainment business in L.A. I guess it was the cool thing to do then. Before that he had been heterosexual with girlfriends. I guess he was technically bi-sexual.
He eventually died of AIDS, along with his “partner” and all their gay friends. I just shook my head and said what a waste of a life.
“....she has announced that she and her partner are having a baby.”
If she were naturally homosexual, then she would not have a desire to procreate. Since she is excited about procreation, then she is not naturally gay. In fact, she is deriding her own nature by chosing to participate in a lifestyle that procludes her from naturally procreating...
The only thing evil needs to succeed is for good people to say nothing.
Anybody get banned yet?????? Whoooaaaa, I’m gettin’ outta here.
But not before I say how much I love MY family member, and there is nothing that will ever change that.
Hate the sin but love the sinner. And love the little one. The child’s life is going to be difficult as it is. Loving family members can help.
There is no easy answer.
Personally, if she is sweet and wants to bring along her friend, I would have no problem. I might ask her to be discrete if there are kids nearby, but tell you the truth with all the stuff on tv (e.g. Glee) even here in the Philippines my 10 year old granddaughter knows about gays.
If she asks if you approve of her lifestyle, well, answer it the same way you would anyone else who is divorced, living out of wedlock, drunk, cheating on the spouse, a member of the mob, or a republican politician running for president(;->):
Tell her you love her but you are praying that she will find God’s love in her life and grace to follow his commandments.
The best advice I can give is : Prayer and perhaps some guidance from your Pastor, Priest, or Rabbi. Independent study of Scipture never hurts, either.
I hope this helps,
Alan
The best advice I can give is : Prayer and perhaps some guidance from your Pastor, Priest, or Rabbi. Independent study of Scipture never hurts, either.
I hope this helps,
Alan
one dtr at one time briefly thought she loved another girl.....I'll tell you...that was the most horrible part of my life so far, not as bad as losing my mother and father, but pretty sad for me....you question everything you've ever done in your life...
I have one dtr who has Aspergers.....when you have a child that doesn't turn out quite right, you pull your hair out and question yourself constantly...
what did I do wrong?....
the jist is....we're on this train called life but we're not the conductor...hang on tight.....it can be a bumpy ride....but since God is the conductor, we'll be AOKAY....
try to focus on being a good mother, good grandmother...things will work out the way they re going to work out....
take care, friend...you are not alone...
This is a very difficult situation, and I can see where you might lose a bit of sleep over it.
My first instinct is to feel sorry (in advance) for the child. He or she will be coming into a weird situation, which is also less stable than a regular married mother/father home. I myself grew up in a “problem” home (not this kind — different problems) and I must say it helped me a lot to visit other, happier homes and see how things were there. Kids aren’t stupid, they can *see* if things are better somewhere else. As the child visits your home, he may well see that your situation, with an intact mother/father home, is superior. You’ll never have to say a word to him. He may come to you when he’s 20 and thank you for being a good role model.
(Of course, gay relationships tend to be more volatile, so since the baby will belong to the girlfriend, not your relative, in five years this may all be a moot point.)
As for what to say to your children ... well, what do you say to them when your other relatives display behaviors you don’t like or agree with? True, this is more extreme, but what do you say when your relatives smoke? (If that bothers you — it does me.) Or if they curse a lot? Or are liars? I tell my kids that we can love our friends and family without agreeing with everything they do, and some things (here I name the problem behavior) are just not acceptable to our household, and we don’t agree with them or do them. (Don’t know if this approach helps you — it’s simply what we do.)
Good luck!!!
Anybody with a homosexual family member who fails to admonish them, doesn’t have a lasting love for that family member.
God is very clear regarding homosexuality and the fate of those who adhere to it. They will not inherit the Kingdom of God.
If you truly love the family member, communicate this to them while they still have time to learn how and why they must turn away from homosexuality.
Anybody who condones the ignorance of the vice, simply has no love for their fellow man.
>> she has announced that she and her partner are having a baby
Babies are cool. They’re new humans with absolutely no indication of what they’ll become. No doubt you’ll be a good, modest liaison for Christ.
You’re not responsible for the affairs of others. But the fullness of your life can impact, in a meaningful way, the welfare of others.
It is always about the self-centered practice of homosexual behavior—the homosexual forces the rest of the family to accept them and if they don’t, most will make the choice to follow their obsession and leave the family unit—we see this same pattern among drug addicts, alcoholics, pedophiles and compulsive gamblers. This obsession takes over their life and make no mistake, the utter torture this will be for that child is hard to imagine—in most cases homosexuals simply use children to further their self-absorbed behavior.
I have a colleague whose son declared he was a homosexual at 16. Predictably, this generated a firestorm in the family. After a long period of tortured family meetings, discussions, and restrictions placed on this young boy who was never allowed to bring his fellow deviants on the property, he was put into a counseling program. He returned to a normal lifestyle, and has since married a normal woman. There is help and people can change all manner of destructive behavior.
I have 2 very close family members that are homosexual..I struggled with how to handle this..
One is female and now in a 20 year relationship ..I love this girl, I know she was sexually abused as a kid..
The other a 21 year old young man
I have determined to love them as I do all of the other sinners in my family .. They know i am a Christian and so they never speak of their lifestyle in my presence.. If they do i will tell them what God says about homosexuality ..but that he provided a propitiation for those that repent and come to him .
You only have to draw a line if the lesbos sexually manipulate their kid in a way that you think is harmful to the child’s natural development. For example, if they announce their six year old boy is a girl and needs his equipment cut off or encourage him to dress and act like a girl you might have to say something.
Since homos are mental and often centered sexually on children, you should keep them at arm’s length from your children. If their children are abused in the course of being exposed to the “gay community”, they will most likely interact inappropriately with other children in secret.
Visiting with them at annual family functions is one thing; turning your children over to their care is another.
My son has picked up some hard liberal views during the last few years. I had a difficult time with it until I decided that I love my son more than my politics. Jesus makes it easier.
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