It’s not your place to tell her how to live her life or who she can see.
Does she tell you how to live your life?
Been there, seen that. There are more important things in life than worrying about how someone else enjoys their life.
Well stated.
You can either accept the things you can’t change, and have the family member in your life; or you can overstep the line and alienate that family for the rest of your life.
I would sort of just... deal with it, blood being thicker than water and all that.
“It’s not your place to tell her how to live her life or who she can see.”
You could always follow your own advice and not post in the thread.
I’m just saying...
Did you read the post? The poster isn't asking how to make them change.
re: “It’s not your place to tell her how to live her life or who she can see.”
Where did she do that in her post?
re: “Does she tell you how to live your life?”
Where in her post is she telling her how to live??
re: “There are more important things in life than worrying about how someone else enjoys their life.”
That’s not what she asked. She is asking for advice on how to deal with this issue for herself and her immediate family - not on how to make the other person change her lifestyle.
Does she tell you how to live your life?
You completely missed her point. Her question was about how to handle the situation with the pregnancy with regard to what to tell her child, how to avoid being put in a position where she either had to appear supportive (when she isn't) or be very open about her opposition to the situation, etc.
I would be as open with my child as appropriate based on his/her age. I would try to explain that cousin Suzie's "friend" is having a baby, but I would not tell the child that the new baby would have 2 mommies. I would acknowledge the event without expressing approval - no "Congratulations" or baby shower gifts - this is not a situation to be celebrated, and more than any child deliberating born out of wedlock is. Of course, once the baby was born, I would treat the baby with the same love and affection I would treat any other child - the baby is not responsible for the decisions of his or her parent.
I think the most important thing is not to allow your children to see this as "normal". It is okay to explain to them that, although we love cousin Suzie, the way she is living is not according to God's law, and we need to pray for her every day that she comes to repentance and a restoration of a relationship with God.