It’s not your place to tell her how to live her life or who she can see.
Does she tell you how to live your life?
Been there, seen that. There are more important things in life than worrying about how someone else enjoys their life.
I’ve got a militantly lesbian cousin. I’ve found that the best way to deal with her is to ignore her “issues”.
Forgive my bluntness ....
You have made this situation about you. It’s not.
That baby is going to need loving family members, just as your children need. Do it. Be there for the child.
I do not have gay family, nor hiave I been in a similar situation.
You are correct in seeing this as wrong. Were I in your shoes, I would:
Be supportive of your sister, but let her know that she is wrong. The KEY is that she has ‘decided’. It was a decision, not a predisposition. Same-sex physical relationships and unions are wrong, not to celebrated or allowed into a families life.
I would welcome her to my home, not her partner. The child? Part of me says No, it is of no blood to you, the child could/would be used as a pawn to crack open your door. Part says to welcome the child, it is innocent, not deserving of rejection in all this. That is a hard spot. Prayer, lots of prayer.
**I have a small child and am expecting again**
That has to be the most difficult concern for you.
Short of moving to a different State - I have no idea how I would handle this.
The closest gay relative in the family is a cousin - but she lives in England and I have never met her. Thankfully, there are no small children in her partnership, just a dog. She is, however, the most attentive (of her siblings) to their elderly mother.
Good luck and God bless.
My advice is for you to be the best parent you can to your children and the best example to others.
How many times during the year do you see these people? If it’s just a few times during the holidays, I’m sure you can be gracious without getting involve with discussions about their lifestyle.
You don’t have to necessarily congratulate them.
You can wish the baby well.
Concentrate on the child when you see them and that will keep the atmosphere calm.
Unless it’s your child, I’d just smile like a dumb puppy at family events and be unaffected by it all.
Don’t give your opinion unless asked, and if asked just say something simple.
It’s not your job to teach them a lesson or hold up rating cards. They’ll work out their issues on their own, there’s probably a lot more to it you don’t know or want to know.
You can’t choose your family so just keep smiling
If you’re asked your opinion, give it without equivocation or apology. If you’re not asked, don’t volunteer it. If the subject turns to the baby, keep your mouth shut. You’ll say just as much by not saying anything at all.
It is clear this family member has made her decision. She has a right to do that. And you have a right to deal with her — and her decision — in any way you choose. If she demands the right to “be herself,” then she has to accord you the same courtesy, even if you disagree with her choices.
She has elected not to exist.
There is no need to support or even have her part of your or your children’s lives.
You do not need to buy her presents.
You do not need to endorse her choice of having a fatherless child via “congrats”.
Keep her away from your children.
Keep the door open if he ever reprents and finds her way back to normal. Until then, she has elected to exclude herself from the famil in favor of a sex fetish.
Not much you can do here. Best advice- let it go and take care of your own.
Since you have a small child, you can surely be fully distracted whenever in their presence so as to preclude having any kind of cohesive conversation. So I would suggest you try to avoid any conversation about their pregnancy and expecting status, and talk about the weather, yourself, how busy the holidays are for you, etc., to the point they try to get away from you.
What a difficult situation. The problem with just being all loving, while not liking the situation, gives the impression that you are supportive. I wouldn’t continue to spend time with the relative for fear that your child, or another family member will be influenced by a loved family member. Shut the door on sinful lifestyles! Protect your child and your beliefs! The world will constantly be teaching “tolerance” of homosexuality... they don’t need anymore encouragement at home. That said, I’d continue to correspond on email with the relative without letting them be an influential part of my family’s life.
Just treat them like family if they are family. Everyone has an issue or another. I often think about the whole, pulling the plank out of your own eye verse.
Is she aware that you don’t approve of her situation? As a Christian, you should be kind to her but at the same time, she’s not entitled to your approval for the decisions she makes in her personal life.
The closest I’ve been to a similar situation was when I worked for a company where one of the managers and her lesbian girlfriend were having an IVF child. What was annoying was the way they expected the folks at the office to give approval to this. I thought they were clearly crossing a boundary there since we were just her co-workers not necessarily her friends.
Only thing to do with a family member is try to love them, and let them know it. You might explain that you don’t want your children exposed to homosexuality, and ask her to respect that. If she can’t, it might be time to part ways. Your responsibility is towards your children first.
Why not accept the fact that not everyone will be the way you want them to be?
I have a sister who is a lesbian, and unfortunately also an Obama supporter. It's not much of a problem, since she lives in the midwest.