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This is why recognizing the following makes a marriage pretty much unbreakable no matter what:
1. Recognize your marriage as a sacrament, not a business arrangement.
2. Recognize that if you are called to marriage, it is your vocation. It is who you are in the eyes of God.
3. Remember the vows you took at your wedding. Think about what they meant, and understand these vows are for life, unbreakable, and if you try and void one (whether its how you treat your spouse, whether you are accepting your children or aborting them, or if you are raising them up according to the precepts of the church) you are discoupling your marriage vows from your marraige and look out below when that happens
4. Understand that your vocation is a vehicle of grace for you, and YOU are a vehicle of grace for your spouse. You are dependent upon one another to achieve heaven together. Do NOT be an obsticle to your spouse.
5. Love is a choice, not a feeling. Jesus taught us that in the Passion. He did not skip and dance His way to Calvary. He embraced His cross because His love was absolute. WHILE we were sinners, He gave His life for us. Can we do less for our spouse, even when we wake up, look over at them, and wonder, what was I thinking??? No, love is a choice, choose it every day, especially after you promise to.
Remember these things, and most importantly, remember that marriage is between 3 not 2. Christ is the head of every marriage.
I read this, but I have no idea what they are trying to say.
You've got that right. My husband is my best friend.
Of course, another challenge to married couples is liberals trying to profane the institution and render those sacred vows meaningless. But of course they’re not going to touch that at a big PC university. The gaystapo would smash in all their windows, after all.
A husband and wife came for counseling after 20 years of marriage. When asked what the problem was, the wife went into a passionate, painful tirade listing every problem they had ever had in the 20 years they had been married.
She went on and on and on: neglect, lack of intimacy, emptiness, loneliness, feeling unloved and unlovable, an entire laundry list of unmet needs she had endured over the course of their marriage.
Finally, after allowing this to go on for a sufficient length of time, the therapist got up, walked around the desk and, after asking the wife to stand, embraced and kissed her passionately as her husband watched with a raised eyebrow. The woman shut up and quietly sat down as though in a daze.
The therapist turned to the husband and said, “This is
what your wife needs at least three times a week. Can you do this?”
The husband thought for a moment and replied, “Well, I can drop her off here on Mondays and Wednesdays,
but on Fridays, I fish.”
I'm glad I waited until my early 30's; if I'd have married some of the girls I dated in my 20s, I would have certainly turned into a statistic.
Too many people seem to have the notion that being married means continual bliss without effort. Bliss can occur, but not without WORKING, every day, to keep the relationship alive.
New Afghan law does not allow marital rape...
but lets men refuse to feed wives who deny them sex
Daily Mail [UK] | 17th April 2009 | Mail Foreign Service
Posted on 04/22/2009 12:00:33 PM PDT by Slings and Arrows
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/2235412/posts
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Man hires impotent neighbour to impregnate his wife... then sues
Yahoo! News via Newsvine | Tue Apr 21, 2009 | None given
Posted on 04/21/2009 4:14:16 PM PDT by TenthAmendmentChampion
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/2234715/posts
I married a woman who completely supported me before marriage, encouraged me to spread my wings, told me my career was important to us, and would follow me anywhere. I fell for it, and her.
Then I got married, and she pulled the rug out from under me. I had to adapt to her plan, period. My career was not important at all. I was just one little square in her giant checkerboard. Husband? Check.
Needless to say, I am divorced. Most painful period in my life. It is absolutely shocking to discover that you not only have been duped, but that your friends knew it beforehand.
“Why didn’t you tell me this before I got married to her?”
“Would you have listened?”
(humble voice) “Nope.”
Cathexis is fleeting.