Is she aware that you don’t approve of her situation? As a Christian, you should be kind to her but at the same time, she’s not entitled to your approval for the decisions she makes in her personal life.
The closest I’ve been to a similar situation was when I worked for a company where one of the managers and her lesbian girlfriend were having an IVF child. What was annoying was the way they expected the folks at the office to give approval to this. I thought they were clearly crossing a boundary there since we were just her co-workers not necessarily her friends.
what if it turned out she had decided to become a cultist who worshiped [insert evil here]?
Obviously there would be no supportive fakery about that. This hedonist has TOTAL authority over her natural offspring and there is no doubt she will teach this child to hate christians or anything that does not support the homosexual agenda.
there is no suffer fools gladly exception to family.